Maintenance Issue (Hypothetical)

[longboy]

It's easy to go to court with a fake loan agreement that you have with a family member, saying that half your income goes to paying off this load. Courts don't seem to be bothered with going in and checking

This is why you need to hire a lawyer who specialises in divorce and maintenance issues. The cost is well worth it since they can get you a great deal off monthly payments to the exwhore.

 

[SAguy]

This is why you need to hire a lawyer who specialises in divorce and maintenance issues. The cost is well worth it since they can get you a great deal off monthly payments to the exwhore.

Oh trust me, he's spent thousands and thousands on lawyers. The exwife's family is loaded and has better lawyers.

 

[TofuMofu]

Having kids sounds like such a schlep...an expensive schlep.

 

[pinball wizard]

Having kids sounds like such a schlep...an expensive schlep.

Yeah. Very often it's similar to being a taxpayer watching SAA get bailouts.

 

[vigras rojara]

The ex-wife got the daughter to write a letter saying she is not capable of handling money and her mom handles all her financial affairs. Yet she's completed varsity and has a job of her own.

The mom claims that she is not able to maintain a certain lifestyle on her own salary alone, so my dad still needs to pay.

Up until now courts have fully agreed.

Sounds as if he should emigrate...

 

[SAguy]

Sounds as if he should emigrate...

Or hire someone to take care of his problem

 

[syntax]

I’ve always been of the perception that courts are out to get the fathers in situation like these. We hear story after story of the father being the one having to carry the maintenance.

My interactions and those I know around me have had a fairly fair outcome. I used to pay for pretty much everything but with Covid I had a significant financial knock and simply could not.
The ex on the other hand had moved to a much higher paying job than she previously had and actually earned more than me.
She refused to change anything so we went to the courts, we ended up adjusting the agreements so that I paid less and she had to carry costs now. It went in my favour as I had shown a good track record of paying when I was in a decent situation and I was reasonable as to what I could do at the time.
She was not reasonable in any situation.

Others I know have had similar situations where it was not really bias either way. The only difference really was expenses and where the kid lives most of the time (in my case it was 50/50)