Marriage contract?

akescpt said:
If you come in with a million and she has nothing. You willing to go half with her and the pool boy? I'm not saying it's a surety but it's a possibility. People are pretty fsuckn callous these days.
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If that happens you have only yourself to blame. :p

Anyway, if my wife and I were to get divorced I'll leave our house to her and our kids and move out with the clothes on my back, even though we are married in community of property. I'd want nothing to remind me of her.

I'll move into a flat with a first year university student and be her sugar daddy :D
 
CamiKaze said:
This is what I want:
If I die, she gets the house.
If we get divorced, I keep the house (obvi).

If we get divorced, I don't need to pay a cent back from her rent.

What would I need for this?
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That's pretty ****ed up. Having your wife contribute to paying off your house...

akescpt said:
If you come in with a million and she has nothing. You willing to go half with her and the pool boy? I'm not saying it's a surety but it's a possibility. People are pretty fsuckn callous these days.
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Or you come in with a million divorce with 10 million (a quarter of which was contributed by your wife) and leave her stuffall. Seems legit.
 
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Thanks for all the useful responses.

And thanks to all the other derailments :whistle:

bokdrol said:
I agree. I am married with ANC with accrual. It would work well in the event of a divorce. The assets we had before our marriage, including inheritances, are ours but everything since will be split, regardless of who earned what when. The house is in my name, but in the event of a divorce, we would probably have to sell the house. It is fair because we have been married 20+ years and so we have contributed equally to the marriage (I have always worked, and even have for some years been the sole breadwinner in the past). Things would be different I suppose if one partner did not contribute financially, but honestly, marriage is not about money only.
I find OP a bit cynical actually,
If we get divorced, I don't need to pay a cent back from her rent (and suggest OP reconsiders getting married).
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I am OP and I didn't say anything of the sorts, so don't call me cynical :(
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I just spoke to a lawyer friend. She says that while marital agreement (antenuptial) are stringently enforced, the court will look at the overall fairness and validity (obeys laws, the partner didn't signed under duress, etc) of the agreement when you go to court to divorce. If they feel that the partner should be entitled to some financial payout, they can then override certain parts of the agreement and award in favour of that partner. This especially comes into play after several years and when children are introduced into the picture.
 
Toitjie said:
Thanks for all the useful responses.

And thanks to all the other derailments :whistle:
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We can't help expressing our feelings :)

Hope you guys never get divorced though. In 30 years time you can come back to this thread and laugh in our faces.
 
I just don't get it...

If I pay the bond on my own, plus rates and what not, and contribute to my half of the food then why would this be a prob?

We are living in a world where people are getting divorced 5 months after they get married. There was an article not so long ago where men from America don't see the point of getting married anymore because of these reasons.

Should one get married with a 50% chance of losing everything that they worked for?

My mother recently got all the fruits of my fathers labour in their divorce... so? He now has to live with his mother from time to time.

I know it sounds cold but I didn't study my m@er off and climb the ladder while enduring everyone's k@k just to stand the chance of lose everything and following in Dads' footsteps.
 
CamiKaze said:
I know it sounds cold but I didn't study my m@er off and climb the ladder while enduring everyone's k@k just to stand the chance of lose everything and following in Dads' footsteps.
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If you don't want to endure k@k, perhaps best not to get married. Remember, it is not only spouse's k@k but her/his family's k@k you have to endure.

But I don't see why a fair division of assets is not possible. I don't see why one has to keep everything and the other one leaves with nothing, regardless of whose "fault" it is and who bought the washing machine.
 
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CamiKaze said:
She has to contribute somehow so she is paying a little less than a quarter of the bond as rent. (I do not have a rental agreement)
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CamiKaze said:
I just don't get it...

If I pay the bond on my own, plus rates and what not, and contribute to my half of the food then why would this be a prob?
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First you say she's paying a ¼ of the bond and now it's all you?

TBH at the very least she should deserve a portion of this house she may be contributing towards. It's an asset after all.
 
bwana said:
First you say she's paying a ¼ of the bond and now it's all you?

TBH at the very least she should deserve a portion of this house she may be contributing towards. It's an asset after all.
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It's all of me, but the 1/4 still has to take effect. Will get the 1/4 later this month.
 
Ok... ja... guess I'll put her name on the house and stand a 50% chance of losing everything.
 
This marriage is doomed....... you only give it 50% chance?
 
CamiKaze said:
Ok... ja... guess I'll put her name on the house and stand a 50% chance of losing everything.
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I think most people would suggest ANC with accrual. Surely her financial contributions going forward should count for something. Imagine the scenario where she ends up being the main breadwinner and pays the lions share, or you decide to run off with the aforementioned pool boy…

Then again, if you're so cynical about marriage why do it?
 
CamiKaze said:
I just don't get it...

If I pay the bond on my own, plus rates and what not, and contribute to my half of the food then why would this be a prob?

We are living in a world where people are getting divorced 5 months after they get married. There was an article not so long ago where men from America don't see the point of getting married anymore because of these reasons.

Should one get married with a 50% chance of losing everything that they worked for?

My mother recently got all the fruits of my fathers labour in their divorce... so? He now has to live with his mother from time to time.

I know it sounds cold but I didn't study my m@er off and climb the ladder while enduring everyone's k@k just to stand the chance of lose everything and following in Dads' footsteps.
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Seems to me you do not want or need a partner in life you just want a free "ride" when it suits you. What a basis to start a life. News for you; even with a contract there is still a chance that she would end up with 50% or more in a divorce settlement as the courts decide in the end to protect the woman and possibly children from men that only marries to get free daily sexual liberties. She should set up in her contract what is her going charges to counter your "safeguards" to "protect" yourself so that you could kick her out of the house once you are done with her. Sad basis for marriage and joining a life partner!
 
YingYang said:
If that happens you have only yourself to blame. :p

Anyway, if my wife and I were to get divorced I'll leave our house to her and our kids and move out with the clothes on my back, even though we are married in community of property. I'd want nothing to remind me of her.

I'll move into a flat with a first year university student and be her sugar daddy :D
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CamiKaze said:
Ok... ja... guess I'll put her name on the house and stand a 50% chance of losing everything.
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So basically your wife must contribute 25% of the bond of the house you gain 100% of the appreciation on?

Seems fair...
 
KalMaverick said:
So basically your wife must contribute 25% of the bond of the house you gain 100% of the appreciation on?

Seems fair...
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Well, I guess I am going to add her name to the house...

Basically the same as when we lived in a flat and paid that landlords' bond.
 
I hope she reads this thread and heads for the hills, frankly.
 
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