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I quickly want your take on this,

I met this girl and we have been seeing each other +- a month now, we met on a date site.
She is very intelligent, sweet and an absolutely gorgeous girl. 1 – 10 she is a 10

Now here come the challenge, and maybe im wrong.
She is very talkative and vocal, she has LOADS of male friends and half of them flirt with her, She says I don’t have to worry, I can trust her, she does not flirt back. (Or so she says), She told me before we met under absolutely no circumstances am I allowed to touch her phone (not that I was ever going to), but now that she has mentioned it, one does get curious.

Now she is still on this dating site we met on, she goes online every now and again and she says she only does it to talk to guys and girls to make friends.

Im not sure if im being old school about everything, not liking her talking to loads of guys, and I kind of stripped my moer when I saw she is still on the dating site.
So I’m I wrong and I’m being jealous, and I should trust her.
Or should I tell her if me and my conversations is not enough for her, she can take her sakkie lemoene en fckoff.
 
Start talking to other girls and making "friends" with other girls and give her a taste of her own medicine. Let's see how she likes that!
 
Looney said:
Start talking to other girls and making "friends" with other girls and give her a taste of her own medicine. Let's see how she likes that!
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I did tell her this, she told me it does not bother her at all as she trusts me.
 
You've only been seeing her for about a month so it doesn't sound very serious yet
 
Having male friends should not be a problem but the fact that she lets them flirt with her is a big problem.
Even though she she says she does not flirt back.

Either she needs to make it clear to them that they are friends or she needs to go.
Once she makes it clear to them where they stand, the true friends will stay behind and the others will vanish.
 
Lament said:
I quickly want your take on this,

I met this girl and we have been seeing each other +- a month now, we met on a date site.
She is very intelligent, sweet and an absolutely gorgeous girl. 1 – 10 she is a 10

Now here come the challenge, and maybe im wrong.
She is very talkative and vocal, she has LOADS of male friends and half of them flirt with her, She says I don’t have to worry, I can trust her, she does not flirt back. (Or so she says), She told me before we met under absolutely no circumstances am I allowed to touch her phone (not that I was ever going to), but now that she has mentioned it, one does get curious.

Now she is still on this dating site we met on, she goes online every now and again and she says she only does it to talk to guys and girls to make friends.

Im not sure if im being old school about everything, not liking her talking to loads of guys, and I kind of stripped my moer when I saw she is still on the dating site.
So I’m I wrong and I’m being jealous, and I should trust her.
Or should I tell her if me and my conversations is not enough for her, she can take her sakkie lemoene en fckoff.
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I lol'd. Of course she flirts back. You just need to make a decision whether you can deal with that or not. Some people are just flirty by nature & you can't really tell them to stop (won't work)
 
Lament said:
I quickly want your take on this,

I met this girl and we have been seeing each other +- a month now, we met on a date site.
She is very intelligent, sweet and an absolutely gorgeous girl. 1 – 10 she is a 10

Now here come the challenge, and maybe im wrong.
She is very talkative and vocal, she has LOADS of male friends and half of them flirt with her, She says I don’t have to worry, I can trust her, she does not flirt back. (Or so she says), She told me before we met under absolutely no circumstances am I allowed to touch her phone (not that I was ever going to), but now that she has mentioned it, one does get curious.

Now she is still on this dating site we met on, she goes online every now and again and she says she only does it to talk to guys and girls to make friends.

Im not sure if im being old school about everything, not liking her talking to loads of guys, and I kind of stripped my moer when I saw she is still on the dating site.
So I’m I wrong and I’m being jealous, and I should trust her.
Or should I tell her if me and my conversations is not enough for her, she can take her sakkie lemoene en fckoff.
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Stick it to her good and hard!!!



Then run. She's just trouble, get out now. But bang her good first.
 
She's screwing them... almost a guarantee, especially if you're getting the "Don't touch my phone" and she's still logging in to the dating site.
 
Raise the topic with her. Tell her how her actions make you feel. If she says that youre overreacting and that the people she chats with are just friends... Ask her how many she's met in person. Those I personally wouldn't have issues with her (if she was my SO) chatting to. But then also - why not on Telegram (or even the outdated Whatsapp). Why must it be the dating site?
But if she hasn't met them and still wants to chat to them... Thats a concern. Those are her "plan B" contacts. And in my opinion - she should relax on the social media to give you two the best shot at making something out of a new union. Outside interference by new suitors wont strengthen what youre trying to solidify.

Also...

I really think this post needs PICS !
 
Run.

- Why is she still on the site? Her reasons are suspect at best.
- Nothing wrong with having friends, friends do not flirt with each other.
- The NEVER touch my phone thing is also VERY suspect.
 
You have to decide whether you trust her or not. That's all there is to it. If you don't trust her then move on, if you do trust her then allow her to live her life. Expecting someone to behave in a way you find acceptable will always end in tears and frustration.
 
Pitbull said:
Stick it to her good and hard!!!



Then run. She's just trouble, get out now. But bang her good first.
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This.

She's keeping her options open. She's got you now, but what if someone better come along through her dating site, or one of her male friends? Nothing wrong with that IMO, but see the situation for what it is.

Also if you start going steady for a few months, revisit and see how willing she is to become more "exclusive". If she isn't, cut your losses and move on.

Also pics of 10/10 HBB are required by MyBB rules.
 
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