Why Did You Marry?

We got engaged 9 months into the relationship, decided that getting married is just a piece of paper and that we'd skip that. After my son arrived, things changed, and I thought it was the proper thing to do, even though I knew deep down that it wasn't the greatest idea. 8 years later, I finally decided to pull the plug. Things don't always work out, and when your gut tells you not to do it, trust it.
 
My 2 rules for life are don't get married and don't have kids. Broken them both twice, first time lasted a little over 10 years (proposed over the phone from Navy basics), second time is coming up for 13 years married, 15 years together.

As to why.....first time around I wanted what my parents had/have. Second time, wanted to be with her
 
ShaunSA said:
We've been together 20 years now. Did the civil union thing for legal purposes and that will be exactly 12 years on Saturday.

We didn't need to get married but if I could spend another seven lifetimes with him I doubt even that would be enough.
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My wife and I will also be 12 years next month. While she pisses me off multiple times I day I don't regret marrying her. Best thing to ever happen to me.

She traveled many kilometers with me this weekend, slept in a really shitty guesthouse and assisted me with work all day Saturday after working really long hours all week and starting at 5h30 every morning and still didn't complain about the little to no sleep.

Even being smash and grabbed after her arsehole husband let her go home alone wasn't too much.
 
Don't want to die alone. And now have a cook and cleaner on staff.
 
Craig_ said:
My wife and I will also be 12 years next month. While she pisses me off multiple times I day I don't regret marrying her. Best thing to ever happen to me.

She traveled many kilometers with me this weekend, slept in a really shitty guesthouse and assisted me with work all day Saturday after working really long hours all week and starting at 5h30 every morning and still didn't complain about the little to no sleep.

Even being smash and grabbed after her arsehole husband let her go home alone wasn't too much.
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I think after a while the stuff they do that pisses you off becomes the stuff you miss the most if they're not around lol

Sorry about the last line. But that schit could/would have happened with or without you there
 
ShaunSA said:
I think after a while the stuff they do that pisses you off becomes the stuff you miss the most if they're not around lol

Sorry about the last line. But that schit could/would have happened with or without you there
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Thank you. I feel really bad. She took sick leave now, has been crying most of the morning and I'm still sitting at the airport far from her. I feel like dog ****, drove around gauteng all weekend and nothing happened, back in Cape town she gets into sht.
 
soulie said:
my wife and i are still best friends after 33years .never had a fight yet .i treated her as a medic at an accident when she was 11 ,we met again 9 years later and are still together .
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How have you never fought/disagreed? What does fight mean to you - no arguments, shouting ?

We argue like cats and dogs, but that's because we are very strong minded and stand our ground on the things sacrosanct to us and polar opposite in some things.

Just really want to know because I think maybe sometimes I should just shut up and not share an opinion.
 
TedLasso said:
How have you never fought/disagreed? What does fight mean to you - no arguments, shouting ?

We argue like cats and dogs, but that's because we are very strong minded and stand our ground on the things sacrosanct to us and polar opposite in some things.

Just really want to know because I think maybe sometimes I should just shut up and not share an opinion.
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He must have married a man..
 
Divorced now for almost 2.5 years & enjoying it very much (was married for just under 9 years). Life is relatively stress-free. Pros & Cons and what not.

The longer time goes on the less I see myself shacking up again but the future is not set in stone.
 
TedLasso said:
How have you never fought/disagreed? What does fight mean to you - no arguments, shouting ?

We argue like cats and dogs, but that's because we are very strong minded and stand our ground on the things sacrosanct to us and polar opposite in some things.

Just really want to know because I think maybe sometimes I should just shut up and not share an opinion.
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my wifes to clever to get drawn into squabbles.we respect each others privacy and thoughts ,each is entitled to opinion ,dunno just never have bad hair days ,but if i look at friends .damn .scary **** .lifes too short for arguments ,besides she grew up on a farm with wild horses,pigs and lots of brothers ,would probably beat me up .
 
Willie Trombone said:
FTFY
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sjoe , fortunately not .she lived on a farm 60 km from town ,she recognised me and pounced on me ,it was quite traumatic ,ive never regreted it .if you ever find a book called "a paramedics children" .get it and read it.She was but a child when i treated her .
 
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