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I've been dating this girl for 4 months. Basically in love with her, to put it in a nutshell. Yesterday she saw a conversation between me and a friend of mine (girl) on whatsapp. I however know this girl for many years and consider her a very good friend. In the conversation we spoke about my gf getting jealous over a very small incident that occured on fb and it being childish to an extent. My friend also likes making comments about my physique and made some remarks about me looking good etc. I just said thanx "babe" which means nothing according to me.

Anyway my gf started crying after reading this and was totally down in the dumps. I tried explaining but to no avail. She wants nothing to do with me, and is now liking other guys pics and chatting to them on fb etc. (note i'm not stalking, stuff pops up on my newsfeeds). She says that she wants to wait before she changes her relationship status on fb because she's not ready to answer all the questions. I however feel this is unfair towards me, because i care for her and here i'm still showing up as in a relationship with her but she's chatting up to guys and hates me.

I also don't want to immediately change my status due to the fact that she might change her mind and forgive me (still don't feel i was really at fault). What should i do?

Love this girl and this situation is quite painful.
 
OP take my advice and try to delete this thread before you get ripped apart by the lovely forum members.
 
4 months is little bit early to go drama queen. But yea, women be crazy when it comes to other women.... and calling your female friend babe.. eish...

ok I lol'd

She says that she wants to wait before she changes her relationship status on fb because she's not ready to answer all the questions

and

I also don't want to immediately change my status due to the fact that she might change her mind and forgive me

That made my week :D
 
:D I lol'd a couple times, never call another woman babe. I take it you've apologised a couple times and explained the situation. Personally(I'm no romance guru0 I'd let her get over the drama, you weren't wrong and explained yourself. If she trusts you shel'll get over it.

Disclaimer: I've had many a thread on relationships so what do i know :p
 
TelkomUseless said:
4 months is little bit early to go drama queen. But yea, women be crazy when it comes to other women.... and calling your female friend babe.. eish...

ok I lol'd

She says that she wants to wait before she changes her relationship status on fb because she's not ready to answer all the questions

and

I also don't want to immediately change my status due to the fact that she might change her mind and forgive me

That made my week :D
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i call my girl friends darling and dear and schit

dont mean schit
 
Croxley said:
I've been dating this girl for 4 months. Basically in love with her, to put it in a nutshell. Yesterday she saw a conversation between me and a friend of mine (girl) on whatsapp. I however know this girl for many years and consider her a very good friend. In the conversation we spoke about my gf getting jealous over a very small incident that occured on fb and it being childish to an extent. My friend also likes making comments about my physique and made some remarks about me looking good etc. I just said thanx "babe" which means nothing according to me.

Anyway my gf started crying after reading this and was totally down in the dumps. I tried explaining but to no avail. She wants nothing to do with me, and is now liking other guys pics and chatting to them on fb etc. (note i'm not stalking, stuff pops up on my newsfeeds). She says that she wants to wait before she changes her relationship status on fb because she's not ready to answer all the questions. I however feel this is unfair towards me, because i care for her and here i'm still showing up as in a relationship with her but she's chatting up to guys and hates me.

I also don't want to immediately change my status due to the fact that she might change her mind and forgive me (still don't feel i was really at fault). What should i do?

Love this girl and this situation is quite painful.
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A rule of thumb when dealing with women whilst in a relationship.

Talk to your "girlfriends" in the same way you would speak to your guy friends.

WOuld you say to one of your mates "babe" No didn't think so. Come on man. :wtf:
 
Keep your distance with the ladies, especially on chat lines. Everything is recorded and you never know when your significant other will read your "correspondence".

If you do chat online, or whatever, always chat with a view that your girlfriend will read it. That should self censure yourself.
 
she changed it, so doesn't really matter now...thanx for the "bashing"
 
Croxley said:
In the conversation we spoke about my gf getting jealous over a very small incident that occured on fb and it being childish to an extent. My friend also likes making comments about my physique and made some remarks about me looking good etc. I just said thanx "babe" which means nothing according to me.
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This incident should have already given you an indication as to how sensitive your gf is. How did you expect her to react when reading the conversation?
 
Croxley said:
she changed it, so doesn't really matter now...thanx for the "bashing"
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That's great, congratulations. :)

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I agree that 4 months is a little short ... but that said I get attached quite quickly too.

But I do think you shouldn't call her babe and perhaps it's a little inappropriate. I'd be annoyed too
 
Dolby said:
I agree that 4 months is a little short ... but that said I get attached quite quickly too.

But I do think you shouldn't call her babe and perhaps it's a little inappropriate. I'd be annoyed too
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I agree, if my wife called a guy babe, I would not be happy. Even at 4 months dating, I would not be happy.

What you did was very bad Croxley. :(
 
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