So my girlfriend has started sending religious mails etc...

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I am not very religious myself. Been there done that sort of thing, I have given it a lot of chances. It was even one of the reasons why my previous relationship failed as that lifestyle wasn't for me but was expected of me by my previous girlfriends family etc... when my ex gf started adopting religion in her life she started to put faith above everything and expected a partner to do the same. I started caring very little for her lifestyle until it reached a point where I became sort of indifferent/emotionless and had to leave her.

Now my current girlfriend has started out of the blue sending me mails about how God is above all and he is our friend and all these other miracle story chain mails etc... She is even starting to post facebook updates with that sort of thing. I respect her decisions but I worry that one day it might affect our relationship. I know her family is also quite religious, I went with her parents once to church and just kept quiet about it but until recently she never seemed really into it herself. To add we have recently become quite distant over a sort of silent argument over another issue so it isn't as though we have had a lot of time to talk about it.

Aside from any of the other nonsense, should I be worried about this?...how many of you have partners who are religious and you not or vice versa? Can it work?
 
Bobbin said:
I am not very religious myself. Been there done that sort of thing, I have given it a lot of chances. It was even one of the reasons why my previous relationship failed as that lifestyle wasn't for me but was expected of me by my previous girlfriends family etc... when my ex gf started adopting religion in her life she started to put faith above everything and expected a partner to do the same. I started caring very little for her lifestyle until it reached a point where I became sort of indifferent/emotionless and had to leave her.

Now my current girlfriend has started out of the blue sending me mails about how God is above all and he is our friend and all these other miracle story chain mails etc... She is even starting to post facebook updates with that sort of thing. I respect her decisions but I worry that one day it might affect our relationship. I know her family is also quite religious, I went with her parents once to church and just kept quiet about it but until recently she never seemed really into it herself. To add we have recently become quite distant over a sort of silent argument over another issue so it isn't as though we have had a lot of time to talk about it.

Aside from any of the other nonsense, should I be worried about this?...how many of you have partners who are religious and you not or vice versa? Can it work?
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I have had girlfriends who were not religious but I didn't mind because its not my decision to make.Well she did dump me on Christmas because I forgot to send her an sms/call(then again she did do the job of dumping for me).


My advice for you is to stay with her and see because only time can tell.
 
Has she never discussed her religious inclinations with you before? Up to now, has she spent a lot of time on religion - i.e. church, reading the Bible, attending Bible study groups, etc.

If not, you need to find out what made her change her behaviour ?
 
I am religious, my g/f is not.
I dont force my views on her, she tries to respect my view.

It can work, but I think you need the right kind of ppl. It gets difficult when you start deciding on kids, and how you want to bring them up.
Not sure if you are there yet, but it can become quite an issue.

Be open about it and ask her? She should not have an issue with any questions you may have, as long as you do it with some kind of respectful intention
 
I think it's better to discuss it with her IMMEDIATELY. Believe me, it's only a matter of time till she starts with the "What are your plans for you and I" " I'm not getting any younger" "I think I'm ready for marriage and kids" "My high-school friends are all married and some already have kids" stories!
 
Yes it can work. Unless you are selfish and don't care about her, then it won't.

I've seen great lives being built where one spouse was a Christian and the other wasn't. So it's up to you.
 
She probably just a Spamslut. Some people can't control them selves and have to forward mail to EVERYone. I hate those people! No offense Bobbin, but I hate your Gf.
 
bsntombela said:
I think it's better to discuss it with her IMMEDIATELY. Believe me, it's only a matter of time till she starts with the "What are your plans for you and I" " I'm not getting any younger" "I think I'm ready for marriage and kids" "My high-school friends are all married and some already have kids" stories!
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And what is the issue with being married with Children? Are you 2 years old? Can't handle the Big Men's world?
 
Good god that would send me running for the hills :p

I am guessing blasting a Slayer album when you get home from work is a no no? :D
 
blunomore said:
Has she never discussed her religious inclinations with you before? Up to now, has she spent a lot of time on religion - i.e. church, reading the Bible, attending Bible study groups, etc.

If not, you need to find out what made her change her behaviour ?
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This makes me think she's met a guy who's religious and she's now trying to get his attention...just saying :p
 
Venom Rush said:
This makes me think she's met a guy who's religious and she's now trying to get his attention...just saying :p
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God made her change her behaviour. You guys are going where it's unnecessary. Can it work is the question? Answer is yes. The rest is not up to speculation.
 
If you both love each other then you both should understand first that you have to accept each other with what you are, and discuss matters clearly, and if it is a true love then definitely it is going to work, other wise both have to move forward and find a good match.
 
Sounds like a nightmare. I know what I would do but it totally depends on your situation. Good luck!
 
teraside said:
God made her change her behaviour. You guys are going where it's unnecessary. Can it work is the question? Answer is yes. The rest is not up to speculation.
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So much for God giving us free will :wtf:
 
teraside said:
It's her will to follow Him, so the OP can either accept it or not. That's it.
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I have to disagree. If it's a sudden change in behaviour then he needs to find out why. If my gf suddenly got religious I'd be asking questions.
 
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