Rude colleagues

thestaggy

thestaggy

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I think this is the right place for working relationships.

So, basically, I'm thinking about cold-shouldering a colleague that I perceive to be very rude.

1 - In the mornings if I great him and ask him how he is he just walks bye and responds by saying "Morning" and "I could be better" and that is that. Now I know most folks don't really care about how you are doing but shouldn't it be common deceny for him to say something on the lines of "I'm fine thanks, and yourself?". I just find it rude and really quite depressing. Everybody could be better, but I don't take a dump on colleagues at 7 in the morning that are trying to be civil and friendly, however disingenuous it is.

2 - If we get into a discussion it eventually becomes a one-sided lecture on his part. Everything I say is wrong and I literally have to shout my way back into the convo - he repeatedly cuts me off, even if I tell him on numerous occasions to let me finish - and eventually I just chuck the towel in and nod and say "yeah", ''mmm" or ''I never knew that", even if it is a topic in which I am well-read.

The worst part is that we have to work together, but I honestly could not be interested anymore. Greetings will now be a simple "morning" and I will refrain from any small talk and avoid conversations like the plague. I've always had easy going colleagues that I've gotten on well with, but this is knew and unpleasant to me.

/Rant over.
 
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Little different. My friend's wife is like that (she knows EVERYTHING). She is 7 years younger than us, but she knows everything about anything.

Lets just put it this way.. we try to avoid visits these days.
 
Stop being polite to the prick. Only reason he acts like that is because people tolerate it.
 
abzo said:
Why do you even bother?
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Because I have to work with him and like I said, I've always been in feel-good work environments. Just tried to keep the same vibe here. No more though. I can be a dick when I want to, so I'll do it at work now.
 
I once worked with a guy for three years and never learned his name. Best friend I ever had. We still never talk sometimes - Ron Swanson
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If you take that approach your golden
 
TelkomUseless said:
Little different. My friend's wife is like that (she knows EVERYTHING). She is 7 years younger than us, but she knows everything about anything.

Lets just put it this way.. we try to avoid visits these days.
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My wife's friend's husband is like that. He owns a fridge/aircon repair place and the other day our fridge gave in. I'd rather put all our food in the chest freezer until I have money to fix the fridge than to ask him for his opinion on what might be wrong.

I hate people with the "know-it-all" outlook on life!
 
i been doing this for over a year ...i greet the 2 ladies in my office and thats it ...now and then we chat

best is to stay to your own
 
grav80 said:
My wife's friend's husband is like that. He owns a fridge/aircon repair place and the other day our fridge gave in. I'd rather put all our food in the chest freezer until I have money to fix the fridge than to ask him for his opinion on what might be wrong.

I hate people with the "know-it-all" outlook on life!
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I think at some point we're all guilty of being highly opinionated about something, but hell, EVERYTHING?
 
thestaggy said:
Because I have to work with him and like I said, I've always been in feel-good work environments. Just tried to keep the same vibe here. No more though. I can be a dick when I want to, so I'll do it at work now.
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No need to stoop to his level. Eliminate casual talks with him and stick to only business conversations. Because another person is rude, doesn't mean you have to change your nature to fit suit.
 
Sounds like he's the one cold-shouldering you. A bit late to reciprocate but good luck taking that stand.
 
Just ignore him. I have to same issue at work.

This 1 guy was never friendly towards me (and my team for that matter), he then started using me as a scapegoat for his stuff ups. Since then i dont even greet him anymore. No need to even make the tiniest attempt at interacting with a dumb ####
 
I also share office space with a colleague I don't get along with AT ALL. We don't even greet each other, only time we speak to one another is to give instructions. I think this is better, although it can get a little tense when it's just the two of us in the office, that's why he spends as little time around me as possible.

It can be catty sometimes, when we don't pass on messages from the manager etc. Ah well, the manager should know better than to expect us to give one another messages.
 
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