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crocopede said:
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I am spiritual but not religious. My parents are christian but the lekka kind that does not care what you choose to believe in. The wife's parents and herself are Hindu.

Me and the misses agreed to raise our son Buddhist. However her parents want to teach him Hinduism, to which i object saying its going to confuse him if his parents teach him one thing and the grandparents another. My parents have respect for our decision and but that c3nt mother in law has no respect for anything.

And we cant keep him away from them, but for now i will never leave him unattended with them.
I dont fully understand why her mother has to be such a c3ntbag all the time and just accept that i do not believe her gods and move the fck along.

If anyone has some pearls of wisdom to share before i punch that thing in her stupid face. That would be nice.
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Why is it necessary to indoctrinate your child at all though?
 
A child should be guided, but then allowed to choose when old enough.
Forcing a child into your belief will only make them recent that belief later in life.
 
crocopede said:
Hi

I am spiritual but not religious. My parents are christian but the lekka kind that does not care what you choose to believe in. The wife's parents and herself are Hindu.

Me and the misses agreed to raise our son Buddhist. However her parents want to teach him Hinduism, to which i object saying its going to confuse him if his parents teach him one thing and the grandparents another. My parents have respect for our decision and but that c3nt mother in law has no respect for anything.

And we cant keep him away from them, but for now i will never leave him unattended with them.
I dont fully understand why her mother has to be such a c3ntbag all the time and just accept that i do not believe her gods and move the fck along.

If anyone has some pearls of wisdom to share before i punch that thing in her stupid face. That would be nice.
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You can very easily tell them to back off or they won't see your kid. Easy. If they are providing some sort of financial assistance, they you should work to end this. Your mental health state will be better off.

From your angry post, maybe you should follow the tenets of Buddhism before you try to teach them to your child.
 
crocopede said:
Me and the misses agreed to raise our son Buddhist.
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So ...Buddhism is not a religion. There is absolutely no part of Buddhism that can even be classified as a religion in the sense of what we define as religion.

Why force any sort of way of life or belief system on a child in the first place.
That being said .... i don't see how their opinions factor in at all in the upbringing of your child.
 
crocopede said:
If anyone has some pearls of wisdom to share before i punch that thing in her stupid face. That would be nice.
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Following my comment on top - I'd say...punch her in her stupid face.

Anybody that wants to force their belief on to a child should be punched in the face all day every day
If you vote for a political party - would you force your child, when they are of voting age, to vote for that same party.
And voting for a political party is trivial compared to forcing a child to believe something you believe for all of their childhood and possibly well in to their adult lives.

just my thoughts on that subject
 
The way you plan on doing it, just teach him everything all the stories that might guide him and proof valuable in this life. It doesn't really matter he doesn't have to be any specific religion, he can be all of them.

Or raise him as a Christian.
 
Why the **** would you want to teach him Buddhism if you yourself don't practice it? Makes zero sense.

Why not just teach him nothing at all then?

Also they are YOUR children not the grand parent's.



There is also really nothing to confuse. Let them teach him/her whatever they want and you teach them whatever you want and ultimately the kid will be better for that diversity and can make their own educated decision.

I'm Atheist and so is my wife and the grand parents are Christian. Kids in class range from Christian to Muslim to Hindu and although it's a Christian centered school (to my ire) they are very open and everyone knows everyone's "Gods" and quite respectful about it all.

My 4-year old came home last week to say they had a party for "Jesus's Birthday" because that is X in the class's God.

I thought it was pretty cute and very balanced this coming from an Atheist who would prefer no religious teaching whatsoever.

I would highly recommend avoiding any concept of formally teaching your kid anything. Let them ask their own questions and pick things up as they go along. If there is anything that pushed me away from religious in the was the formal/forced manner in which it was presented to me.
 
MEIOT said:
So ...Buddhism is not a religion. There is absolutely no part of Buddhism that can even be classified as a religion in the sense of what we define as religion.

Why force any sort of way of life or belief system on a child in the first place.
That being said .... i don't see how their opinions factor in at all in the upbringing of your child.
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Sure believe that all you want from the books you've read.

Then go to an actually Buddhism country and experience the worship of Buddha and you'll very quickly change your mind.

What the books say and what the world does are two very different things.

It's the same ritualistic worship as any other religion.

****

But probably the best of them all and an amazing "human" experience at that to share with thousands of people.
 
if the grandparents want you to raise the child with there religion tell them that that is fine, you will have no problem putting the child up for adoption and then when the parents adopt your children, they can raise them however they want.

really why are you involving the grandparents in the raising of the children's lives at all? If they think they can tell you how to raise them then they really have problems with respecting your boundaries as parents and then you need to remove them from the situation.

Me and the misses agreed to raise our son Buddhist. However her parents want to teach him Hinduism, to which i object saying its going to confuse him if his parents teach him one thing and the grandparents another. My parents have respect for our decision and but that c3nt mother in law has no respect for anything.
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remove her from the situation, flat out refuse her access to your child. if your wife finds this unacceptable then she is more or less married to her mother not to you. If your woman respects your decision, problem solved, if she does not, you know where you stand and then you need to GTFO.

If your wife / gf / whatever has more respect for the will of her mother than yours, she basically has no respect for you at all. No marriage can be successful like that, so again if that happens GTFO and get yourself a woman that respects your opinions.

A lot of buddhists don't eat meat so you'd have to raise him as vegeterian just to stay safe.
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the Dalia Lama himself eats meat but that is more of a practical consideration as no real vegetables can be grown in the Himalayas.

Bryn said:
Why is it necessary to indoctrinate your child at all though?
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does everybody who raises children in a world. view others than yours indoctrinate their children? OP came here with a real problem and you say **** things like that
 
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Raise them to believe what they want, since you can't please anybody. Hopefully it gives him enough common sense to be agnostic.
 
crocopede said:
That's the point of Buddhism.



Da fck?



The point of Buddhism is the opposite of indoctrination.
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It is very clear to me you know absolutely nothing about Buddhism.

Maybe you should learn about it yourself before deciding to impose it on your child (badly) for no good reason whatsoever.

It's an indoctrination much like any other, although with milder context of peace and general understanding and respect for others.

You could simply teach him the same principles of morality without attaching Buddhism to the mix.

****

Also considering you called your mother in a law a cuntbag in the very first post and have that perception of her I think you are going to have a very hard (read impossible) time of teaching your kid the principles of Buddhism and the Noble Truths there of.
 
crocopede said:
lol

Yes i know i should. But there are far more issues than the religion issue.
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Then I suggest that you stop taking your child to see her until she fixes the behaviour problems. This issue is probably going to fester and fester. Your wife may not be happy, but it's better than the fallout that is going to happen down the line.
 
SauRoNZA said:
It is very clear to me you know absolutely nothing about Buddhism.

Maybe you should learn about it yourself before deciding to impose it on your child (badly) for no good reason whatsoever.

It's an indoctrination much like any other, although with milder context of peace and general understanding and respect for others.

You could simply teach him the same principles of morality without attaching Buddhism to the mix.
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Do you like it when people tell you how to raise your kids?
 
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