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The_Ogre

The_Ogre

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I had a chat with a friend a few minutes ago and we got to the discussion of phones and our wives. He told me he's the only person who can unlock his phone and he will never give his wife access. I was surprised at this because I unlock my phone with my finger, but I have a password on for cases where my wife wants to use my phone for whatever reason. Hers is the same.

I'm also always logged into WhatsApp web so she has constant access to my WhatsApp from the PC.

He told me he does not touch her phone so he expects her not to touch his either.

So, how do you guys and gals manage this?
 
My girlfriend and I have no reason to access each other’s phones, but we have access in case it should be needed.

Nothing to hide, so no point hiding things.
 
Honestly social media has been the bane of so many relationships.
These days it doesnt even matter so much if you can get into someone's phone, there are so many messaging apps that auto-delete messages and hide conversations.

Most of the time I dont even know where my phone is at home, its lying somewhere and my wife knows the pin if she wants to see anything.
 
Relationship should be built on honesty, trust, respect, love and a healthy dose of lust.

My girlfriend can go on my phone/computer any time - my life is an open book to her.
If she would ever feel the need to actually check then we have much bigger problems.
 
Luckily I'm married to a wife that's got more important things to do than to run my life or worry about a "skelmpie"...

Those that are married to Karens have problems...you know, those wives that threaten divorce if a mate sends you a WA that contains a pair of tits or the word "p0es"...

Sad really...
 
So when my bf and I started dating, he tried to hide his Whatsapps from me (I was playing games on his phone), so obviously I decided I have to see what he's hiding. We had a fight and he showed me what he didn't want me to see, which was a message of him saying to a friend "Why would I want to settle down?"

I laughed at it cause it didn't upset me, we're still together 4.5 years later. I still sometimes read his messages just to see if I've missed anything important. He forgot to tell me for 2 months about his cousin's save the date, which she sent to his phone only, we were almost too late to RSVP.

He knows my password and I know his, our phones are always just lying around, we have nothing to hide.
 
The other day I thought about installing another Whatsapp (my phone allows it) for those idiots like @Papa Smurf who keeps saying he's going to bang my wife, but then thought that it will be too much effort to hide it. Plus we both know him personally and she knows he's batshit crazy as it is :ROFL:

Don't even get me started on @Craig and @The_Mowgs who regularly send me pics of their nutsacks for some strange reason.

I need new (sane) friends. :thumbsup:
 
The_Ogre said:
The other day I thought about installing another Whatsapp (my phone allows it) for those idiots like @Papa Smurf who keeps saying he's going to bang my wife, but then thought that it will be too much effort to hide it. Plus we both know him personally and she knows he's batshit crazy as it is :ROFL:

Don't even get me started on @Craig and @The_Mowgs who regularly send me pics of their nutsacks for some strange reason.

I need new (sane) friends. :thumbsup:
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That wasn't my nuts, it was a pic of mowgs nuts. And my wife and I have each other's passwords, which is why I delete all mybb messages on my phone by default as it's sure to be under the belt. Especially because my kids also have all the passwords and are always playing games on our phones as we don't sit with the phones a lot, especially on weekends.
 
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We handle it by not handling it. Both can go into each other's phone if we wanted, and sometimes do to check a photo or something.
But I think I get it - maybe he just wants a space or place that's all his, safe place to complain about the wife and kids or whatever. Not saying I agree with it, but could maybe see the logic.
 
I think a level of autonomy is actually a very healthy thing. I get that there might not be anything to hide but at the same time sharing every single part of your life with your partner seems a bit boring.
 
If she can't touch his phone she shouldn't be touching his dick :cool:

I've never needed to check on the SO's phone or he mine. But we know each others pins/passwords etc.
 
Wait I lie... if he is driving and his mum calls or messages I have to reply

Otherwise she assumes we are lying in a ditch somewehere

Same goes with him, my phone, and my mum

Mothers :oops:
 
The day she figured out my password was the first 6 digits of my ID it was all over from there. That day went something like this:

Her: Now I know your password. It's XXXXXX
Me: That's nice.
[end]

Also joined the life360 app and couldn't be bothered if she wants to stalk my movements. Got nothing to hide.
 
OCP said:
Relationship should be built on honesty, trust, respect, love and a healthy dose of lust.

My girlfriend can go on my phone/computer any time - my life is an open book to her.
If she would ever feel the need to actually check then we have much bigger problems.
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Same here except for the girlfriend part. My wife has login details for everything, even bank cards. She also knows all my usernames on forums as there's nothing really worth hiding from her.

Even with all of that info and knowledge she decided to stay with me so I think shes a keeper.

She also has a great a55
 
Yea. My ex wife had access to my phone (and me to hers). I never checked her phone.. but caught her a few times checking my phone (a few months before the divorce). And I would never expect her to cheat... so yea.

Looking back... I realised I missed her being on her phone constantly (prob with her skelmpie).

But honestly.... till today, each one has right to privacy. But if you smell smoke...
 
We have a mutual level of understanding that phones are supposed to have a modicum of privacy. We do however have all passwords and pins in case of emergency. I only use my phone for calls and not social media and it's the same with her. This recent trend of texting instead of calling leads to communication issues.
 
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