Recurring dreams

[genetic]

My dad past away unexpectedly 2 years ago, a young and sudden death, and for the last past year or so I've been dreaming about him literally every single night. He's always just there in my dreams.

The dreams aren't particularly bad, and they're not specifically about him - but they're been bugging me of late, as I've noticed that I'm constantly dreaming about him.

We were never really close, but it seems subconsciously I won't let go.

I'm hoping this is just a phase of me subconsciously dealing with his death, and doesn't become a permanent feature.

Anyone else been in the same suituation?

 

[Dan C]

Dreams are indeed weird. My brother passed away unexpectedly a couple of years ago and we were really close. But the dreams I have still up to now is that we hated each other, it's really strange. Maybe it's the fact that I cannot get over the loss yet ??

 

[Turgon]

Only really remember one truly solid recurring dream, from childhood that came twice. Other than that my dreams are wildly different manifestations of recurring *themes*.

In OP's case, I'd say, as long as the occurrences are not distressing, in and of themselves or in the 'surroundings', then be glad you get to share the dreamworld with those you know.

What are getting up to of late, that he might have something to say about?

 

[maumau]

Bad new for you OP, my husband died 15 years ago and I still go through phases where I dream of him every night - usually I'm asking him to come back to me and he's playing it cool grrrrrr.

I think that if somebody dies and things haven't been perfect between you it's going to play on your subconscious, even if at the time of their death you were getting along well.

Perhaps there's an essence of guilt in wishing that it could have been better between you, at least I think that's my issue.

 

[saor]

One possible solution to this is when you're awake - tell yourself that when you have a dream about your dad you'll realize you're dreaming. Imagine the dream and imagine yourself becoming aware it's a dream. You might just find that you have the dream one night and become aware that it's a dream (lucid dreaming) and be able to initiate a course of action that might not have occurred had you remained on automatic pilot. You could engage the father dream figure and have a conversation, or visit a place that's meaningful to the two of you, or resolve something that's bugging you. You might very well find that subsequent dreams on the topic of your dad stop happening, or you're able to subsequently become lucid in those recurring dreams and either carry on engaging with your dream father, or alternatively take the dream somewhere else.

 

[maumau]

Sorry to hear about your Dad Genetic and your brother Dan-C.

An unexpected death must be dreadful, far worse than when somebody's sick for while and eventually dies. Also in both your positions your Mom would have been getting most of the sympathy and you guys might have kept some of the hurt inside.

Going to give Saor's idea a try next time.