Acid attack victim commits suicide

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Pakistani acid attack victim Fakhra Younus had endured more than three dozen surgeries over more than a decade to repair her severely damaged face and body when she finally decided life was no longer worth living.

The 33-year-old former dancing girl - who was allegedly attacked by her then-husband, an ex-parliamentarian and son of a political powerhouse -jumped from the sixth floor of a building in Rome, where she had been living and receiving treatment.

Her March 17 suicide and the return of her body to Pakistan on Sunday re-ignited furore over the case, which received significant international attention at the time of the attack. Her death came less than a month after a Pakistani filmmaker won the country's first Oscar for a documentary about acid attack victims.

Younus' story not only drives home the woeful plight of many women in conservative Muslim Pakistan, it is also a reminder of how the country's rich and powerful operate with impunity. Younus' ex-husband, Bilal Khar, was eventually acquitted, but many believe he used his connections to escape the law's grip - a common occurrence in Pakistan.

More than 8 500 acid attacks, forced marriages and other forms of violence against women were reported in Pakistan in 2011, according to The Aurat Foundation, a women's rights organisation. Because the group relied mostly on media reports, the figure is likely an undercount.

“The saddest part is that she realised that the system in Pakistan was never going to provide her with relief or remedy,” Nayyar Shabana Kiyani, an activist at The Aurat Foundation, said of Younus. “She was totally disappointed that there was no justice available to her.”

Younus was a teenage dancing girl working in the red light district of the southern city of Karachi when she met her future husband, the son of Ghulam Mustafa Khar, a former governor of Pakistan's largest province, Punjab. The unusual pairing was the younger Khar's third marriage. He was in his mid-30s at the time.

The couple was married for three years, but Younus eventually left him because he allegedly physically and verbally abused her. She claimed that he came to her mother's house while she was sleeping in May 2000 and poured acid all over her in the presence of her 5-year-old son from a different man.

Tehmina Durrani, Ghulam Mustafa Khar's ex-wife and his son's stepmother, became an advocate for Younus after the attack, drawing international attention to the case. She said that Younus' injuries were the worst she had ever seen on an acid attack victim.

“So many times we thought she would die in the night because her nose was melted and she couldn't breathe,” said Durrani, who wrote a book about her own allegedly abusive relationship with the elder Khar. “We used to put a straw in the little bit of her mouth that was left because the rest was all melted together.”

She said Younus, whose life had always been hard, became a liability to her family, for whom she was once a source of income.

“Her life was a parched stretch of hard rock on which nothing bloomed,” Durrani wrote in a column in The News after Younus' suicide.

Younus' ex-husband grew up in starkly different circumstances, amid the wealth and power of the country's feudal elite, and counts Pakistani Foreign Minister Hina Rabbani Khar as a cousin.

Bilal Khar once again denied carrying out the acid attack in a TV interview following her suicide, suggesting a different man with the same name committed the crime. He claimed Younus killed herself because she didn't have enough money, not because of her horrific injuries, and criticised the media for hounding him about the issue.

“You people should be a little considerate,” said Khar. “I have three daughters and when they go to school people tease them.”

Younus was energised when the Pakistani government enacted a new set of laws last year that explicitly criminalised acid attacks and mandated that convicted attackers would serve a minimum sentence of 14 years, said Durrani. She hoped to return someday to get justice once her health stabilised.

“She said, 'When I come back, I will reopen the case, and I'll fight myself,' and she was a fighter,” Durrani said.

Durrani had to battle with both Younus' ex-husband and the government to send her to Italy, where the Italian government paid for her treatment and provided her money to live on and send her child to school. Pakistani officials argued that sending Younus to Italy would give the country a bad name, Durrani said.

Younus was happy when Sharmeen Obaid-Chinoy won an Oscar for her documentary about acid attack victims in February, but was worried about being forgotten since she wasn't profiled in the film, said Durrani.

Durrani said Younus' case should be a reminder that the Pakistani government needs to do much more to prevent acid attacks and other forms of violence against women, and also help the victims.

“I think this whole country should be extremely embarrassed that a foreign country took responsibility for a Pakistani citizen for 13 years because we could give her nothing, not justice, not security,” said Durrani. - Sapa-AP
 
This sickens me to the very core of my being !! The Islamic world needs to sit up and take action against these fundementalist ! They represent everything that is wrong !! Shariah will never allow this ! Never !! These people need to be educated.

The saddest part is that this is probably the tip of the iceberg ! The stats as shocking as they are is most likely much higher. How does one stop this ? What can we do to protect these innocent people ? If this was in SA I would personally march to this mans house and probably &*%$ him up. Seriously.
 
This sickens me to the very core of my being !! The Islamic world needs to sit up and take action against these fundementalist ! They represent everything that is wrong !! Shariah will never allow this ! Never !! These people need to be educated.

The saddest part is that this is probably the tip of the iceberg ! The stats as shocking as they are is most likely much higher. How does one stop this ? What can we do to protect these innocent people ? If this was in SA I would personally march to this mans house and probably &*%$ him up. Seriously.

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This sickens me to the very core of my being !! The Islamic world needs to sit up and take action against these fundementalist ! They represent everything that is wrong !! Shariah will never allow this ! Never !! These people need to be educated.

The saddest part is that this is probably the tip of the iceberg ! The stats as shocking as they are is most likely much higher. How does one stop this ? What can we do to protect these innocent people ? If this was in SA I would personally march to this mans house and probably &*%$ him up. Seriously.

The simple answer is to get rid of religion. Love your fellow man not some random god type thing that lives somewhere up in space.
 
The simple answer is to get rid of religion. Love your fellow man not some random god type thing that lives somewhere up in space.

and ladies and gentleman, killa has now solved all of the worlds problems 'lets get rid of religion'...

So , you are saying this is religion's fault? how about looking at Bilal Khar. Surely this man is a monster, and chances are likely that even if he wasn't religious, he would have still done something like this, as he is an evil human being.

Some people use religion as a crutch for their motives, don't make it the scapegoat for this evil S.O.B as well

Tell me Killa, are all religious people evil? do all of them throw acid in woman's faces? If your answer is yes, then the right answer is to get rid of religion, but if you know good religious people, don't paint all of them with the same brush...
 
Sometimes there just isn't enough justice in the world and if that changed so would the inhabitants and their way of thinking and acting.

A very sad thing this.
 
The simple answer is to get rid of religion. Love your fellow man not some random god type thing that lives somewhere up in space.

Thats like saying ban cars to end road accidents. Religion is NOT at fault here , people abuse Religion for their own ill gains. History should us how the Church used fear to rule Europe before. These small little poverty stricken Islamic countries are using their warped interpretation of Shariah for their own gain. It needs to STOP and soon !!!

Really , u should spend a few days with me and my family and see how muslims live. We are no different or more fundementalist than you in general. We just follow our religion faithfully and live accordingly to the best of our abilities but we do normal things like you as well , I love fishing for instance , Watch Super 15 rugby on weekends , Play chess as much as I can. We have family nights , my kids love Disney channel , my wife prefers CSI etc etc.
 
This is not about religion, its about a man wanting domination over a woman. Islam has alot of that though.
 
If this was in SA I would personally march to this mans house and probably &*%$ him up. Seriously.
While I certainly don't agree with what this individual has done is this honestly your response?

You criticise this man for his excessively violent horrific behaviour and then proudly declare that you want to go beat the schit out of him? If this is your response then you are no better than this freak. He must have his day in a fair secular court of law that treats all people equally regardless of race or gender or religion.

Thinking that this sort of vigilante or mob justice is acceptable (as you seem to think) is part of the problem, not the solution. Shame on you.
 
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I don't hear of any reactionary honour attacks against attackers.

Having acid thrown into your sisters face not insulting enough to warrant it?
Would the law not look more kindly on that kind of thing?

Super surprised I have not heard of this happening.
 
The simple answer is to get rid of religion. Love your fellow man not some random god type thing that lives somewhere up in space.
The religion isn't the problem or at the very least isn't the only factor at play here. This is made obvious by the fact that not everyone that practices this religion behaves in this barbaric manner.
 
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I don't hear of any reactionary honour attacks against attackers.

Having acid thrown into your sisters face not insulting enough to warrant it?
Would the law not look more kindly on that kind of thing?

Super surprised I have not heard of this happening.

Because their concept of "honour" is completely ****ed up. How is it honourable to throw acid in someone's face, ever? How the hell is it honourable to attack and kill a rape victim as if it's her own fault?
 
This has less to do with religion than some people would like to think, these sorts of attacks are common in cambodia and vietnam, shall we blame islam for those too?
 
Was there not a 3rd degree or news expose not so long ago where a woman in South Afrca met the same fate?
 
While I certainly don't agree with what this individual has done is this honestly your response?

You criticise this man for his excessively violent horrific behaviour and then proudly declare that you want to go beat the schit out of him? If this is your response then you are no better than this freak. He must have his day in a fair secular court of law that treats all people equally regardless of race or gender or religion.

Thinking that this sort of vigilante or mob justice is acceptable (as you seem to think) is part of the problem, not the solution. Shame on you.


First off it was a emotional response , secondly there is a huge HUGE difference between a PUSKLAP and throwing acid over a persons face. I am not talking about beating the man to death.

Few years ago a guy broke into my house while I was sleeping , luckly my wifes brother was sleeping by us for the night on the coach and saw this SOB entering. We caught him with a knife in his hand , I shudder to think what could have been as my first born was 6 months old then.

I took him to the yard and moered him , yes I admit that. I did not kill him but I am pretty sure he walks with a limp nowdays. How did I justify this ? For me its simple really , he came into my house and tried to kill me and my family. I showed mercy by not doing the same and instead let him off with a warning.

Now that was a few years ago and since then I have changed a hell of a lot but I am human and if someone comes into my house today I might react in the same way , if someone should rape my sister I might react in the same way , if someone throws acid over my daughters face I probably will react in the same way. Its a human reaction to react with anger. I am not perfect but I am fo kken far from this guy. If you cannot see that then I feel really sorry for u. As for the below

He must have his day in a fair secular court of law that treats all people equally regardless of race or gender or religion.

I agree but thats only happens in a perfect world. In the meantime what about the hundreds of thousands of victims of rape , abuse , murder ? etc
 
First off it was a emotional response
Obviously. Doesn't alter my point.


secondly there is a huge HUGE difference between a PUSKLAP and throwing acid over a persons face. I am not talking about beating the man to death.
Doesn't really make a difference as far as I can see. You are still advocating vigilante justice. Unnecessary violence.


Few years ago a guy broke into my house while I was sleeping , luckly my wifes brother was sleeping by us for the night on the coach and saw this SOB entering. We caught him with a knife in his hand , I shudder to think what could have been as my first born was 6 months old then.

I took him to the yard and moered him , yes I admit that. I did not kill him but I am pretty sure he walks with a limp nowdays. How did I justify this ? For me its simple really , he came into my house and tried to kill me and my family. I showed mercy by not doing the same and instead let him off with a warning.
You deserve a prison sentence. You assaulted a man unnecessarily. You were safe and your family was safe and yet you decided to beat this man even though at that point he presented no threat whatsoever to you or your family. Are you proud of this act? If so I say again that you are no better than this individual discussed in the article.


Now that was a few years ago and since then I have changed a hell of a lot but I am human and if someone comes into my house today I might react in the same way, if someone should rape my sister I might react in the same way , if someone throws acid over my daughters face I probably will react in the same way.
And hopefully you will get jailtime if and when you do it. You deserve it.


Its a human reaction to react with anger.
Keep saying that if it makes you feel better about what you have done and your lack of self control. I have encountered many people that have enough self control and respect for the rights of others to keep themselves under control. You have no excuse.


I am not perfect but I am fo kken far from this guy.
Not really no. You take justice into your own hands. You just assume that your subjective view on what is right and wrong is the right one and his is the wrong one. You are both committing needless acts of violence out of a simple need for revenge. Disgusting.


If you cannot see that then I feel really sorry for u. As for the below

I agree but thats only happens in a perfect world. In the meantime what about the hundreds of thousands of victims of rape , abuse , murder ? etc
It happens in a world where people want it to happen and strive for it. Sitting back and going "meh that is impossible so I'm just going to beat the schit out of the guy instead" is unacceptable behaviour.
 
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Obviously. Doesn't alter my point.



Doesn't really make a difference as far as I can see. You are still advocating vigilante justice. Unnecessary violence.

Wait so you saying I am not allowed to feel the way I did ? I should control myself ? So if you should walk in and find someone raping ur daughter you should calmly ask the man to stop so that you can restrain him ?



You deserve a prison sentence. You assaulted a man unnecessarily. You were safe and your family was safe and yet you decided to beat this man even though at that point he presented no threat whatsoever to you or your family. Are you proud of this act? If so I say again that you are no better than this individual discussed in the article.

LOL , seriously ? okay next time I will first ask the man that entered my home with a knife if he is only there for some coffee. How do you know he presented no threat ? Are you for real ? U need some therapy !


And hopefully you will get jailtime if and when you do it. You deserve it.

Once again LOL.



Keep saying that if it makes you feel better about what you have done and your lack of self control. I have encountered many people that have enough self control and respect for the rights of others to keep themselves under control. You have no excuse.

It does not make me feel better , thats why I changed my ways , talking about it does help though, I use to be a very angry person and short tempered. It almost cost me my marraige , years later I disocered that I have major OCD issues and suffer from anxiety and depression , one of my biggest fears has always been that someone will break into my home and hence I checked the locks probably 10 times a night , evens before the breakin. I still do nowadays to be honest. You assuming I have no excuse , thats just pathetic or u just trolling. U must lead a sad life.



Not really no. You take justice into your own hands. You just assume that your subjective view on what is right and wrong is the right one and his is the wrong one. You are both committing needless acts of violence out of a simple need for revenge. Disgusting.

So you cannot see the diffs between throwing acid over the face of an innocent woman vs giving a guy a hiding when you caught him armed in your house ? Lets pause and think about that for a minute. In the one instance the woman was minding her own business and was attacked without provacation and was scarred to such an extent that she need more than 10 medical procedures and yet looked like hell and eventually killed herself ? In the other instance a man went looking to kill or rob or rape someone in their home and got a beating ?



It happens in a world where people want it to happen and strive for it. Sitting back and going "meh that is impossible so I'm just going to beath the schit out of the guy instead" is unacceptable behaviour.

Give me an example of this fantasy world ? And who ever said I am sitting back and going meh that impossible ? What rock have you lived under for the last 20 so years where crime is low and justice is swift and fair ?

Lastly How dare you tell me that I am the same as the idiot ? Who died and made you the custodian of all things fair ? Was it your family at risk when the guy entered into my home ? What kind of warped upbringing did you have to think that the man posed no threat to me or my family ? I dont need to justify my actions , I did not go into his house with the intent of doing grieviously body harm.

PS - Julius is this you ? I mean really you can tell us.
 
Wait so you saying I am not allowed to feel the way I did ? I should control myself ? So if you should walk in and find someone raping ur daughter you should calmly ask the man to stop so that you can restrain him ?
I never said one shouldn't use violence to defend yourself and those you are obligated to protect. You should. In that example you should do everything you can to stop that man hurting those you are obligated to protect.

That is an entirely different scenario to what you have been talking about though.


LOL , seriously ? okay next time I will first ask the man that entered my home with a knife if he is only there for some coffee. How do you know he presented no threat ? Are you for real ? U need some therapy !
No you already said you had subdued the man and taken him out into the yard. You then proceeded to beat the schit out of him. Why beat someone that poses no threat to you? I can see no purpose but revenge.


It does not make me feel better , thats why I changed my ways , talking about it does help though, I use to be a very angry person and short tempered. It almost cost me my marraige , years later I disocered that I have major OCD issues and suffer from anxiety and depression , one of my biggest fears has always been that someone will break into my home and hence I checked the locks probably 10 times a night , evens before the breakin. I still do nowadays to be honest. You assuming I have no excuse , thats just pathetic or u just trolling. U must lead a sad life.
Your OCD is no reason to lose yourself to your emotions and beat the crap out of someone that poses no threat to you. You assaulted that man. Once you had the knife away from him and had subdued him you should have called the police and let justice take it's course. Instead you chose to assault him.

You commited a crime. A very serious one. There is no excuse.


So you cannot see the diffs between throwing acid over the face of an innocent woman vs giving a guy a hiding when you caught him armed in your house ? Lets pause and think about that for a minute. In the one instance the woman was minding her own business and was attacked without provacation and was scarred to such an extent that she need more than 10 medical procedures and yet looked like hell and eventually killed herself ? In the other instance a man went looking to kill or rob or rape someone in their home and got a beating ?
Sure there are differences. The fact still remains though that just like the acid guy you are advocating unnecessary violence. You didn't need to beat that man but you did it anyway. You just assume that your reasons are valid while his are invalid. Both of you are breaking the law and infringing on the human rights of other people in a totally unnecessary manner and you both desperately deserve jailtime.


Give me an example of this fantasy world ? And who ever said I am sitting back and going meh that impossible ? What rock have you lived under for the last 20 so years where crime is low and justice is swift and fair ?
Justice systems aren't always swift and fair. When did I claim this?

and of course you are going meh that is impossible. If you thought it was possible you wouldn't have resorted to beating the schit out of the man instead of letting justice have it's course.


Lastly How dare you tell me that I am the same as the idiot ? Who died and made you the custodian of all things fair ?
Nobody. Unlike acid-man and yourself I don't think I have a right to pass judgement over and administer penalties to people. That is the role of our society's justice system. Both you and acid-man need to be locked up to protect society from your blatant disregard for human rights.


Was it your family at risk when the guy entered into my home ?
Nope. Was it your family at risk when you had the man subdued in your yard? Nope. Which is my point.


What kind of warped upbringing did you have to think that the man posed no threat to me or my family ?
He did. However once you had him in the yard subdued he no longer posed a threat. Duh.

That didn't stop you from beating that crap out of him though.


I dont need to justify my actions , I did not go into his house with the intent of doing grieviously body harm.
Sure but you did assault him after he was subdued. You yourself said you moered the schit out of him. That was unneccessary. You decided that the man wronged you and then you decided on your own penalty instead of letting the justice system handle it. That is exactly what acid man did.

You are a hypocrite.
 
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