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So my little mite has got a really nasty flu. My parents work from home and are in the area so I know she is being looked after during the day while she is ill but I feel sooooo guilty that I'm not home with her.

I have a major work project on at the moment and people have flown out from the US for this meeting tomorrow and I really can't miss it, but I'm feeling so torn.

How do others manage? Do you suck it up and deal with the guilt? I know it's just a flu but its such a powerless feeling to see my sproglet so miserable and I just want to stay home and cuddle her better. Bare in mind, I'm also about to ask for more €€ so my performance and presence at this meeting is paramount to my negotiations. But my small child is so sickly :(

Guilt guilt guilt :(
 
I understand how you feel, my wife has exactly the same thing when our daughter got sick a little while ago. Feels guilty that she has to work and cannot look after her, feels guilty when she gets sick. Its not easy being a working mom.
 
The world today has no place for compassion. Feeling guilty is just a waste of energy and your child needs to learn quickly that these days the world cares very little about your personal problems it's all about what the world needs from you, otherwise you gonna be very poor if all you can offer is compassion, honesty , integrity etc...

My own mother raised me by herself, she had no time for guilt otherwise we were gonna go hungry and left out in the cold fast.

My dad ran away, if you ever wondered.
 
k86k said:
The world today has no place for compassion. Feeling guilty is just a waste of energy and your child needs to learn quickly that these days the world cares very little about your personal problems it's all about what the world needs from you, otherwise you gonna be very poor if all you can offer is compassion, honesty , integrity etc...

My own mother raised me by herself, she had no time for guilt otherwise we were gonna go hungry and left out in the cold fast.

My dad ran away, if you ever wondered.
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not a parent.
 
This is why my wife decided to quit work when she fell pregnant. She told me that our children mean more to her than any career or even the better lifestyle two salaries could bring. I supported her in that and figure out a way for us to live on just my salary.
 
blunomore said:
Feelings of guilt is intrinsically connnected to being a mother!
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And I will live 1000 years and still be nowhere close to understanding women. :D

When our son is sick...sure, I feel kark that he is sick and feeling terrible etc...but I dont feel guilty because I cant be with him and Im at work. He normally gets looked after by someone and stays home...so even though we are at work...he has someone caring for him.

But ja...I dont get this whole guilt thing about not being there with the child when they are sick, and all my guy friends I speak with (that have kids) share the same thoughts as me.

It's just part of being a woman I guess...which us men will never understand...not even closely :D :p
 
CrazyFig said:
And I will live 1000 years and still be nowhere close to understanding women. :D

When our son is sick...sure, I feel kark that he is sick and feeling terrible etc...but I dont feel guilty because I cant be with him and Im at work. He normally gets looked after by someone and stays home...so even though we are at work...he has someone caring for him.

But ja...I dont get this whole guilt thing about not being there with the child when they are sick, and all my guy friends I speak with (that have kids) share the same thoughts as me.

It's just part of being a woman I guess...which us men will never understand...not even closely :D :p
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True.

I guess it is because we are physically connected to our children.
 
Cius said:
This is why my wife decided to quit work when she fell pregnant. She told me that our children mean more to her than any career or even the better lifestyle two salaries could bring. I supported her in that and figure out a way for us to live on just my salary.
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We did the same and I'm quite happy with this arrangement.
 
Cius said:
This is why my wife decided to quit work when she fell pregnant. She told me that our children mean more to her than any career or even the better lifestyle two salaries could bring. I supported her in that and figure out a way for us to live on just my salary.
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Unfortunately not everyone can afford to do that now days.
It takes both my wife's and my salary to make ends meet and the only way to survive on one salary would be to sell our house and move into an informal settlement (because renting would cost nearly the same as the bond).

My wife did not want to return to work after her maternity leave. :(
 
And... Mothers have a relationship/bond with their children AUTOmatically; while men have to 'work' (not work/occupation at the job but) at having a relationship with their children and needless to say many fathers doesnt make it
 
I also feel guilty when I have to work & leave baba at home. So I make up for it by leaving early so i can spend abit more time with him before he sleeps at night. Just until he feels better again.
 
mooks said:
Well that's just depressing.

/me leaves with her working mother guilt in overdrive
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Sorry Mooks, wasnt meant to get you depressed.
As I say, Quality over Quantity.
Some Mother's claim to spend time with the kids but behind the scenes they spend the day at Gym and Vida and Sophie the Au Pair does the rest.
 
You feel like this about leaving a little baby with the sniffles and that's normal and good. It means you're not broken.

Consider though the example you're setting. You mention that your child is a little girl. You're a woman, with a career, setting a fine example for your daughter.

Women are not just baby incubators but capable and required to contribute to society, especially the business world in meaningful ways.

You are one such woman and I suspect you're busy raising another. The world needs more women like that. Thank you!

:)
 
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