Relationship help thread 3.0... (AAAAAAAAAND ITS GONE!)

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Good morning everyone,

So first of in the last two weeks I made these two threads:

This one:
http://mybroadband.co.za/vb/showthread.php/678251-Relationship-help-thread
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-Which was about me doing something studip but was eventually resolved

Then this one:
http://mybroadband.co.za/vb/showthr...p-help-thread-2-0-(Fun-mysterious-date-ideas)
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-Which was about me trying to do some romantic stuff which girls like after the issues were resolved.

So here comes the shocker. but first let me explain the past weekend.

Friday - 13 Feb 2014
We initially agree to meet up for only 30 minutes to get drinks as she has DEV exams the next Monday. We meet at around 14h30 and things go good. we get drinks and stay at this place until like 21h00 (having a #AWESOME time!) obviously by now we have become fairly intoxicated.. We then decide to go on a date as we have not yet had a romantic date since we met... I take her to this really fancy place where a glass of red wine is R75 (FML!!) I buy us a sushi to share, 6 pieces costing R145! ridiculous! So after the shared sushi and 3 glasses of red wine each... needless to say I have become impoverished. So afterwards we go to this less formal kuier plek and have one last drink. After this we did some shenanigans and I wanted to take her to the sport fields to make out or something, I don't know.. I was drunk. So its around 02:00 now and we go back to my place. Things get hot and steam, and stuff happen. no sex though, she wears a purity ring so I would not want to put her in a difficult position without it being consensual. We did everything else though... Feels good man! and we go to sleep at like 04:00am


Saturday - 14 Feb 2014
So we stay in bed like until 14h00 the afternoon, at 15h00 I take her to Gautrain as she had tickets to go watch passenger with her parents. Afterwards she comes to my place at 20h00. as it is Valentines day I got some wine and candles and make a romantic setting. She brings sushi and yeah have a nice quite chill time. we are both still tired from the next day. so she sleeps over we just briefly had some fun and the went to bed. The next morning everything is great and I propose we take things steady... she agrees and tells me she is in love with me.. she then goes home around 10 as she has to study.

Sunday - 15 Feb 2014
So she went home and that night she sends me a msg saying that she does not think it will work if we are together because I am a distraction.. Her being with me and wanting to spend all her time with me will compromise her bursary from PWC. And all she wants to do is Become a CA... So she kind of breaks it off because she feels that being with me will cause her to fail as she already did bad in Mondays DEV exams...
...Feels bad man.

She deletes me from social media, FB, Instagram and my number...

I like this girl.. should I just leave her or what? ...the whole if you love something let it go?
 
She's full of crap. She clearly doesn't know what she wants, so kick her in the panty and send her on her way.
 
Just don't send her a million messages trying to get an answer out of her.
Don't smother her.

Continue living your life as normal and wait for her to make contact.
 
It seems like she feels she forgets her responsibilities when she's with you. I seem to remember you mentioned before that she was very worried about her Dev exams which it turns out she didn't do so well in. She might also be getting a lot of pressure from her parents to perform with her studies?

The real question is: Are you willing to wait for her? Do you think she's worth waiting for? If you are and you think she is, I don't see why you can't hold things off till she graduates. I say speak to her one last time. Find out if she wants to break things off permanently or just until she graduates. You could just be friends until then. But the risk is she could very well meet someone else.
 
Think is after this "Breakup" If I can call it that, I've been talking to 3 other girls, going to get drinks with one next week and then the other 2 i know likes me.. but I have feels for the one i was with this weekend. we have a lot in common.
 
Then clearly she made the right decision to break up. If you already have feelings for another girl this quickly, then you weren't serious about her and you would have been an unnecessary distraction. I retract my previous recommendation. You need to respect her wish and leave her alone.
 
SaoirseB said:
It seems like she feels she forgets her responsibilities when she's with you. I seem to remember you mentioned before that she was very worried about her Dev exams which it turns out she didn't do so well in. She might also be getting a lot of pressure from her parents to perform with her studies?

The real question is: Are you willing to wait for her? Do you think she's worth waiting for? If you are and you think she is, I don't see why you can't hold things off till she graduates. I say speak to her one last time. Find out if she wants to break things off permanently or just until she graduates. You could just be friends until then. But the risk is she could very well meet someone else.
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Yoh.. she is awesome.. but I cant sit around whole year.. I don't believe in waiting for love. that waiting stuff is for the movies. people move on in real life.. but I love believing in that, yet from experience I know waiting does not work.
 
Random Hero said:
Yoh.. she is awesome.. but I cant sit around whole year.. I don't believe in waiting for love. that waiting stuff is for the movies. people move on in real life.. but I love believing in that, yet from experience I know waiting does not work.
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And you shouldn't have to. Waiting is only good for you if you think the other person is worth it and they feel the same. So move on.
 
SaoirseB said:
Then clearly she made the right decision to break up. If you already have feelings for another girl this quickly, then you weren't serious about her and you would have been an unnecessary distraction. I retract my previous recommendation. You need to respect her wish and leave her alone.
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I do not have feelings for another girl... I also feel inlove with this girl but if she cant do it with me then I cant wait around like some Betafag... but if she commits to me I give 100% and my mind will be set on her.
 
In love and breaking up after one or two dates? She seems a trifle......confused.
 
Ahhh to be young and in love... I miss that feeling.
 
Seeing as you need three threads of advice to manage a relationship, I would say she's way better off without you.
 
And they call it puppy l-ove.....de dee dee dee te dee
 
Random Hero said:
I do not have feelings for another girl... I also feel inlove with this girl but if she cant do it with me then I cant wait around like some Betafag... but if she commits to me I give 100% and my mind will be set on her.
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Oh sorry, my mistake. But it still comes down to what I said earlier. It's really up to you. If you feel you love her enough to wait then do, if not then move on.

Remember that you're both at different stages in your lives. You've graduated and are working yes? You're already set on your course. She's only starting and how she performs now will set the bar for her future. So if she feels it's going to distract her and you can't wait, you both need to go your separate ways and move on.
 
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