The configuration is in /etc/postfix/ but I don't know how the start-up scripts work in OS X. It's not enabled by default.
Anyway, if you have a dedicated machine, it's not a lot of trouble to set that up.
If you're using Red Hat/Fedora/Centos:
1. Install the OS - minimal install, you don't need the GUI.
2. Log in as root, type:
service sendmail stop
chkconfig sendmail off
yum install postfix
chkconfig postfix on
service postfix start
On Debian (maybe Ubuntu too, I don't know what they ship with):
1. Install the OS
2. Log in, and type:
/etc/init.d/exim4 stop
apt-get remove exim4 exim4-base exim4-config exim4-daemon-light
apt-get install postfix
/etc/init.d/postfix start
That will give you a working system.