what exactly constitutes cheating?

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Most people will go around telling you that don't forgive a cheater and what not but what exactly constitute cheating?
To cut the story short, I love my girlfriend dearly but I might have to breakup with her because she was dancing with some dude in a Christmas party. We talked about it and she said she will never do it again but I always ask myself why I have to teach someone what to me sounds like common sense. I know it might sound childish but is it? Where exactly do people draw a line? Cheek kissing? Dry lip kissing? Fresh kissing? Grinding? Massage? Dry humping?
 
Rules are simple: If you danced with another girl, that would be cheating even if you obeyed the 1m distance rule. She can dance with another guy, bumping and grinding him and that is 100% OK.

Get over it. I think she needs to dump your arse.
 
Dancing and you flipped your wig? That makes you pretty damn shallow in my opinion.

Any act of passion with someone else is what I see as cheating *shrug*
 
Thread title should be "What exactly constitutes insecurity?". Did she have a few drinks? Eh - Maybe she didn't drink. Either way it sounds like she was just having fun. Have a bit more confidence in yourself and your relationship.
 
She danced with someone 5 months ago and you want to break up now ?? Sounds like you just looking for an excuse.

By the way , this one is weak.
 
There's a Cybershrink article on News24 asking a similar question, except the chap asking thinks having an ongoing explicit text conversation with a girl at work isn't cheating and his wife is overreacting.

The question is why was she dancing with another chap? Were you all lagged out and unwilling to dance when she wanted to or had she said no to you and then gone and danced with the other chap? The answer to that guides the conclusion about how serious it was. If it was the former, then grow a pair and understand that people can just dance innocently at Christmas parties.
 
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I don't know if there is something wrong with my line of thought. The dance was more like grinding. And the 5 months is because I've been trying to get over it
 
winner said:
Most people will go around telling you that don't forgive a cheater and what not but what exactly constitute cheating?
To cut the story short, I love my girlfriend dearly but I might have to breakup with her because she was dancing with some dude in a Christmas party. We talked about it and she said she will never do it again but I always ask myself why I have to teach someone what to me sounds like common sense. I know it might sound childish but is it? Where exactly do people draw a line? Cheek kissing? Dry lip kissing? Fresh kissing? Grinding? Massage? Dry humping?
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You sound a bit insecure... was there alternate motives? Did the guy she danced with want more and did she give it to him? Was it just a quick sokkie dance with a friend?

I think if she likes this guy and is talking to him and behaving in a way that is inviting to the guy then dump her. Because she is bound to cheat on you. and if you do not trust her dump her! If there is no trust in a relationship then it is bound to fail.. might be in a week.. a month.. a year... hell even 10 years, but it will fail.

So either you are the problem or if she is a bit of a floozy.. well you know what to do..

But don't take my advice, because well...

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I have a question...

Why do some couples make linked Facebook profiles? Is it because of insecurities?
 
winner said:
I don't know if there is something wrong with my line of thought. The dance was more like grinding. And the 5 months is because I've been trying to get over it
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Since you have convinced yourself that you are right, and she is a cheater ... yes, she cheated on you. The horror. Move on, she is not wort it. She has broken your trust.

In all seriousness, dude, move on. A relationship is all about trust and its obvious you don't believe there is any.
 
winner said:
Most people will go around telling you that don't forgive a cheater and what not but what exactly constitute cheating?



To cut the story short, I love my girlfriend dearly but I might have to breakup with her because she was dancing with some dude in a Christmas party. We talked about it and she said she will never do it again but I always ask myself why I have to teach someone what to me sounds like common sense. I know it might sound childish but is it? Where exactly do people draw a line? Cheek kissing? Dry lip kissing? Fresh kissing? Grinding? Massage? Dry humping?
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Some random dude or her friend? I agree though, common sense is needed.



This thread is going to teach you why you should never bring your relationship woes onto myBB.
 
Random Hero said:
I have a question...

Why do some couples make linked Facebook profiles? Is it because of insecurities?
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I suspect they think it's so, so cute, and then you're talking to one person and then he/she responds and then he/she responds again and after 5 minutes of he/she responding you have no freaking clue who you're talking to:twisted:
 
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