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[Ho3n3r]

I don't think people here recognise what sleep deprivation does to a person. Not justifying hurting people, but it ****s your mind up. The longest I've gone without sleep was 2.5 days, and I felt like I could murder someone even though nobody did anything wrong.

Your brain needs sleep every day to process things, and to recover. 2 weeks, even if you get a 30 minute nap in, is way too long to be sleep-deprived.

So, my sympathies to OP.

 

[grok]

Our first was a colic baby who cried all.the.time. I remember coming home one day after work and the wife said those exact words.. 'take her else i'm going to throw her against the wall.'

It's rough but it gets better. Like you cannot even imagine the joy while they are growing up. Today she's a wonderful young adult.

You seriously need a break. Make a plan or call in a favor if you have to.

 

[Lupus]

I've had no sleep for two days as well and by the end of the second one I could feel like I could kill something.
But op you need sleep. You'll need to also get someone to look after baby for a bit.

 

[johnjm]

Sorry I am being harsh. But the above statement pissed me the **** off

A lot of people go through that, mothers included. It’s why one needs a support structure.

I have 3 kids and it isn’t easy with a first child especially. My third is an angel though but her mother is a queen, I’m lucky, so I can see where there OP is coming from, I would be completely overwhelmed if I was by myself with a first born.

OP will look back and laugh, actually, he won’t even remember this stage in a few years.

 

[satanboy]

I am glad that you are sharing this experience because some people think having a baby is like a new toy.

 

[SauRoNZA]

I am glad that you are sharing this experience because some people think having a baby is like a new toy.

Ja there is nothing more condescending than the ones who struck it very lucky with the quiet, easy kid who goes to bed exactly on time and stays there that want to tell you how easy it should be.

 

[FatBoySlim]

I get murderous rages all the time, especially when I see a taxi.

 

[OCP]

With our first I felt like a gopher for the first 6 months or so.
My always calm and patient wife was irritable/unreasonable and the lack/interruption of sleep was a killer.

Considering we had no fuss/problem pregnancies I feel for the OP as his situation is 100x worse.

I hope he is able to get help asap.

 

[Craig_]

Ja there is nothing more condescending than the ones who struck it very lucky with the quiet, easy kid who goes to bed exactly on time and stays there that want to tell you how easy it should be.

I was that cnt with my first kid, then number two came...

 

[SauRoNZA]

I was that cnt with my first kid, then number two came...

My first kid was the cnt, so number two was the revelation to finally understand what all these cnts were talking about with their ninja kids that didn't bounce off the walls, kept quiet and went to bed on time and stayed there.

 

[Craig_]

My first kid was the cnt, so number two was the revelation to finally understand what all these cnts were talking about with their ninja kids that didn't bounce off the walls, kept quiet and went to bed on time and stayed there.

If we had my son first, we would have stopped by one. In fact, I closed the factory down not to long after his birth. Couldn't see myself going through that again.

Edit: barely finished typing that and he built a fort with a few chairs in the lounge, stacked the chairs high, blanket over, and then it fell over with him at the top. Eish.

 

[Corelli]

Lets say you sound like a moron and like my one neighbour before I moved abroad. He was spongueing off his gf and cheated on her. When she got pregnant he booted her out and refused to assist with anything. Since she is now a big boss at a new company he wants her back, just cause he has money.

So my advice for you. Pull ureself together. Its not about partying or smokes or anything. Its really about your son. As the parent your main priority is your kid and after 2 years the pooh in the potty or toilet and the bring you pictures home and love you no matter what. They will cuddle you in bed and think youre their superman. Wake the f up dude.

You can look for a full day day mother or childcare.

Kids are the best. I had to change both my kids nappies24/7. Made them formula even 3am whenever hungry. Fed them cleaned nappies etc. That passed quick. Now they are the coolest.

However if you cant handle speak to your and her parents and decide a way forward. Because if you do hurt your child i will personally come after everything you have and death wouldnt come sooner.

If you want to see what a good dad does. Look at this.

Now to help if youre serious...

1. Get a goos formula (nestle nan)
2. Get a hot water flask and coldwater flask. Boil water and pour the hot water in the flask and rest in the cold water flask (tupperware). When you mix the formula make use a bit of both so the formula is mild. Makes it easier and bottle warmers are crap.
3. Invest in nappy towels. Theyre waterproof. Have some handy if baby want to throw up. They absorb and easy to clean. I found these indespensible.
4. Go for a drive. Babies love to sleep in their car seats. Even around the block.
5. Remember after feeding to lightly pat the baby back. This allow for air to be burbed out. Less constipation.
6. Buy some bibs and clothes from pep. U dont need fancy as baby outgrows it soo quick.
7. Get a changing mat rather than a changing mat on a cot. Works easier.
8. Avoid baby powder. Get fissan bum cream. It works well. Also avoids rashes.
9. Purity food works for some. Bananas for other but only intro food after 6 months. Get teejelly for the teething pain. Grumpy baby is grumpy parent.
10. Dont freak out or argue. Babies are insecure and panic when the parent does. Do this all with a poker face.
11. Always have nurofen and panado for babies nearby. Both are good for fever. You cant give it more than 6 hours at a time but you can give nurofen and if the fever doesnt calm down after 3 hours give panado. Theyre slightly different.
11. Get a good swinging chair (fisher price). Buckle them in. It helps with putting babies to sleep.
12. Do kangaroo care. Take off your shirt and hold baby to your chest. They will become more attached when older.
13. Take lots of pictures. They grow up fast.
14. Look for a full day daycare. Some take babies from 3 months and you drop them at 7am and pick up 5pm. It gives you time to rest.
15. Dont smoke around the baby. Not good for them.

If you follow these tricks you will score quickly. Get a combo pram baby carrier. Chico makes great stuff. Push baby around. They sleep easier.

Pigeon makes the best bottles.

Dont panic. And speak to your boss calmly. Unless their some crypto exchange that hates people with kids. They will be understanding.

 

[Corelli]

Take up baby modelling if you can. It can be a pain. But my kids covered their university fees in modelling money in 2 years. I put it slowly in tax free saving and both have 200k in savings now. And theyre still small

 

[The_Mowgs]

I hate every god damn second. Son started as a miscarriage , then he wasnt one and born 3 months early at 26 weeks. Operations, 3 months in nicu. Came out 2 weeks ago. Mom severe ptsd. Gets anxiety / panic attacks triggered when she sees our son.

So she cant look after him. I spent all my leave days and was due back to work yesterday. Had to take unpaid leave.

I am not programmed nor designed to sit with a child on my chest for 24 / 7.

He has severe reflux. Cant put him down, cant have a fking smoke in peace cause if i do put him down he vomits.

Sometimes i feel like just throwing him against the wall. I have not slept in 16 days. I hallucinate, i see double.

And my only option is to sit here and wait for the day i do go into a murderous rage.

I feel like murdering everyone. Or getting in my car and just drive until i run out of money. Men are not supposed to be single caregivers. Especially to a newborn premmie with medications, 3 hourly feeds and incapable of being put in a bed.

To top it all off i have to go sit at the place my wife is busy recovering at. So i drive home to go feed my now neglected dogs in the morning n the evenings.

I just spilled 2 of his bottles and half his fcking feed leaving him with a watery substance. Have u tried washing bottles, prepping feeds and cleaning syringes with one hand while holding a crying baby in the other.

Im so tired of this sht. I seriously doubt i will survive this another week.

I can better understand why that guy un auz murdered his 3 children the mother n grandma.

Ptsd + severe sleep deprivation really does a number on your mood.

I feel guilty for getting do frustrated. But here i am. Just after midnight, with son on chest, waiting.,, counting the minutes before i get to change another diaper, spill another feed. Counting the days, weeks or months that i might or might not get to take a fvking nap. 1 nap. 1 nap. 1

Just fvking one nap in 2 weeks is all i ask. Days are moments. Everything is one big blur. I cannot distinguish between the day he came home n now.

Im so extatic to think that there is no end in sight, tomorrow work is gonna start asking questions. And what do i say?

Oh sorry just give me another 3 years fvking leave until my wife recovers from het illness. Cool thx appreciate it

Only saw your thread now. Where are you from?

 

[johnjm]

Lets say you sound like a moron and like my one neighbour before I moved abroad. He was spongueing off his gf and cheated on her. When she got pregnant he booted her out and refused to assist with anything. Since she is now a big boss at a new company he wants her back, just cause he has money.

So my advice for you. Pull ureself together. Its not about partying or smokes or anything. Its really about your son. As the parent your main priority is your kid and after 2 years the pooh in the potty or toilet and the bring you pictures home and love you no matter what. They will cuddle you in bed and think youre their superman. Wake the f up dude.

You can look for a full day day mother or childcare.

Kids are the best. I had to change both my kids nappies24/7. Made them formula even 3am whenever hungry. Fed them cleaned nappies etc. That passed quick. Now they are the coolest.

However if you cant handle speak to your and her parents and decide a way forward. Because if you do hurt your child i will personally come after everything you have and death wouldnt come sooner.

If you want to see what a good dad does. Look at this.

Now to help if youre serious...

1. Get a goos formula (nestle nan)
2. Get a hot water flask and coldwater flask. Boil water and pour the hot water in the flask and rest in the cold water flask (tupperware). When you mix the formula make use a bit of both so the formula is mild. Makes it easier and bottle warmers are crap.
3. Invest in nappy towels. Theyre waterproof. Have some handy if baby want to throw up. They absorb and easy to clean. I found these indespensible.
4. Go for a drive. Babies love to sleep in their car seats. Even around the block.
5. Remember after feeding to lightly pat the baby back. This allow for air to be burbed out. Less constipation.
6. Buy some bibs and clothes from pep. U dont need fancy as baby outgrows it soo quick.
7. Get a changing mat rather than a changing mat on a cot. Works easier.
8. Avoid baby powder. Get fissan bum cream. It works well. Also avoids rashes.
9. Purity food works for some. Bananas for other but only intro food after 6 months. Get teejelly for the teething pain. Grumpy baby is grumpy parent.
10. Dont freak out or argue. Babies are insecure and panic when the parent does. Do this all with a poker face.
11. Always have nurofen and panado for babies nearby. Both are good for fever. You cant give it more than 6 hours at a time but you can give nurofen and if the fever doesnt calm down after 3 hours give panado. Theyre slightly different.
11. Get a good swinging chair (fisher price). Buckle them in. It helps with putting babies to sleep.
12. Do kangaroo care. Take off your shirt and hold baby to your chest. They will become more attached when older.
13. Take lots of pictures. They grow up fast.
14. Look for a full day daycare. Some take babies from 3 months and you drop them at 7am and pick up 5pm. It gives you time to rest.
15. Dont smoke around the baby. Not good for them.

If you follow these tricks you will score quickly. Get a combo pram baby carrier. Chico makes great stuff. Push baby around. They sleep easier.

Pigeon makes the best bottles.

Dont panic. And speak to your boss calmly. Unless their some crypto exchange that hates people with kids. They will be understanding.

Are you available for night shifts ? Say yes

 

[Venomous]

Are you available for night shifts ? Say yes

That poster should have all internet removed from them.

 

[Ninja'd]

That poster should have all internet removed from them.

But that means we'll only have sajunky to entertain us.

 

[Venomous]

But that means we'll only have sajunky to entertain us.

Ok then they need to be blocked from threads like these

 

[ToxicBunny]

Ok then they need to be blocked from threads like these

Nah.. They need to be allowed to wade in and make themselves look like idiots... It adds a bit of humor to an otherwise very dark and serious thread... The op needs a bit of humor in his life...

 

[Venomous]

Nah.. They need to be allowed to wade in and make themselves look like idiots... It adds a bit of humor to an otherwise very dark and serious thread... The op needs a bit of humor in his life...

Then this would be a better post....