Respecting private life.

Kosmik

Honorary Master
Joined
Sep 21, 2007
Messages
31,118
Reaction score
11,599
Location
In the valley
I think this needs a discussion or a refresh if before. Basically as the title says, respecting people's private lives and time by employers.

In the EU I think, there is now the "right to disconnect".


Personally I've had prior experiences where there have been expectations of work outside of the normal hours or response. Pre covid, it was often driven by folks leaving tasks to last minute but then expecting bailouts by others to assist, of course with the expectation of it needing to be done even though it was dropped 5 minutes before end of day on Friday and needed for something urgent during the weekend or by first thing Monday.

During and post covid, it's gotten worse Remote work or even return to office and from remote work, is the expectation of instant communication . Where tools like teams, zoom, slack etc were meant to provide collaboration and improved communication, are now often used as a means to expect replies or service after hours or on off times.

Don't get me wrong, there are times when responses are needed as when critical infrastructure fails or immediate issues arise but those are emergencies and critical failures. Not common place or unrealistic expectations dropped in the dying minutes.

Never mind my own experiences, I have friends who are part of a company that has now asked for employees to work in a group, out of company time, to submit a concept/project competitively.... and the reward.... more work and camaraderie. Family members in non tech fields are doing lecture and teaching work, spending long hours at night and weekends , drowning additional admin and load.

To be honest, I personally drew a line years ago when I realized that folks won't. But so many are stuck doing it. Many of the older generation also keep going because of the work culture they were raised in. People, homes and families live's are being destroyed and it feels worse every year.

Regardless, thought it worth starting a thread to share stories and for folks to vent or express thoughts and frustrations.
 
Private time is private time. Unless they are going to pay me overtime I dont answer work emails or phone calls after work.

(I would take a call if the boss called and he needed all hands on deck due to some critical incident) but apart from that they can go to hell.

All of my work colleagues are the same - we are not expected to work after hours and are not asked to.

If I got asked to complete a big job 5 mins before hometime they can just wait until the next day. Maybe it's the company/management I work with that respect peoples private time. No one has ever dropped a big workload on me just before home time and expected it right there and then.
 
Theme of this thread:
images
 
When you accept the fact that you are just an employee and when you make your mind up that you can resign tomorrow, your life changes for the better. Mask on at work, mask off at 5pm
 
I think this needs a discussion or a refresh if before. Basically as the title says, respecting people's private lives and time by employers.

In the EU I think, there is now the "right to disconnect".


Personally I've had prior experiences where there have been expectations of work outside of the normal hours or response. Pre covid, it was often driven by folks leaving tasks to last minute but then expecting bailouts by others to assist, of course with the expectation of it needing to be done even though it was dropped 5 minutes before end of day on Friday and needed for something urgent during the weekend or by first thing Monday.

During and post covid, it's gotten worse Remote work or even return to office and from remote work, is the expectation of instant communication . Where tools like teams, zoom, slack etc were meant to provide collaboration and improved communication, are now often used as a means to expect replies or service after hours or on off times.

Don't get me wrong, there are times when responses are needed as when critical infrastructure fails or immediate issues arise but those are emergencies and critical failures. Not common place or unrealistic expectations dropped in the dying minutes.

Never mind my own experiences, I have friends who are part of a company that has now asked for employees to work in a group, out of company time, to submit a concept/project competitively.... and the reward.... more work and camaraderie. Family members in non tech fields are doing lecture and teaching work, spending long hours at night and weekends , drowning additional admin and load.

To be honest, I personally drew a line years ago when I realized that folks won't. But so many are stuck doing it. Many of the older generation also keep going because of the work culture they were raised in. People, homes and families live's are being destroyed and it feels worse every year.

Regardless, thought it worth starting a thread to share stories and for folks to vent or express thoughts and frustrations.

People at work know, come 5pm my work laptop gets closed. You can’t get hold of me again until 9am the next working day.
 
I think this needs a discussion or a refresh if before. Basically as the title says, respecting people's private lives and time by employers.

In the EU I think, there is now the "right to disconnect".


Personally I've had prior experiences where there have been expectations of work outside of the normal hours or response. Pre covid, it was often driven by folks leaving tasks to last minute but then expecting bailouts by others to assist, of course with the expectation of it needing to be done even though it was dropped 5 minutes before end of day on Friday and needed for something urgent during the weekend or by first thing Monday.

During and post covid, it's gotten worse Remote work or even return to office and from remote work, is the expectation of instant communication . Where tools like teams, zoom, slack etc were meant to provide collaboration and improved communication, are now often used as a means to expect replies or service after hours or on off times.

Don't get me wrong, there are times when responses are needed as when critical infrastructure fails or immediate issues arise but those are emergencies and critical failures. Not common place or unrealistic expectations dropped in the dying minutes.

Never mind my own experiences, I have friends who are part of a company that has now asked for employees to work in a group, out of company time, to submit a concept/project competitively.... and the reward.... more work and camaraderie. Family members in non tech fields are doing lecture and teaching work, spending long hours at night and weekends , drowning additional admin and load.

To be honest, I personally drew a line years ago when I realized that folks won't. But so many are stuck doing it. Many of the older generation also keep going because of the work culture they were raised in. People, homes and families live's are being destroyed and it feels worse every year.

Regardless, thought it worth starting a thread to share stories and for folks to vent or express thoughts and frustrations.
My thoughts on this are the company owns my time for 8 hours during the working day.

Anything non critical outside of those hours is 100% at my discretion and that is usually that it can wait until tomorrow.
I don't get paid or compensated for extra work so it doesn't happen unless I choose to do it.

Critical is obviously a different issue entirely, but again it's still largely a my discretion definition of critical.
 
You see there are two sides to this and it all boils down to flexibility.

If you are going to be that rigid about out of hours, then you shouldn’t have a moan when the employer expect you to be at the office exactly at 8:00 and then do your full 9 hours and also take exactly and only the allotted lunch time.

No shortcuts, no leaving five minutes earlier, no “quickly shooting out to the doctor” you should then be booking leave by the hour or taking a half day etc.

On the flipside if you company is offering you loads of flexibility, rocking up when you want and leaving when you want and not constantly clock watching your arrival or god forbid expecting time sheets from you, with lunch time being a loose suggestion then is it really such a drama to do a bit of after hours work once in a blue moon? Especially when the flexibility means you just start a bit later the next day and your schedule shifts and you aren’t really doing any “extra” work.

I operate in exactly that latter system and it works just fine for me, and on average it all levels out.

Entirely different story if it’s exploitative in nature and week after week you are doing 10 extra hours for free and they are all in your personal time.

And the “for free” part of it the other side of that coin. Being in IT a bit of standby is always on the cards but this isn’t extra work and isn’t adhoc in nature but something agreed on up front and you should be paid for being on standby as well as any serious work you have to do while on standby.
 
Maybe a poll is needed. Who is daft enough to do extra work in their own time / takes calls after work (If they are not compensated for it)

I'm also in IT so some standby is expected and you are paid for it.
Company is also flexible - most people start work like 15 mins earlier, dont take full lunch time, maybe work 10 mins extra. If during the day you need to take an hour off to go to the doc/dentist etc they don't mind, You don't need to put in an hour of leave.
 
Maybe a poll is needed. Who is daft enough to do extra work in their own time / takes calls after work (If they are not compensated for it)

I'm also in IT so some standby is expected and you are paid for it.
Company is also flexible - most people start work like 15 mins earlier, dont take full lunch time, maybe work 10 mins extra. If during the day you need to take an hour off to go to the doc/dentist etc they don't mind, You don't need to put in an hour of leave.
I think many places are like this, flexible and approachable. A lot of my stories are from a previous culture where it wasn't quite like this and I can't forget once hearing the phrase, "you should also do it on the weekend because you enjoy the work" . Not compensated, like just do more.

But I've also noticed that remote work places often have a massive expectation of being online 24/7 and able to respond just because of collaboration tools like teams etc on a phone. Sure, odd queries etc but if it's not burning or urgent, it can surely wait.
 
in my experience it is learned behaviour, if you routinely put in extra time it will become the norm and it will be expected
if you draw the boundaries, and rest assured nobody else will, then that is the norm and not much more is expected
of course if there's a real emergency you better be flexible too, or accept that it too will be remembered

but for the routine stuff, it's your responsibility to draw the lines, for the past couple of years I no longer had Slack or Outlook (or whatever you work email client is) installed on my personal phone or personal computer, wasn't really an issue at all, now I have it installed, but all notifications permanently turned off, I only open those apps up when I decide it is necessary, not when someone tags me or messages me

as for the work laptop, well when the day's work is done it gets closed and packed away, only taken out again when the next work day starts unless there was a real emergency

certainly helps being in the same timezone as my employer, I've heard some horror stories from guys who have a big gap in timezone to handle
 
in my experience it is learned behaviour, if you routinely put in extra time it will become the norm and it will be expected
if you draw the boundaries, and rest assured nobody else will, then that is the norm and not much more is expected
of course if there's a real emergency you better be flexible too, or accept that it too will be remembered

but for the routine stuff, it's your responsibility to draw the lines, for the past couple of years I no longer had Slack or Outlook (or whatever you work email client is) installed on my personal phone or personal computer, wasn't really an issue at all, now I have it installed, but all notifications permanently turned off, I only open those apps up when I decide it is necessary, not when someone tags me or messages me

as for the work laptop, well when the day's work is done it gets closed and packed away, only taken out again when the next work day starts unless there was a real emergency

certainly helps being in the same timezone as my employer, I've heard some horror stories from guys who have a big gap in timezone to handle
Agree with this. Teams notifications on my phone are off. After hrs i may or may not check it. Then its by choice.

Tried installing outlook but the policy wants me to allow admin access. How about no.

Last week I had an in office meeting for 8am sent to me at 9pm the previous night. Opened my laptop at 7.45ish and just lol'd. It was a standing recurring meeting to which I had a once off invite. I was the only person who dialled in. Boy did i get it afterwards.

I sent a msg to HR and received an actual acknowledgement. Not an apology. Just an actual ok whatever kinda thing

Fk people who don't understand boundaries
 
You see there are two sides to this and it all boils down to flexibility.

If you are going to be that rigid about out of hours, then you shouldn’t have a moan when the employer expect you to be at the office exactly at 8:00 and then do your full 9 hours and also take exactly and only the allotted lunch time.

No shortcuts, no leaving five minutes earlier, no “quickly shooting out to the doctor” you should then be booking leave by the hour or taking a half day etc.

On the flipside if you company is offering you loads of flexibility, rocking up when you want and leaving when you want and not constantly clock watching your arrival or god forbid expecting time sheets from you, with lunch time being a loose suggestion then is it really such a drama to do a bit of after hours work once in a blue moon? Especially when the flexibility means you just start a bit later the next day and your schedule shifts and you aren’t really doing any “extra” work.

I operate in exactly that latter system and it works just fine for me, and on average it all levels out.

Entirely different story if it’s exploitative in nature and week after week you are doing 10 extra hours for free and they are all in your personal time.

And the “for free” part of it the other side of that coin. Being in IT a bit of standby is always on the cards but this isn’t extra work and isn’t adhoc in nature but something agreed on up front and you should be paid for being on standby as well as any serious work you have to do while on standby.
I lean towards this attitude and mentality as I've matured. In years gone by I would just jump high, even if nobody asked.

You see, the reality is that your standing also matters. It should not, but we know in the real world it does. What I mean is, if you are young, or new in a company, or a lower rung employee, both you and the higher ups are aware that you the employee is often desperate to keep said job for economic reasons and will quietly do extra after hours even if it kills your soul.

Now as we mature and our standing improves, we can set boundaries with more bravado. Still, fear culture is real in many companies, and with many people living with a lot of responsibilities but fewer options, it's a tough balancing act.

So I set my boundaries, but quietly and smartly. To that end, the company is flexible with my time if I come late, leave early, or ask for some time away, so I do play the game and give back if required as well.
 
meeting for 8am sent to me at 9pm the previous night
lol, yeah f-that, even if it is a remote / online meet I might just not attend out of principle

I sometimes do the same when people just blindly book over slots in my calendar that are already booked out, ffs there's a calendar for a reason and I keep mine updated at all times

you don't bother to check if I'm available, expect to learn the error of your ways unless it's a really important meeting
 
I think this needs a discussion or a refresh if before. Basically as the title says, respecting people's private lives and time by employers.

In the EU I think, there is now the "right to disconnect".

EU directives and what actually happens are still two different things.

Most countries manage such things internally under their own national laws.
 
I have a principle of once a person has clocked off, they should enjoy their lives -- healthy activities eg sport/hobbies encouraged; we rent your time and skills for money. I will do as much as possible to never contact my direct colleagues while on leave/study break unless it is an absolute emergency. Only the executives are entitled to my/staff personal numbers and I bark at teams/departments (who have access to or otherwise leaked) who abuse personal details instead of calling the official numbers / logging tickets. Lazy and ineffective communication (I have a problem, but no detail/data) really irks me.

Overtime for my staff is rare, and things should be planned and executed so if there is interruption during business hours it is kept to minimum: but not none. If there must be overtime, staff are compensated (travel+food allowance plus pay/leave in leu of overtime -- I cannot get the latter). Oh you're moving/invading an empty part of the campus tomorrow. When did you know about that? You expect us to plumb your toilets and taps overnight (analogy)...this isn't an informal settlement...no! Infrastructure is planned duly built/installed.

Plan and execute. Communicate ahead unless the work is unexpected.

People have gotten spoiled with getting whatever they want, when they want, at a whim. There's an app for that..

I do hope we get EU type laws regarding work/personal time respect, but likely that'll be abused by the lazy and disrespected by the rest.
 
Top
Sign up to the MyBroadband newsletter
X