Preferring to be alone

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ProjectEC97 said:
I wanted to bring up a topic of people who prefer being alone in general, who enjoy their privacy and would rather do their own things.

Now I'm not saying that these people are introverts, they're perfectly capable of socializing and if they want to, they can spend time with others.

I myself am one of these people and some people don't understand that I like being alone, it's what makes me happy. My father thinks it's a bad thing and gets angry when I'm in my room for extended periods of time but I don't see what's wrong with that. If I have free time and I spend it in my room doing whatever, what's so different from doing it in the lounge or outside. And it's not necessarily something like playing games or listening to music, I can even be doing something productive. I feel like I'm not allowed to have privacy whenever I feel like it and instead only at certain times which is usually at night. Another thing apart from me preferring to be alone is being a quiet person. Just because I don't speak very often, apparently it's an issue that's affecting my socializing. If I see it necessary to have a conversation then I will do it but if I stay quiet, then I expect you to respect it. It's mostly the reason I spend some nights awake until 2am, because it's the only time I can be myself. I'm pretty sure at the age of 21 I can make my own decisions on what makes me happy, if I want to be alone then let me be. If I like being on the internet then what does it matter to anyone else. Yes they say balance it but how can you balance between something you prefer which makes you happy and something you don't prefer which makes you neutral?

Just needed to let out some thoughts in my mind and to hear some feedback regarding this.
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I agree with you.

You are still young, gain more independence. Go rent a room/flat in a different suburb. This will give you the independence and privacy you seek.

Your parents are and always will see you as their child. Not all parents can view their adult children as their equal. This is not their fault, it is just the way some parents are.

It is up to you to now make a move.
 
So, move out. 21 is not too young to not be living with your parents.
 
Let your dad catch you jacking it. He'll give you privacy after that.

On a serious note, living with people is tough. I'm never a great conversationalist until I have my two-beer buzz. So if someone catches me for a serious conversation straight when I walk in the door, I go straight to the fridge and down my emergency stash.
 
I'm 38 and still like that. It pisses my wife off to no end when I tell her to go visit her friends or something.

Then, when she's gone, I sit and do absalutely nothing. I don't even put the TV on.
 
Honey Badger said:
I'm 38 and still like that. It pisses my wife off to no end when I tell her to go visit her friends or something.

Then, when she's gone, I sit and do absalutely nothing. I don't even put the TV on.
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I'm like that as well and also 38 and it also pisses my wife off... Like woo
 
This is what being an introvert is. The general view is that Introverts get their energy from being alone, whereas Extroverts get it from being with people/crowds/socials. It doesn't mean that introverts can't act like extroverts, as both are a preferences. An introvert can go to socials, seems to be an extrovert, but the next day, the introvert will be tired as hell and have no energy for anybody (extreme, might not even want to go shopping).
 
ProjectEC97 said:
Now I'm not saying that these people are introverts, they're perfectly capable of socializing and if they want to, they can spend time with others.
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It always amazes me how many "introverts" do not know what being an introvert really means.
 
@Honey Badger @Lupus both of you have jobs and families, OP is 21!!!!

A lot of us like to be alone most of the time but we work and interact when we go shopping, deal with insurance, house or car maintenance. @ProjectEC97 probably doesn't work and the implication is that he sits alone in his room most of the time. I don't think that's right. Not knocking him, just wondering if perhaps he's depressed or got low self esteem? I'm no expert but at 21 life is for the taking.

As long as OP isn't living like a hermit and he spends a few hours a day chatting, phoning messaging, or gaming with friends, time alone is good.
 
I'm an ambivert. Sometimes(most of the time) I need to be among a lot of people and party hard, go grazy with my friends. Then, the next time I don't want to see a ****in nobody.
 
Nothing wrong with time alone, hell I'm 38 and there are many instances when I vanish into my own head, even when people are around. Drives the missus MENTAL as well.... don't know how to explain to her that its a "coping" mechanism at times when I'm just too drained to interact with people... or when I want to play around with ideas in my head to get to an end goal of something.
 
beans100 said:
I'm an ambivert. Sometimes(most of the time) I need to be among a lot of people and party hard, go grazy with my friends. Then, the next time I don't want to see a ****in nobody.
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The question would be more along the lines of which is the thing you do more often, interact with people and go party hard and all that, or prefer to be at home alone?

That will determine if your preference is introversion or extroversion.
 
simm_card said:
And what surprises me, is that I do it so easily and so genuine.
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Its the easiest thing in the world to do, if you have the energy to do it really. Also if the company is of the right "bend" then its even easier and the conversation flows easily.
 
3WA said:
Let your dad catch you jacking it. He'll give you privacy after that.

On a serious note, living with people is tough. I'm never a great conversationalist until I have my two-beer buzz. So if someone catches me for a serious conversation straight when I walk in the door, I go straight to the fridge and down my emergency stash.
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That's me. I hate people who come to my house unannounced and the reason for that is straight-forward: I need to have a few beers or shots of whiskey in my body before they get to my house, else (and this might just be my perception) I bore them to death. Another reason is I find people generally boring, almost to the point where I can complete their sentences for them. Having a few shots will have me not give a fsck what they're talking about because I'll steer the conversation to another topic.
 
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