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I've been saying this girl for three weeks and last Friday was the first we slept together. She said she likes it when a guy goes down on her which I did do and she did love it. When I was done I told her that was her turn to go down, she didn't want to do it.

I asked her why not and she said doesn't like bj's. Being in the heat of the moment I didn't care much for it and then proceeded to have pretty great sex. We talked the next day and she didn't like the taste of it in her mouth. Told her jokingly her she was being selfish about it and she got upset about it. Last night we had sex again and it was the same again.

How do I convince her to give me a bj or should I just let it be? I mean, the sex is still great.
 
Don't think you will be able to convince her after you talked and she still doesn't want to do it.

Withhold sex from her and see what happens :p
 
Rocket Raccoon said:
I've been saying this girl for three weeks and last Friday was the first we slept together. She said she likes it when a guy goes down on her which I did do and she did love it. When I was done I told her that was her turn to go down, she didn't want to do it.

I asked her why not and she said doesn't like bj's. Being in the heat of the moment I didn't care much for it and then proceeded to have pretty great sex. We talked the next day and she didn't like the taste of it in her mouth. Told her jokingly her she was being selfish about it and she got upset about it. Last night we had sex again and it was the same again.

How do I convince her to give me a bj or should I just let it be? I mean, the sex is still great.
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If going down on her is a chore then don't do it. I do it because I like it and expect nothing in return. Sounds like you're doing it with the expectation of being sucked off :D I prefer having a shag over being sucked off anyway :o
 
Meh - you don't mind going down, the sex is good...she doesn't like sucking dick. Do other things. You don't wanna blackmail her into doing something she's said she doesn't enjoy.
 
Pitbull said:
I prefer having a shag over being sucked off anyway :o
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Man, I thought I was gonna die Saturday night when this chick sucked me. F**king manhandled me.

Then yesterday morning I found out that's not the worst thing she did to me. But that's its own thread.
 
I don't understand the problem.
I prefer giving rather than receiving.

For me this is an opportunity to get to know exactly what makes her tick.
Learn her body and how she reacts, start denying the big O while going down on her, get her close then change something, make it still be really good, but slightly frustrating.

eventually just the thought of doing that will be enough, then once you have her wrapped around your little finger, you can tell her once she is on the edge, I will let you cum if you...

trust me after an hour or so of denial like that she will agree to anything. but honestly I have never asked for a BJ in that position. you just get her to start with a position you like, instead.
lets face it, a BJ is great and all, but there are much better things in sex.
 
Ninja'd said:
Man, I thought I was gonna die Saturday night when this chick sucked me. F**king manhandled me.

Then yesterday morning I found out that's not the worst thing she did to me. But that's its own thread.
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I need to read this :D

Get that thread going asap!
 
Pitbull said:
If going down on her is a chore then don't do it. I do it because I like it and expect nothing in return. Sounds like you're doing it with the expectation of being sucked off :D I prefer having a shag over being sucked off anyway :o
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Same :p

I also like given more than receiving.
 
Rocket Raccoon said:
I've been saying this girl for three weeks and last Friday was the first we slept together. She said she likes it when a guy goes down on her which I did do and she did love it. When I was done I told her that was her turn to go down, she didn't want to do it.

I asked her why not and she said doesn't like bj's. Being in the heat of the moment I didn't care much for it and then proceeded to have pretty great sex. We talked the next day and she didn't like the taste of it in her mouth. Told her jokingly her she was being selfish about it and she got upset about it. Last night we had sex again and it was the same again.

How do I convince her to give me a bj or should I just let it be? I mean, the sex is still great.
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Whats the problem? You got laid. Goal achieved. She is happy and you are happy except you want extras...think you are selfish for wanting her to do something she doesn't want to do.
 
If she doesn't like it she doesn't like it.

So either you can deal with that...or you can't.

It's not selfish really either way. I would say if you can't deal with it and this is the ultimate deal breaker you are the selfish one.
 
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