Helping an alcoholic

[Marthinus100]

Ey guys bit of a personal issue, but I dont know what to do anymore.

So my mom is an alcoholic. I had her in rehab and she has been sober since january. My dad passed away 2 years back so she is very lonely. She has this "friend" thats my big problem. She is secretly smuggling alcohol to my mom.I live 1200km away and this happens when my sister is at work during day time. My sister lives with her.
I went to fetch my mom she twice since she got out of rehab, I took her home this weekend and today the shiz started again. I asked a friend of my moms to stay with her for a while but this other women is just ignoring her and being very rude. My mom does not want to stop phoning her to come over.
How do I get rid of her? Court order wont help, cause I dont live there or can I get one. I have phoned that POS a few times to tell her to foff but she cleary is to dumb to understand. Seriously she is faaking stupid.

Please give me advice on this.

 

[Waaib]

Do you think your Mom's friend thinks she's helping your Mom? Maybe the friend cares about her and doesn't like to see her suffer even though she is hurting her.

 

[buyeye]

What did your sister say?

 

[killadoob]

Having gone through a father who was an alcoholic there is nothing anyone can do for them. It took two burst alcirs and the doctor telling my dad one more and he is dead. Now he only has 1/3 of his old tum tum but has not touched an alcoholic beverage in 11 years.

It's the age old story that goes along the lines of they need to realize they need help, until they do there is nothing you can do.

 

[Devill]

Ey guys bit of a personal issue, but I dont know what to do anymore.

So my mom is an alcoholic. I had her in rehab and she has been sober since january. My dad passed away 2 years back so she is very lonely. She has this "friend" thats my big problem. She is secretly smuggling alcohol to my mom.I live 1200km away and this happens when my sister is at work during day time. My sister lives with her.
I went to fetch my mom she twice since she got out of rehab, I took her home this weekend and today the shiz started again. I asked a friend of my moms to stay with her for a while but this other women is just ignoring her and being very rude. My mom does not want to stop phoning her to come over.
How do I get rid of her? Court order wont help, cause I dont live there or can I get one. I have phoned that POS a few times to tell her to foff but she cleary is to dumb to understand. Seriously she is faaking stupid.

Please give me advice on this.

Get a restraining order against the "friend".

 

[noxibox]

Basically you can't help your mother unless she wants to stop or learn to control her excessive consumption.

Do you think your Mom's friend thinks she's helping your Mom? Maybe the friend cares about her and doesn't like to see her suffer even though she is hurting her.

Or just as likely this friend gets called because they'll bring alcohol. And will be replaced with someone else or some other means of getting alcohol if legal action is taken against the friend.