How do you get over anger and hurt?

I go and take it out on something. Get a boxing bag they work wonders. I used to break things, then wife bought me the boxing bag and now it has paid for itself already :D
 
However you do it, don't take too long to get it out of your system. Move on as quickly as you can. And whatever you do, don't hold onto it.
 
You were hurt. Now you also feel upset about it. Pretty soon you realize being upset is just shooting yourself in the foot by being emotional. It doesn't help at all...quite the opposite.
 
I like to play online and take my frustration out by shooting people.. This only works if you actually good at the game, or else you gunna lose and get more angry..
 
Go for an enema? :D

On a serious note though, just take a deep breath and give it time. If "extremely" means beyond reproach, then cut that person out of your life and leave it at that. If "extremely" means, "just right now" then scream into a pillow, have a cup of tea to ease the sore throat and once again, give it time :p
 
Boxing Bag +1... best way to forget all about it...
 
The 5 stages of grief ... make sure you get through them all :)

1) Denial
2) Anger
3) Bargaining
4) Depression
5) Acceptance

I'm assuming you're going through a break-up. The sooner you experience each stage and tick it off, the sooner you're on the road to recovery. Failing which, punch something really FSCKING hard. :)
 
You honestly think you going to get help here? Or are you just seeking attention?
 
zadbnguy said:
Oh and the punch something for your own good. Not good for you!!!!
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Dude it works wonders. Even better if you can punch the guilty party. Which is never this case since 99.99% it's a female that causes our frustration :D
But in that 00.01% chance that it's a guy, you feel instant relief the moment your fist crunches his face :D
 
Just try and cut out emotions&feelings. That's what I've done. (not good on the long run though)
 
Jamal said:
There is a person I feel extremely hurt by and angry with.

How can I move on?
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You just have moved a step or two on, by admitting that you are hurt, and then by admitting that you are angry.

It hurts to hurt hey ?
Now, you understand emotional pain. It is a very valuable lesson.

You are angry. That is a reaction to the emotional pain you're feeling.
It is a natural reaction.

Anger is the first band-aid we apply to emotional hurt. Good.

The next step is to work out, exactly what it is that hurt you and why you are angry, how did it all go down,
troubleshooting for understanding from an outsiders point of view, this lets you get perspective.

Talking about it to a close friend also helps you get perspective, or to stranger on a forum, like here.

It's okay to mope around a bit and feel sorry for yourself, after all, you were hurt, and you probably have an urge to lash out or make the other person hurt as much as you are hurting.

Lashing out is the last thing you should. It will provide a very temporary high and will soon leave you feeling weak, pathetic and angrier (with yourself) than before.

Unfortunately it's only after experiencing intense emotional hurt that we understand what it is, from this, you should gain a new understanding of peoples feelings and emotions, if you hurt this much then other people do too, and understand that intense feelings of love cause intense feelings of hurt, and most people try and hide how fragile they really are emotionally.

You can use the anger to be more creative or to make changes in your life.
Anger is a powerful state of mind and provides you with extra energy.

Instead of letting this life lesson drag you down, let it make you stronger and more mature.

People hurt each other, sometimes maliciousely, but mostly without intending to, people have different expectations, limits, ways, attitudes, but in the end it's up to you to get to know exactly what you need, want and expect from yourself and other people around you.
 
wrathex said:
You just have moved a step or two on, by admitting that you are hurt, and then by admitting that you are angry.

It hurts to hurt hey ?
Now, you understand emotional pain. It is a very valuable lesson.

You are angry. That is a reaction to the emotional pain you're feeling.
It is a natural reaction.

Anger is the first band-aid we apply to emotional hurt. Good.

The next step is to work out, exactly what it is that hurt you and why you are angry, how did it all go down,
troubleshooting for understanding from an outsiders point of view, this lets you get perspective.

Talking about it to a close friend also helps you get perspective, or to stranger on a forum, like here.

It's okay to mope around a bit and feel sorry for yourself, after all, you were hurt, and you probably have an urge to lash out or make the other person hurt as much as you are hurting.

Lashing out is the last thing you should. It will provide a very temporary high and will soon leave you feeling weak, pathetic and angrier (with yourself) than before.

Unfortunately it's only after experiencing intense emotional hurt that we understand what it is, from this, you should gain a new understanding of peoples feelings and emotions, if you hurt this much then other people do too, and understand that intense feelings of love cause intense feelings of hurt, and most people try and hide how fragile they really are emotionally.

You can use the anger to be more creative or to make changes in your life.
Anger is a powerful state of mind and provides you with extra energy.

Instead of letting this life lesson drag you down, let it make you stronger and more mature.

People hurt each other, sometimes maliciousely, but mostly without intending to, people have different expectations, limits, ways, attitudes, but in the end it's up to you to get to know exactly what you need, want and expect from yourself and other people around you.
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Watch is your going-rate per hour? :) ---> Good advice!
 
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