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You meet up with an old friend again after many years. Just to promise you will get together again at a later stage. Months go by and you don't make an effort. You get the news he passed away in a Bike accident and you try and understand what kept you from getting together as you promised?

It's so damn annoying.

Actually reminds people of how import today and now is ...

Can't stop thinking about the last meeting we had a few months ago and the fact that I never made an effort to see him again. I can keep on coming up with excusses but none of those excuses are valid ones.

Sigh
 
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Xmailer9 said:
it wasn't meant to be ?
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i would think so to ...i dont think its something to "cry" about

look we lose contact of people and when we meet again people say lets meet for drinks or something ...like a norm to say that

but we get caught up again as usual just like not seeing that person for few years

its different if we were in contact chatting talking emailing whatever but not seeing the person ...

but yeah people are important now adays
 
I have the same situation now come to think of it.

A few years ago I bumped into an old friend who was with me in the army in the late 1980's. We chatted every now and then and we have supposed to hook up for some chats but I have been busy and have never found the time to get together. I mean we talking over 20 odd years since we were in the army and we bump into each other on a bus in 2009/2010 so have plenty catching up to do.
 
I know what it's like to be in a position when much more than just a casual meeting for drinks has been squandered, where I also knew the only reason it was squandered is because of my own exceedingly petty fears. One's mind will automatically start conjuring up reasons, but every time you check yourself knowing they are very poor excuses.

It's a mixture of feelings : regret, bitterness, dismay, etc, and it can be quite intense. Only time can heal that, but it will never go away, every now and then it might haunt again.

Time just gets away from us.
 
Life happens and it goes by too fast nowadays. We have a predisposition in always thinking that there will be another chance or opportuninity. Fact is that there is only now, and it is arrogant of us to think otherwise. That being said almost everyone has had the situation where they regret not doing something or another.
 
acidman1 said:
Life happens and it goes by too fast nowadays. We have a predisposition in always thinking that there will be another chance or opportuninity. Fact is that there is only now, and it is arrogant of us to think otherwise. That being said almost everyone has had the situation where they regret not doing something or another.
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time does fly too fast but thats where we need to know the importance of family and friends and that how to divide and make time for them ....
 
Because you didn't actually like him/her. Or now that they're dead you realised that you never keep your promises and that you're a liar.

Happens to me quite often.
 
It happens.

I don't think that when he died his last thoughts were, "Damn that Pitbull, he never bothered to see me in the end!" :p

Live life with no regrets, accept that things don't always work out the way we hope and make the most of how you currently feel (share it with your loved ones).

Mostly, just accept that life happens :)
 
Happens to me all the time (loosing touch, not the bike part). Esp when its a time where ppl go their separate ways (school end, uni end etc) or where there are overseas people involved (Diplomats etc).
 
Pitbull said:
Can't stop thinking about the last meeting we had a few months ago and the fact that I never made an effort to see him again.
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On the other hand did he make any effort to contact you ?

I can understand feeling bad if he was trying to contact you and you fobbed him off, didnt take his phone calls , were too busy etc etc.

Friendship is a mutual arrangement, it goes both ways.

At 47 i understand the following, we change, our lives change, friendships come and go, people move on, some remain, we lose contact, we regain contact even for a brief moment and then they are gone again.
If that briefness of contact brought a smile to your face and his, you shared a laugh and not a harsh word, then it is worth a good memory.
 
it wasn't meant to be that you 2 were meant to be friends or close. people come into our lives and then they move on/leave as such. there is a reason for someone being in ones life at that specific moment. he wasn't meant to be in your life otherwise he would have also made an effort to contact you.
 
We all know that this life is not forever but we forget. That that person is gone is supposed to serve as a reminder that we are all engrossed in this world but we don't do better. We know better, but don't DO better. We leave a bad example for our kids, let them follow our bad example and push the envelope further. Its an evolution of a money focused life.
 
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