Taking back the ex

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One of my friends just got back with his. Would you?

Personally, I wouldn't because there's a reason why it didn't work - it was broken, FUBAR, as in F'ed Up Beyond Any Repair. But, this is my take on it. What's yours?
 
Too little detail to comment on their situation, but if it was a trivial issue and both agreed to work around such issues, then nothing wrong with getting back together again
 
Well there is this one chick I know who is in a four year relationship and she broke up with him for about 8 months in that period. So yes, it is clearly possible.

However, I don't think I'd be able to do that. That lingering feeling of "Why we broke up?" will always be in the back of my mind...
 
i was in a relationship for 3 years and then we broke up and was for other reasons i cannot say

nothing of cheating or falling out of love or krap or space

was genuine reasons and well we got back together and everything is in place better than before
 
Korn1 said:
Pretty much depends on why the relationship failed in the first place.
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+1

... and if you really love the person - as well as good a manipulator they are - can also add complexities
 
Heck, I know a couple who got divorced early on, the guy remarried, got divorced, then they got back together again and have been happily married for probably 10 years now.:wtf:

Sometimes things work out better later.......go figure.
 
OGroteKoning said:
Too little detail to comment on their situation, but if it was a trivial issue and both agreed to work around such issues, then nothing wrong with getting back together again
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That's just it, the detail would be different for everyone.

In their situation, there was no cheating involved, but apparently, the dumper had issues with the relationship and thus decided to leave, without discussing it with my friend. Quite a few veiled comments flew to and fro on Facebook during the two months that they were broken up, but, they decided to meet over the weekend to talk things through, and now they're back together.

Ag, maybe I'm being pessimistic. Who knows; maybe it'll work this time.
 
HammerDown said:
Heck, I know a couple who got divorced early on, the guy remarried, got divorced, then they got back together again and have been happily married for probably 10 years now.:wtf:

Sometimes things work out better later.......go figure.
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I have friend who divorced his first wife, cheated on his then girlfriend, with his first wife, then remarried his first wife, and now is getting divorced from her again; oh, I think that she is divorcing him this time.

PS: This is why I don't need to watch TV :D
 
samr1wp said:
i was in a relationship for 3 years and then we broke up and was for other reasons i cannot say

nothing of cheating or falling out of love or krap or space

was genuine reasons and well we got back together and everything is in place better than before
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Come on sam1r, we know that she dropped your @ss back then because she din't have time to raise children :P and now that you're all grown up, it's all good :D
 
HammerDown said:
Sometimes things work out better later.......go figure.
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True - guess there can be just wrong timing.

EDIT : I'd hate to fall for someone now ... she's not ready and still wants to fsck around with others ... then in a year comes back to me. I'd feel like she got the best of both worlds, which would seriously annoy me
 
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Like others said...depends on why they broke up. If it is something that can be changed or fixed...then cool. This of course does not include somone having to change their personality. Example...if the one tends to be cold emotionaly etc...this cant be fixed. If it was because he kept on leaving the toilet seat down...this can be fixed by either her getting a fcking life or him making a effort :-)
 
Yeah I'd have no real issue with that. Breakups are usually my fault anyway. I'm a difficult guy to date. Now I exclusively go for long distance relationships. They work for me :)
 
I won't be able to do it.

Firstly, I will make it very clear that if she breaks up with me she better be pretty damn sure, because I keep grudges and getting back together will not be an option. If that makes her uncertain, then she better start talking so we can get our issues fixed.
Secondly, if I break up with her, I am pretty damn sure I never want to touch her again, so that will be that.

In the broader spectrum, I follow the same principle with friends and family. If we don't talk any more, we probably will never talk the way we used to in the foreseeable future.
 
I had a 4 year relationship with a girl, we broke up for a couple of months and got back together again, and now I have been married to her for 16 years.

Yeah so it can work.

sometimes when you young and stupid you want everything (which can cause issues in a relationship) and then you realise after a break up that actually what you had was damn fine in the first place.
 
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