Polygamy - would you if you could?

[Fulcrum29]

Wouldn't mind being the 3rd wheel with lesbian couple where both women are bi.

You don't need a marriage, only willing partners. Marriage is a legal contract though living together without marriage may create implications by implying things like care, maintenance, etc.

What you want is best reached by a consensus without marriage.

 

[randomcat]

Then you should consider an open relationship, also in marriage, than an all-inclusive marriage. Open relationships are common in SA.

Nah open relationships are a bit dodgy. You will most likely end up with an STD. Marriage just makes the commitment a bit more solid.

 

[My_King]

Nee, 1 feeks is klaar te veel

 

[Fulcrum29]

Family play time, “Whose Kid Is It Anyway?”. This also adds a whole new dimension to pink punch.

 

[Fulcrum29]

Nah open relationships are a bit dodgy. You will most likely end up with an STD. Marriage just makes the commitment a bit more solid.

How does marriage prevent STDs, trust? It is the marital commitment which contractually obligates you. Marriage regimes aren’t set in stone, there are still responsibilities irrespectively.

 

[randomcat]

How does marriage prevent STDs, trust? It is the marital commitment which contractually obligates you. Marriage regimes aren’t set in stone, there are still responsibilities irrespectively.

Marriages are viewed with a higher level of trust. If you cheated as friends it wouldn't be as bad as cheating while married. It's just how it is and yes it obviously depends on individuals but majority will agree.

 

[Sepeng]

Better chance of getting a sandwich though.

Intentional double entendre?

Anyway, I wouldn't do it.
2 minutes split two ways, well, that math just don't add up.

 

[SauRoNZA]

How does marriage prevent STDs, trust? It is the marital commitment which contractually obligates you. Marriage regimes aren’t set in stone, there are still responsibilities irrespectively.

Preset partners?

Open relationship implies third parters changing often and that exposes risk.

 

[Smugs]

And wait till they form a trade union....

 

[Fulcrum29]

Preset partners?

Open relationship implies third parters changing often and that exposes risk.

It still comes down to responsibility, and open partners do select their partners it is not a free for all orgy.

If your wife or husband asks your consent for marrying another person I can almost assure you that you have gotten the short end of the stick.

 

[Nuke]

No, all for some form of non-monogamy though. I would go insane with only one partner and not able to play around. Helps if a partner is bi though, flirting with girls together is a lot of fun.

STDs are a risk, but lots of fun things have a risk. Riding motorsbikes comes to mind.

Cuddling 2 girls to sleep is one of the best things ever.

 

[Goosfrabba]

Ok Mormons, your time to shine

 

[SauRoNZA]

It still comes down to responsibility, and open partners do select their partners it is not a free for all orgy.

If your wife or husband asks your consent for marrying another person I can almost assure you that you have gotten the short end of the stick.

Oh I wasn’t really arguing just saying how it’s likely perceived.

But your second paragraph doesn’t really make sense. Why would they not ask for consent? How would they do it otherwise? Not quite getting the statement.

 

[Fulcrum29]

Oh I wasn’t really arguing just saying how it’s likely perceived.

But your second paragraph doesn’t really make sense. Why would they not ask for consent? How would they do it otherwise? Not quite getting the statement.

Who is stopping your husband or wife from starting a new relationship in addition to yours? Sure there would be dating, common interests, doing stuff away from you for their pleasures, ****ing, amongst many other things before marriage is even a consideration unless it is for citizenship purposes? What if your husband or wife was under the impression before marriage that other marriages could have been openly pursued, sure then consent could then be legally argued. Do you need to enter it as a clause in your marital agreement?

I don’t care, I only care whether it is adults making adult decisions, but now that it may become a possibility within law married people may be willing to explore these options without ‘illegal’ scrutiny.

I have been married, done that, earned the t-shirt, burned the t-shirt.

Look there is a reality here, there are people with broken marriages where one person refuses to divorce and willing to challenge it legally. You know, I don't think that is fair, if a person wants out allow them to get out, so I can see how the new marriage act may give some comfort from being tied up to conservatism. There are a lot of mechanisms in law, but there are other question like how it will correlate with estates, family law and children's law matters. I do expect some legal cases to arise in the time to come.

 

[Craig_]

No. Two mothers in law. Two!

One is enough to deal with thanks.

Two smart guys right here.

 

[LCBXX]

Shouldn't the question be whether polygamy is better than a concubine?

 

[SauRoNZA]

Who is stopping your husband or wife from starting a new relationship in addition to yours? Sure there would be dating, common interests, doing stuff away from you for their pleasures, ****ing, amongst many other things before marriage is even a consideration unless it is for citizenship purposes? What if your husband or wife was under the impression before marriage that other marriages could have been openly pursued, sure then consent could then be legally argued. Do you need to enter it as a clause in your marital agreement?

I don’t care, I only care whether it is adults making adult decisions, but now that it may become a possibility within law married people may be willing to explore these options without ‘illegal’ scrutiny.

I have been married, done that, earned the t-shirt, burned the t-shirt.

Look there is a reality here, there are people with broken marriages where one person refuses to divorce and willing to challenge it legally. You know, I don't think that is fair, if a person wants out allow them to get out, so I can see how the new marriage act may give some comfort from being tied up to conservatism. There are a lot of mechanisms in law, but there are other question like how it will correlate with estates, family law and children's law matters. I do expect some legal cases to arise in the time to come.

But in polygamy they would all be married to each other?

It’s not a case of 1 + 2 but more like 1 + 1 + 1 or am I missing the point here?

Surely the couple would marry the third person and not just one half of the existing party.

The context in which I responded was that understanding of being in a relationship with two other people. Not my partner having another relationship with someone else.

Which also draws the difference between what would he polygamy and an open relationship which is much more one sided.

 

[Fulcrum29]

Shouldn't the question be whether polygamy is better than a concubine?

Sure it will, it will allow 'the concubine' with more, or equal, rights. Come to think about, we may soon experience 'fronting' in marriage...

 

[LCBXX]

Sure it will, it will allow 'the concubine' with more, or equal, rights. Come to think about, we may soon experience 'fronting' in marriage...

TBH, all of this sounds to me like a group of sex addicts looking for ways to avoid being judged.

 

[ShaunSA]

TBH, all of this sounds to me like a group of sex addicts looking for ways to avoid being judged.

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