Relationship help thread...

Not sure exactly what you did wrong here... it's a random whatsapp conversation with a friend and you were goofing around. She totally overreacted.
 
At the end of the day, you already knew the answer before you started the thread.

"Advice is something you ask when you already know the answer, but wish you didn't."

If she really likes you, she will come back. Otherwise it's just not worth it. I've seen enough crazy girlfriends to know it never ends well. I had a friend in 2011 whose girlfriend was so jealous she didn't want him to hang out with me alone. The fact that he had been boning her for 2 years wasn't evidence enough for her to believe that he wasn't going to cheat on her with another guy. It makes me tired just to think of being in a relationship like that.
 
registerforfree said:
At the end of the day, you already knew the answer before you started the thread.

"Advice is something you ask when you already know the answer, but wish you didn't."

If she really likes you, she will come back. Otherwise it's just not worth it. I've seen enough crazy girlfriends to know it never ends well. I had a friend in 2011 whose girlfriend was so jealous she didn't want him to hang out with me alone. The fact that he had been boning her for 2 years wasn't evidence enough for her to believe that he wasn't going to cheat on her with another guy. It makes me tired just to think of being in a relationship like that.
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I don't think she was worried about him cheating on her with you - she wanted to cut off all outside influences. It is quite normal in controlling girlfriends for them to want to cut off a man from his friends. They are the ones that will tell him he is making a mistake, and she knows this.
 
Random Hero said:
No she was pissed and I had to drop her off at her place... we spoke last night and she said I would have to start over and convince her to like me again... which is bull im not going to become some b-tch or become a weak cuckhold guy.

I really like the girl and told her that i really like her, and i know she likes me and i completely understand her disappointment. I also said that I will prove with my deeds that she can trust me again.
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You're doing it right, except scratch that part about becoming a b-tch. She didn't ask you to become her b-tch. She simply stated how she feels. She doesn't trust you right now and you're going to have to earn it.
 
Random Hero said:
I actually showed her another conversation on whatsapp from this poephol friend of mine. then somehow the touch screen screwed me and went to the wrong msg. The thing that bothered he was that I ripped the phone away...
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This.

He showed her the cellphone and it accidentally went to the wrong message. She didn't snope.
 
b_crazy said:
Tell her you love her. If it goes like this, then sorry:

OP: "I love you"

Chick is typing
chick stops typing

Chickis typing
chick stops typing

Chick is typing
chick stops typing

Chick is typing
chick stops typing

Chick goes offline
OP's heart sinks

Chick is back online and typing
Chick: "aww"
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And you wonder why women don't trust men. You pull out stunts like this to mess with a girls head knowing perfectly well you don't love her.
 
SaoirseB said:
And you wonder why women don't trust men. You pull out stunts like this to mess with a girls head knowing perfectly well you don't love her.
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Um you read that wrong. The guy is the one that told the girl he loves her. Read it again.
 
Ancalagon said:
Um you read that wrong. The guy is the one that told the girl he loves her. Read it again.
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b_crazy said:
You got it wrong, but never mind.
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I think she got it exactly right.
You started off saying "Tell her you love her."
Well, has the original poster said he loves her anywhere? Does he love her? Are you saying he should say he loves her even if he doesn't?
 
Sherbang said:
I think she got it exactly right.
You started off saying "Tell her you love her."
Well, has the original poster said he loves her anywhere? Does he love her? Are you saying he should say he loves her even if he doesn't?
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The joke was about the girl keeping him in suspense and then not saying she loves him return, not about the guy pretending to love her. In fact, the post does not say he should say he loves her even if he does not. But let us wait for the original author of that post to confirm what he meant.
 
SaoirseB said:
You're doing it right, except scratch that part about becoming a b-tch. She didn't ask you to become her b-tch. She simply stated how she feels. She doesn't trust you right now and you're going to have to earn it.
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You're right. She didn't tell him "you must be my bitch", but she did see something completely innocuous, freaked out and now she expects him to crawl after her. Once a relationship starts like that, you're the bitch until it ends.
 
Message her telling her she got the wrong end of the stick and is she wants to, meet up and explain that it's easy to take a conversation between buddies out of context. Explain the context. I.e. you guys were joking around.

Wtf was she reading your messages anyway?
 
Sherbang said:
I think she got it exactly right.
You started off saying "Tell her you love her."
Well, has the original poster said he loves her anywhere? Does he love her? Are you saying he should say he loves her even if he doesn't?
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SaoirseB, Sherbang why the anger? I've not suggested that OP should lie about his feelings and it was a joke.

Ancalagon said:
The joke was about the girl keeping him in suspense and then not saying she loves him return, not about the guy pretending to love her. In fact, the post does not say he should say he loves her even if he does not. But let us wait for the original author of that post to confirm what he meant.
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I don't even need to say anything more than what you've said Ancalagon. Thank you.
 
Edit: In any case, my joke points to a guy expressing his feelings to a girl, and going through the agonising wait that many guys tend to face in such situations (those that may choose to relay such emotions via text), and the painfully tragic yet funny responses guys get at times.
 
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Sorry as a woman I'm very sensitive when it comes to stuff like this. I personally knew two girls who got played like this. One had a nervous breakdown, the other ended up in an institution for 3 months.

But my bad. I didn't realize it was meant as a joke. I read it as the OP should tell her he loves her to get her to forgive/move on with him thereby manipulating/playing with her emotions.
 
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