Phone Rules in a relationship

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Ok, I just thought I find out from you guys as to whether do you have some rules or anything with regard to phones.

First of all, I know that you not supposed to be fiddling with your partner's phone (what you do not know wont hurt you saying), but I don't really mind wifey fiddling with mine cause I have no 'scandals':p

Then, what about phone calls, what time is late to be making/taking phone calls? I know that an it's ok to be calling/receiving calls from family members at any time. But, what about friends? Any time lines, etc?

Lastly, do you pick up your partner's phone? I do, but I check who's calling before I do. What are the rules here?

So, how do we play it safe?
 
Depends on the relationship

Her phone is mine and mine is hers. Any phone rings, who ever is closer answers it. I have no need to go thru her phone and nor does she going thru mine. If she does, she's entitled to it. And if I go thru hers I'm entitled to it.

It's just a bloody phone. Unless someone is hiding anything :D
 
Rules? Not so sure if thats a good word to have in a relationship. For me it implies that one or the other has to exert authority over the other partner in the relationship which doesnt feel right to me.

If there is trust in your relationship you do not need to check the phone, if there is a lack of trust in the relationship.. then its not a real good relationship.
 
I get pissed at anyone calling after 8pm unless they've send a sms first asking if its ok - by that time the kids are winding down and the phone ringing just reverses all that.

If my missus cellphone rings I'll answer it (unless its someone I really dont want to talk to) and she'll do the same with mine.

As for snooping through her phone never - but then I dont have trust issues.
 
Nowadays, I try not touch or interferre in with my partners phone at all. That includes not answering or anything.

However - at times it is a little tempting and I have check the phone:/ In the past I have found things that hurt me in her SMSs - which I guess is why I don't feel *that* guilty when I do give into temptation and look. Once bitten, twice shy ...

I have nothing to hide and don't care for her seeing my phone. I don't have a privacy issue.
 
Maelly said:
Ok, I just thought I find out from you guys as to whether do you have some rules or anything with regard to phones.

First of all, I know that you not supposed to be fiddling with your partner's phone (what you do not know wont hurt you saying), but I don't really mind wifey fiddling with mine cause I have no 'scandals':p

Then, what about phone calls, what time is late to be making/taking phone calls? I know that an it's ok to be calling/receiving calls from family members at any time. But, what about friends? Any time lines, etc?

Lastly, do you pick up your partner's phone? I do, but I check who's calling before I do. What are the rules here?

So, how do we play it safe?
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1. I don't touch her phone so expect the same from her. I really hate it when people ask to look at your phone and then they proceed to go through all the items in the menu! It's not that I have something to hide, but rather I feel your phone and its contents are private.

2. Unless a customers ENTIRE network has gone down and we are in the crapper, I do not appreciate calls after 8 pm. But my phone stays on silent, not even vibrate.

3. I do not pick up my wifes phone when it rings, becuase I would not like her to pick up mine.

And I'll say it again, I have nothing to hide.;)
 
Answering each other's phone is probably okay with me, but not going through SMSs etc. It's like email - I wouldn't expect a significant other to feel free to go through my emails and my browser history.

Not because there's anything to hide, just because it's somewhat invasive.
 
Her phone is mine and mine is hers.

Dont take business related calls after 6pm.

Friends/family calls i take any time of day or night:D (yes i love them all dearly)
 
CathJ said:
Answering each other's phone is probably okay with me, but not going through SMSs etc. It's like email - I wouldn't expect a significant other to feel free to go through my emails and my browser history.

Not because there's anything to hide, just because it's somewhat invasive.
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Nice to hear a response from a woman's perspective. Thanks Cathy;)
 
If my partner wants to go through my phone feel free. I have absolutely nothing to hide what so ever. I have not even given a reason for my partner not to trust me. If his phone rings i sometimes answer it if he isnt in the room or he has his head phones on and cant here the phone ring.
 
I'm confused here... for those who don't look at their partner/SO/spouse's phone for fear of finding something (what you don't know etc), surely that's not healthy?
 
I dont let my GF touch my phone really :) maybe i have stuff to hide.. but in the end even if i don't i feel it is a private thing, don't like anyone to go through my phone.

I don't touch hers either, though she says i can, i think its onl fair.
 
AntiThesis said:
I'm confused here... for those who don't look at their partner/SO/spouse's phone for fear of finding something (what you don't know etc), surely that's not healthy?
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I wont answer or go through my partners phone, but not becasue of the fear of finding something, but out of respect for their privacy. And I would expect the same from them. Same as email etc

If its about trust issues and trying to hide stuff, there's bigger probems in the relationship, and yes, not healty.

There is exceptions about answering though. They can be busy somewhere, not see or hear the phone, and its family or mutual friends etc.
 
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