Preferring one parent over another

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blunomore

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My daughter, 14 months old, changes her preference for either me or her father on a regular basis. Last night she only wanted to be with me the entire evening. She often prefers her father when she wants to have more fun, because I guess he is more entertaining than me who is feeding, changing, giving her a bath, etc.

When she sees her dad open the door when he comes back from work every day she practically jumps out of my lap to run to him! In her eyes dad means fun.

When she gets hurt or is upset, she often shows a preference for me, though.

Do your kids have such a preference? Does it even out at some stage or does this continue until they are much older?
 
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samr1wp said:
sometimes you say everything all wrong

Blu ...girls are daddys babies and boys are mummys boys

get a son
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I do not want more kids :)

And there are exceptions to the rule - I have always had a better relationship with my mom.
 
Preferring one of your threads over another...

Edit : oh I see the threads were merged.
 
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I would say our children do show somewhat of a preference. The oldest is towards his mother and the youngest is towards me. It's not fixed in stone though but yea it's always been there and I suppose it might always be there.
 
cerebus said:
I would say our children do show somewhat of a preference. The oldest is towards his mother and the youngest is towards me. It's not fixed in stone though but yea it's always been there and I suppose it might always be there.
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We'll wait and see what MrsCerebus has to say about that...
 
My kids are the same Blu, the past couple of weeks all they want is me, especially the little one. But then out of the blue they will want mommy and not interested in me :p
 
This will never end ... it will continue well into their adulthood.

Kids will go to the parent based on their needs at that moment in time ... so if they are hurt and looking for compassion, they will come to you. If they have been couped up the whole day, being "force fed" :erm:, having their clothes ripped off and changed; when daddy comes home, he is it.

When they are teenagers, and daddy won't give them money for the new iPod, then they will come to mummy, especially if you are soft. If you were harder than dad, then they will be all around him for their needs.

Come what may, both parents have a role to play in their lives, and somehow they get a little bit from both of you. Just be happy that hubby is around and involved in her life to fill the gaps. No disrespect to you.
 
My youngest prefers me most of the time, while the bigger one prefers her mother. Might be because I only really started playing a part in the latter's life when she was a year old though (mother and I was separated for a while).

But yeah, this morning at 01:10 the younger one woke me up to get her some juice. After getting it for her I then spent about 30 minutes in a meaningless conversation about who took her other baba (doll) - I couldn't find it and I didn't want to wake her mother, OK? :)
 
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i'm son currently prefers me all the time, i can't even take a **** without hearing "Daaaaaaaaaaddyyy. Daaaaaaaaddddyyyyy..."

Also only listens to me really.
 
my youngest daughter would not go to anyone else for the first 8 months. it was terrible because when i had to take her to the creche it was horrendous. even if the parents of the other children looked at her she would scream. and they would purposely go up to her and say hell. i couldn't go anywhere, do anything. she was attached to my hip. i had no break. my poor husband would try help but the minute he tried to take her she would scream blue murder. some children are just that way inclined.
 
after reading some of the posts i dont really feel that bad my little one now 15 months
is exactly the same one day its mommy and nothing else and the next day its me and
nothing else but yeah ... i suppose its true they go to where their needs are fulfilled.
 
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