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rubytox

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It seems as if death has decided to thin out our family. In the last three years we have lost seven family members. :cry:
It started with my sister-in-law who died in her sleep, followed by a lung cancer diagnoses of a brother-in-law ... he died within three months of being diagnosed.
Another brother-in-law, who moved to Australia in 2011, was diagnosed with lung cancer and died within 6 months. Then my cousin (we shared a birthday) died of a heart attack at home, very unexpectedly.
Soon after that my uncle, who we thought was listening to the rugby, died quietly next to his radio.
And today my 41 year old cousin was found dead at home. Nobody knows what happened.

Gosh, I'm dreading this time of year! :cry:
 
So much cancer. Maybe start a quit smoking club in the family and join a running club as fitness also seems to be an issue.
 
Dont worry ruby, it's just part of getting older. The older you get, the more it seems like they are dropping like flies !
I will probably have a heart attack.
On my mothers side, all the siblings have had some procedure done ranging from the common garden variety stents, the the grand triple bypasses - the 1st go go had a fatal heart attack.
On my father's side, one recently had a fatal heart attack.

I just hope it's not too uncomfortable, or happens in too embarrassing a situation !!
 
My sympathies on your losses. I lost my brother and dad within a fortnight of each other. I know it's a cliché, but I really, really value my health and life in general. I count my blessings several times a day and do not sweat the small stuff. I tend to hug my family a lot more now too.
 
Condolences for your losses. Seven family members are lot for a span of three years. Any births?
 
I wanted to start a thread similar to this a while ago.

I've had 3 people who I knew well die suddenly this last 2 months. One woman was in perfect health (55) she died while being sick of a flu. She was just sitting on the couch under a blanket and the next moment she was dead (apparently the flu virus affected her heart ... I was ballistically angry because of the benign symptoms but the critical consequences.

Another 29 old girl (she was the gf of my brother's best friend), they discovered leukaemia at an advanced stage in her, and it wasn't 2 months, and then she died. Her funeral was last Saturday.

There's also an old colleague of my father (but he was old)

And then also a kid in one of my classes whose father died of a heart attack a while ago.

And then a close friend of mine also had a brain tumor identified recently. She went for surgery and apparently it was not malignant ... so she lives and seems fine (although with some decrease in her speaking abilities ... but you never know with those cancerous cells. Those mother ****ers could return any day.
 
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How do they actually diagnose cancer? Do you go in feeling crap and they tell you you're going to die in 2 months?

It's why I don't go to doctors.
 
xrapidx said:
How do they actually diagnose cancer? Do you go in feeling crap and they tell you you're going to die in 2 months?

It's why I don't go to doctors.
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Depends on the cancer but there always seems to be some pretty horrible symptoms, something like leukemia might make you bleed like mad from a tiny cut. Have a friend who's sister's arm become paralyzed on a plain and it turned out she had a brain tumor.

Most of it seems to be really hit and miss, unless there's a superficial features (lumps and the like).
 
My cousin lost her father, sister, uncle and boyfriend all in motorbike accidents and within months of each other...
:cry:
 
rubytox said:
It seems as if death has decided to thin out our family. In the last three years we have lost seven family members. :cry:
It started with my sister-in-law who died in her sleep, followed by a lung cancer diagnoses of a brother-in-law ... he died within three months of being diagnosed.
Another brother-in-law, who moved to Australia in 2011, was diagnosed with lung cancer and died within 6 months. Then my cousin (we shared a birthday) died of a heart attack at home, very unexpectedly.
Soon after that my uncle, who we thought was listening to the rugby, died quietly next to his radio.
And today my 41 year old cousin was found dead at home. Nobody knows what happened.

Gosh, I'm dreading this time of year! :cry:
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I know what you mean, we went through a similar thing a few years ago, but it wasn't family but close friends. Our group has basically halved and all from accidents, suicide and cancer. Felt like every month we were going to funerals. Thankfully, nothing for awhile now.
 
This is a dad thread. But we ask have the same destination and so too the ones close to us. Condolences...
 
jingaling said:
Condolences for your losses. Seven family members are lot for a span of three years. Any births?
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Yes, three new arrivals last year, two girls and a boy. :-)

Picard said:
I wanted to start a thread similar to this a while ago.

I've had 3 people who I knew well die suddenly this last 2 months. One woman was in perfect health (55) she died while being sick of a flu. She was just sitting on the couch under a blanket and the next moment she was dead (apparently the flu virus affected her heart ... I was ballistically angry because of the benign symptoms but the critical consequences.

Another 29 old girl (she was the gf of my brother's best friend), they discovered leukaemia at an advanced stage in her, and it wasn't 2 months, and then she died. Her funeral was last Saturday.

There's also an old colleague of my father (but he was old)

And then also a kid in one of my classes whose father died of a heart attack a while ago.

And then a close friend of mine also had a brain tumor identified recently. She went for surgery and apparently it was not malignant ... so she lives and seems fine (although with some decrease in her speaking abilities ... but you never know with those cancerous cells. Those mother ****ers could return any day.
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My condolences. Once the angel of death has your number, there's not getting away from it.

We are still waiting for the autopsy of my cousin's sudden death. To add insult to injury, this cousin's mother has been diagnosed with brain cancer and had the tumor removed a weeks ago. The doctor told the family that there is a good chance that she would die within a month after the op.
 
Sorry for your loss, death is never pleasant.

What seems concidence though might just be that you're getting older and your family members are getting to the end-of-life stage, even if they seem young still ..

Think about it .. everyone you know is going to die sometime.
Everyone they know is going to die too, we're all going to die.
Not a single one of us isn't .. ;)
 
evilstebunny said:
Sorry for your loss, death is never pleasant.

What seems concidence though might just be that you're getting older and your family members are getting to the end-of-life stage, even if they seem young still ..

Think about it .. everyone you know is going to die sometime.
Everyone they know is going to die too, we're all going to die.
Not a single one of us isn't .. ;)
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True that. Death and taxes we cannot escape.
I feel so sorry for my mom. She is heartbroken about my uncle's death. He used to phone her every Saturday. On the day that he died, she did not phone.
 
rubytox said:
True that. Death and taxes we cannot escape.
I feel so sorry for my mom. She is heartbroken about my uncle's death. He used to phone her every Saturday. On the day that he died, she did not phone.
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Poor mom, she might feel a bit guilty. Also when you have a big family there are plenty of loved ones to die. Makes you feel $h1tty.
 
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