Relationship help thread...

Ancalagon said:
Were you the guy in question?

Yes, it is a good sign - it is the carrot of friendliness.

Look at it this way - when she saw that you had options, she used the stick. She threatened you and you responded by giving in to her. Now she is using the carrot, showing you that if you play by her rules, she will reward you with her attention.

She wants you... the question is, on your terms of hers?



But you said you don't believe anything a man says. That means you believe all men are lying to you. Which is it?
Click to expand...

Don't know how else to explain it. I'm not saying men are lying all the time. I can objectively see in other relationships that the men are not playing games. It's just very difficult for me personally to believe them, because always at the back of my mind is everything I've seen and heard. I know it's biased and unfair, but it's something I can't help. I think it's a good thing though, because it means I'll never be vulnerable to any man, plus I can just walk away.
 
SaoirseB said:
... I think it's a good thing though, because it means I'll never be vulnerable to any man, plus I can just walk away.
Click to expand...

I've heard this one before. It didn't end to well for said female when her perfect guy turned out not to be so perfect at all. Women with your attitude end up being the most vulnerable.
 
That was her first mistake. Thinking he was perfect. Anyway I'm not the falling in love kind of woman, so that is never gonna happen to me.
 
SaoirseB said:
That was her first mistake. Thinking he was perfect. Anyway I'm not the falling in love kind of woman, so that is never gonna happen to me.
Click to expand...

How many times has your heart been broken by a liar, cheater or such? This seems intensely personal, or not just based on your "friend".
 
this thread really did deteriorate drastically.

feminazis and misogynists everywhere!

OP stop asking for advice here and talk to her. if you cant communicate your feelings, you are not ready for a relationship.
same goes for her.

if you ask whats wrong and she says nothing, say these words "I don't deal wiht children, that is pedophillia and its wrong, talk like an adult or GTFO, there are plenty of other ways for me to get my D*ck wet, you are not worth this sh*t" then walk away.

sure she might be perfect but trust me its not worth it.

we all know what we want. and if you cant communicate that basic need to the partner find another.
 
This
Baxteen said:
this thread really did deteriorate drastically.

feminazis and misogynists everywhere!

OP stop asking for advice here and talk to her...
Click to expand...

Then

Baxteen said:
if you ask whats wrong and she says nothing, say these words "I don't deal wiht children, that is pedophillia and its wrong, talk like an adult or GTFO, there are plenty of other ways for me to get my D*ck wet, you are not worth this sh*t" then walk away.
Click to expand...

OP whatever you do don't listen to bricks advice.
 
b_crazy said:
Tell her you love her. If it goes like this, then sorry:

OP: "I love you"

Chick is typing
chick stops typing

Chickis typing
chick stops typing

Chick is typing
chick stops typing

Chick is typing
chick stops typing

Chick goes offline
OP's heart sinks

Chick is back online and typing
Chick: "aww"
Click to expand...

Been laughing all afternoon, thanks bro lol
 
Ancalagon said:
It was a test and you failed.

Look at what that conversation demonstrated to her - that other women want you and she has competition. Did your text messages implied that you were being unfaithful to her? No, they did not. For one thing, they occurred before you started dating, for another, you were basically bragging about the fact that other women want you.

She sees this and obviously it freaks her out because she knows you have options. She wants you to commit to her, so she wants you to feel bad about saying that you have options. She wants to shut out the competition, and you fell for it. You felt guilty over something that is not a mistake, not cheating, and not a problem. Yeah, you ripped the phone away - but it was a personal conversation. Are you not allowed to have secrets now? If you had a fight and you told your best friend about it, is that not allowed?

Yes, you did nothing wrong and so did not need to rip the phone away, but the fact remains that it was a personal conversation, and you and you alone decide who to share personal things with.

She was testing you to see if you would cave, and you did. You have known her for what, 3 weeks? And she is already dictating terms to you?

No matter how awesome this girl may seem, you can't let her dictate the terms.
Click to expand...

Yup, **** test failed.

SaoirseB said:
I'm not saying all men are liars. Please remember I'm speaking purely from my life experience, so I will be biased.
Click to expand...

Most men ARE indeed liars. You know why? Because they will do anything to satisfy women's ridiculous mindgames. Up to and including telling them anything. The vast majority of women will bitch about men lying, but then when he starts telling the truth for once, she'll really flip out. Some women will even admit it, they don't give a crap about what the truth is, they just want to hear what makes them feel good.

Q: Is everything going to be OK? A: Yes. Honest answer that will lead to tantrum: I don't know, stop crying and give me a chance to find out.

Q: Does this make me look fat? A: Of course not. Honest answer that will lead to fight/tantrum: Um yeah it doesn't look great to be honest.

Q: Is she hot? A: No, she's fugly. Honest answer that will set off WW3: Well yeah I couldn't help but notice she's attractive but who cares, I'm more interested in you.

Sound familiar?
 
Last edited:
I delete all conversations from my phone regularly. Not because I do things that can end me up in trouble. I just don't like seeing all these conversations on my phone after I had them. Some girls I know think I'm secretive.
 
OP responding to the thread that was taken over by femnazis and misogynist..

So me and the girl spoke again a bit later.. I sent a funny picture of a cat... she sent me this:

IMG-20150209-WA0004.jpg

And the I laughed and said but its the one I get excited about talking to that counts.

then she sent this picture:

be-my-valentine-its-not-going-to-suck.jpg

So I guess she is cooling off and can laugh at some this now and take humour...

is this a good sign?
 
Last edited:
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top
Sign up to the MyBroadband newsletter
X