Relationships

[Safferbeauty]

How do you keep relationships going. I know they a lot of work but how do you truly know when to let go and how do you move on.... Just a general question. Its good to know other peoples experiences...

 

[blaaislaai]

A relationship will last forever when both parties trust and love each other. Thats basically my only reason, doubt there are any other reasons.

 

[The_Pumpkin_King]

this reminds me of choccys "love" thread. /leaves hastily

 

[Dolby]

Man, I love all these relationship threads

 

[Safferbeauty]

They quite interesting...

 

[Dolby]

I think the majority of people battle to say 'it's not working' or 'let's change something'.

The majority of people end it in their heads long before, and then go out and seek an alternate partner(s) while still with the other. When the initial partner find out, it's generally over - and should be over for good.

 

[Safferbeauty]

Why do people cheat. it's so wrong. If you dont wanna be with the person, just be honest.

Mind you sadly there aren't a lot of honest people around

 

[xrapidx]

Get some on the side?

 

[Kuga]

If both parties want to keep it alive, it will stay alive. However, in my case, I was the one that wanted to keep it alive and it died. Relationships suck, rather be a player with no emotional strings attached.

 

[Veroland]

this reminds me of choccys "love" thread. /leaves hastily

/me starts laughing just thinking about it!

 

[Safferbeauty]

If both parties want to keep it alive, it will stay alive. However, in my case, I was the one that wanted to keep it alive and it died. Relationships suck, rather be a player with no emotional strings attached.

I think i would just be alone

 

[Dolby]

rather be a player with no emotional strings attached.

Can you manage the change though ... ? Going from being a genuine person - to being a player and playing with peoples emotions?

I couldn't.

 

[xrapidx]

Why do people cheat. it's so wrong. If you dont wanna be with the person, just be honest.

Mind you sadly there aren't a lot of honest people around

Sharing is caring?

 

[The_Unbeliever]

It takes two to tango.

If both partners are willing to work on the relationship, it'll only grow stronger.

But if one decides to cheat on his/her partner, and doesn't want to work on the relationship, it'll hit rock bottom.

 

[Safferbeauty]

being a player is just so wrong man.....

 

[Old_Username]

The majority of people end it in their heads long before

Exactly. This is how it works for me pretty often, I always put off breaking up with someone... I just feel too bad about it. I don't cheat but I do start looking around when I'm bored and over it :/ And yes by looking I do mean just looking

 

[Kuga]

Can you manage the change though ... ? Going from being a genuine person - to being a player and playing with peoples emotions?

I couldn't.

Yep I pretty much have. After 3 failed previous relationships where I put my heart on the line, and this last one which was the longest I had been in failed, I can't go through that emotional hurt again.

It changes a person, maybe not everyone, but it certainly has changed me. So yeah, it all depends how much you can/can't cope with the breakup I suppose.

 

[Safferbeauty]

Breaking yp is so hard especially if you have been together for a long long time

 

[xrapidx]

I gave up on the sex = love stuff long long time ago.

 

[blunomore]

How do you keep relationships going. I know they a lot of work but how do you truly know when to let go and how do you move on....

I think if you are very young, it is easier to make mistakes (not that older people never make relationship mistakes!)

If you are inexperienced, you don't yet know -

a. which things to just endure for the sake of the relationship; and

b. which things are absolute dealbreakers