How long is it acceptable to let someone...

[Batista]

..live with you until they find a house of their own?

Now what if said persons job is an estate agent?

Now what if you had to switch that extra geyser on and its costing an extra R1500 a month thats coming out of YOUR own pocket.

Now,you cant use your bar anymore cos all their schit is taking up all the space - meaning no more inviting the boys over for boys night.

Thoughts pls.

/rant

 

[w1z4rd]

What type of geyser costs R1500 a month to run?

 

[Electric]

Is this your wife? Mother? brother? Boyfriend? Dad? Friend?

 

[Dolby]

Is this your wife? Mother? brother? Boyfriend? Dad? Friend?

Yea - it depends who someone is

 

[Lupus]

A month if that, but I was screwed over by a brother in law who managed to pawn about 30k worth of my stuff. Police did diddly squat to

 

[Pho3nix]

..live with you until they find a house of their own?

Now what if said persons job is an estate agent?

Now what if you had to switch that extra geyser on and its costing an extra R1500 a month thats coming out of YOUR own pocket.

Now,you cant use your bar anymore cos all their schit is taking up all the space - meaning no more inviting the boys over for boys night.

Thoughts pls.

/rant

Family ~ unlimited.
Friend ~ 3 months is kinda pushing it.

 

[OrbitalDawn]

Yeah, definitely depends who the person is. But tell them to contribute (if they're able to) or gtfo.

 

[Batista]

What type of geyser costs R1500 a month to run?

Its not only the geyser, its extra water and electricity consumption aswell.

 

[Wall]

Family ~ unlimited.
Friend ~ 3 months is kinda pushing it.

pretty much agree..

 

[Beachless]

Just make them pay rent if they want to stay longer than a week increasing the amount the longer they stay.

People are way too lax on taking advantage of others. However if its someone close who is unable to look after themselves my opinion changes.

 

[Batista]

Is this your wife? Mother? brother? Boyfriend? Dad? Friend?

Mom in law.

A month if that, but I was screwed over by a brother in law who managed to pawn about 30k worth of my stuff. Police did diddly squat to

Sorry man.

Yeah, definitely depends who the person is. But tell them to contribute (if they're able to) or gtfo.

Its been a full year of this already.

 

[Electric]

A month if that, but I was screwed over by a brother in law who managed to pawn about 30k worth of my stuff. Police did diddly squat to

Get a shiv.

 

[Electric]

Mom in law.

Sorry man.

Its been a full year of this already.

Mom-in-law is a touchy subject.
I'd have told her to f-off but then never received any love from the wife again.

 

[Venomous]

Family ~ unlimited.
Friend ~ 3 months is kinda pushing it.

pretty much agree..

nope.

family like siblings or parents I would let them know they must contribute even if only by doing house work etc.. and they must show incentive to look for work (different if retired parents). I will assist on job searches

friends: better help in home, pay for their share of food, elec, water etc (bond or rent being paid with or without them there, so no diffence if they don't pay rent then, just "living expenses"). They must show/report on job hunting so I can see effort applied. Max 3 months then out.
can be extended max 2 months if say looking for accom if job is found right at the end of 3rd month.

 

[Johnatan56]

Mom in law.

Sorry man.

Its been a full year of this already.

A year is long enough, go tell her to find her own place. You could even suggest a few places, but be sure to talk with your partner first.

 

[ShaunSA]

Get used to it bud. She isn't ever moving out.

How does your partner feel about it btw?

 

[Batista]

Im just feeling really close to the edge and fear that im going to say something that cant be unsaid.Every month I hear the same story about how difficult it is to find a suitable house.

 

[Lupus]

Get a shiv.

Oh I wanted to I really did but my wife made a good point why let me sit in jail while he gets away with it.
So reported him to the police with his location and what he'd done. 8 months later nothing has been done.
Now she's like you should have beaten him up. OP kick the free loader out you've been more then accommodating

 

[Pitbull]

Mom in law.

Sorry man.

Its been a full year of this already.

Build her a flat, with a prepaid meter.

Does she cook and look after the kids?

 

[Electric]

Ok so it's not an issue of finance, it's more about not finding a suitable house?
She's stringing you along.
Your wife is allowing it which is the first problem.
If she's ok with it you're going to have a major fight on your hands.