I'm Freaking out :(

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FaNIX

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So my boyfriend is in America, and is only coming back on Wednesday. It's been more than 10 days, and now the fighting is starting again, I think something is up, something he did, I'm never wrong and I can hear it in his voice... but off course he denies that anything is happened... I'm going f@cking insane :( losing it completely :(
 
Don't freak out.... its literally the worst thing you can do...

And IF something has happened, ultimately (even though it doesn't seem that way right now) you are better off without him...
 
sigh,

Fanix why is it that whenever one of your loved ones go abroad they get laid by someone else ? Are you doing something wrong ?


Seriously, relax. What ever happened if any at all happened. If you probe for it you will find it. Rather just let it go and there will be nothing to find ;) Just my advice tbh. If you want to know you will prob find out, break up and end up alone :( But if that is what you want, that is what you will get.
 
Last week I remembered he had a myspace, but last accessed it in 2007. So search for his Profile on Myspace, and saw that he logged in, and added a "new" friend, conveniently from the same little town in US where he is now... WTF... how can that not fire any alarms?
 
Pitbull said:
sigh,

Fanix why is it that whenever one of your loved ones go abroad they get laid by someone else ? Are you doing something wrong ?


Seriously, relax. What ever happened if any at all happened. If you probe for it you will find it. Rather just let it go and there will be nothing to find ;) Just my advice tbh. If you want to know you will prob find out, break up and end up alone :( But if that is what you want, that is what you will get.
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Dude, I dont know!!!! It's insane, I think there is something like caring to much. As soon as you give everything, and do everything that a faithful boyfriend/girlfriend should do, they go bonkers and cheat... And I mean, it's been over 14months now, there is f@cking something there for it to last this long... ffs... and now he is sleeping, because it's 05:30am and I can't even phone him...
 
Hope you don't mind a few questions for background ...

How old are you?
How old is he?
How long you been seeing him?
Live together?
 
FaNIX said:
Last week I remembered he had a myspace, but last accessed it in 2007. So search for his Profile on Myspace, and saw that he logged in, and added a "new" friend, conveniently from the same little town in US where he is now... WTF... how can that not fire any alarms?
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He met someone on a business trip and would like to be friends with this person beyond the trip he has there now. Is that so hard to believe ? Why do you now just assume he slept with him ?
 
Pitbull said:
He met someone on a business trip and would like to be friends with this person beyond the trip he has there now. Is that so hard to believe ? Why do you now just assume he slept with him ?
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Because he has a history regarding this Pitbull, I can't forgive and forget every time.. I know we are guys, and it would probably cross my mind as well, but I will never go that far as to actually doing it :(
 
[Whoohoo!! I thought today was going to boring. This one looks like it's got legs...]
 
Trust me on this one: No Trust, No Relationship!

I spent a good 4 months out of the year away form home in Germany... wife trusts me and i trust the wife ....
 
FaNIX said:
Because he has a history regarding this Pitbull, I can't forgive and forget every time.. I know we are guys, and it would probably cross my mind as well, but I will never go that far as to actually doing it :(
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If he has done this kinda thing before you should have left him back then already and you would not have had to worry now ;)

remybfg10k said:
When you expect the worst, the worst happens...
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+1

If he knows you're going to assume he slept with someone he might as well do it cos the outcome is the same ;)
 
FaNIX said:
On my way home now, will continue to cry once i'm there :(
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:(

I have no idea why partners do what they do at times, without thinking of there supposed loved one. I think you get some people that are just very dynamic, outgoing and want change constantly. They get bored easily and need something else in their lives to spice things up.

Cheating - or at least sneaking around gives them that. This could be sneaking around and not cheating? Perhaps he likes the attention - but wouldn't do anything?

I had a girlfriend once that - in my eyes - loved attention from guys and yet I trusted her not to go any further.
 
Fast deletion of the post ;) Was actually just about to reply ...
 
FaNIX said:
So my boyfriend is in America, and is only coming back on Wednesday. It's been more than 10 days, and now the fighting is starting again, I think something is up, something he did, I'm never wrong and I can hear it in his voice... but off course he denies that anything is happened... I'm going f@cking insane :( losing it completely :(
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Men are sloppy, they not only leave their socks lying about the and the toilet seat up, but they always leave a trail when cheating...always.

Check his emails. If you don't know password then ask for advice on this forum on how to set up a keylogger on his pc.

His mobile. Check his phone as often as possible, texts, incoming and outgoing calls look for foreign numbers.

If you have a landline then check for any phone calls from and to the USA. Don't ask him about the numbers, but dial them from a call box or a landline other than your own so as not to arouse suspicion.

For a small fee you can get a professional to bug his mobile, he'll never notice cause its inside and the size of a pin head.

Don't just sit with doubts and fear. Put your energy into something, like catching him red handed because he will slip up. If your b/f wants to play smartass then its time to get even.
 
JHatman said:
Men are sloppy, they not only leave their socks lying about the and the toilet seat up, but they always leave a trail when cheating...always.

Check his emails. If you don't know password then ask for advice on this forum on how to set up a keylogger on his pc.

His mobile. Check his phone as often as possible, texts, incoming and outgoing calls look for foreign numbers.

If you have a landline then check for any phone calls from and to the USA. Don't ask him about the numbers, but dial them from a call box or a landline other than your own so as not to arouse suspicion.

For a small fee you can get a professional to bug his mobile, he'll never notice cause its inside and the size of a pin head.

Don't just sit with doubts and fear. Put your energy into something, like catching him red handed because he will slip up. If your b/f wants to play smartass then its time to get even.
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Ah! Post Back!

I agree with you ; many won't though. Privacy etc
 
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