Addiction advice thread

Alter Ego said:
I have another nic, but don't want everyone to know I an alcoholic :o

From my point of view you are the only person who can get over the addiction.

Your friends and family can give you support, but at the end of the day it is up to you to decide what is most important for you.

I have been to the AA as well as a counsellor and it did not help. Not saying it won't help for other people, but on a personal level that was not the route for me. Rehab and support institutions cannot help you unless YOU have decided you want to stop.

If you are an addict. Ask yourself the questions
a) Is this the life I want?
b) Can I live with what it is doing to my family/friends?

I have only been sober now for just over 2 months. It is a daily battle. I look at it with humour and joke with my family about it. I have gone months, but never years on my dry streak, however after my last "bottom" I hit, I have made the choice to a better, more fulfilling life.
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It's true, YOU have to make the cjoice for yourself....You have, well done...
But as Hosehead said, many never make that choice until they hit rock bottom...
 
Hi guys.
I think I also have drinking problem.
But I need alcohol to make feel better so it seems justified for me to drink.
It could also be that I want to commit a slow suicide, I wish I knew what makes me abuse alcohol.:confused::o
 
My nasty habit/ Adiction is the casinos! :(

winners know when to stop , thats there motto, problem is im never a winner so i cant stop!
 
I forgot to mention, I will be more than happy to be a support for anybody who has a drinking problem.... Just PM me ;)
 
Uncle X said:
So where is BipolarDude.ADHD ? It's been a while since he posted.:confused:
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Sorry guys....Life aint all roses and stuff for me....Had a little bipolar episode...Stable now and still clean! It was a true test.....

Have a good weekend...Will start posting again next week!:cool:
 
Thank the stars my only addiction is coffee!!! :D

I have tried cigs quite a few times. Also tried weed on a few occasions. But I never wanted any of it after so I am very lucky.

The unfortunate side is knowing someone who after years of drug problems eventually gave up on her life if you know what I mean. Was it the drugs? Or was it the same depression that spurred on the drug use? Probably both, one compounding the other...quick fixes usually cause more damage in the long run.

Also visited a paramedic in hospital who was attacked by someone she tried to help who was high on something. She was in a bad way...apparently the guy was out of control and stronger than you could believe in that state.

I have never ever seen a happy ending with drugs. Only a mended one at the very most. But the way I see it is it probably takes a stronger person to stay clean after the addiction than one who simply manages to avoid it all his/her life. Strangely these lyrics jumped out at me a while ago - "All your sins will only make you strong. And help you break right through the prison wall " - Dream Theater, This Dying Soul. While the song may focus more on alcohol addiction from some perspectives, when put into context I think this means one who has faced his/her problems and braved the shame and guilt, exposed him/herself and managed to overcome it would come out stronger and for the better if the person uses it to learn from mistakes and help others as well.

It's motivation to be better but definately not an excuse to fall into it either.
 
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Uncle X said:
Hi guys.
I think I also have drinking problem.
But I need alcohol to make feel better so it seems justified for me to drink.
It could also be that I want to commit a slow suicide, I wish I knew what makes me abuse alcohol.:confused::o
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Problem with alcohol is that you start learning to depend on it to bury and/or deaden feelings that you cant/dont want-to handle. Unfortunately its not solving the problem, just sidelining it by changeing (damaging) your thought process so you're distracted.

Addictions are nasty things. And its not always, in fact rarely - the taste you're after. Its the effects, its what it does to your subconscious that makes it crave the alcohol.

Find someone you can trust, and speak to them about it. Psychology has long long proven that verbal communication of ones problems has an endless amount of benefit for us. Its like your mind enters a bit of a sorting and healing process when you're speaking about your problems (the truth! about your problems)

Hope you come right, i really feel for people in any addicted situation. its very rarely a case of "i want to do this" than it is a sheer act of desperation due to ones emotional damage.
 
rurapente said:
Problem with alcohol is that you start learning to depend on it to bury and/or deaden feelings that you cant/dont want-to handle. Unfortunately its not solving the problem, just sidelining it by changeing (damaging) your thought process so you're distracted.

Addictions are nasty things. And its not always, in fact rarely - the taste you're after. Its the effects, its what it does to your subconscious that makes it crave the alcohol.

Find someone you can trust, and speak to them about it. Psychology has long long proven that verbal communication of ones problems has an endless amount of benefit for us. Its like your mind enters a bit of a sorting and healing process when you're speaking about your problems (the truth! about your problems)

Hope you come right, i really feel for people in any addicted situation. its very rarely a case of "i want to do this" than it is a sheer act of desperation due to ones emotional damage.
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Thanks man, you make great sense, the only problem is actually starting to do something about it.
It strikes fear into me just thinking about quitting.
 
I dnt have any addictions , although a relative is a cocaine addict and married , he earned 15 k a month and never bought any groceries,clothing for his family hes kids where bone thin even when hes income went to 20k a month and he had no expenses to pay for.

Eventually he began pawning furniture and appliances for more money to buy cocaine until he was arrested for selling an unlicensed firearm.
 
Tamerlane said:
I dnt have any addictions , although a relative is a cocaine addict and married , he earned 15 k a month and never bought any groceries,clothing for his family hes kids where bone thin even when hes income went to 20k a month and he had no expenses to pay for.

Eventually he began pawning furniture and appliances for more money to buy cocaine until he was arrested for selling an unlicensed firearm.
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That's really sad. I feel for the kids.
 
Finally decided to get counselling.
Will hear from them in about 2 days.
 
Well...It's good to be out of hibernation...Back in society etc etc...Glad to see the thread is still alive..Missed this...:)
 
steviebogos said:
My nasty habit/ Adiction is the casinos! :(

winners know when to stop , thats there motto, problem is im never a winner so i cant stop!
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It is very much an addiction buddy. The good news is that it is also one of the addictions with the highest post-treatment recovery rate.

The National Responsible Gambling Program has a great helpline with manned by qualified, helpful and empathetic staff.

Give them a call and they will help you with a 5 minute self assessment. If you are interested in getting help, they will pay for 6-7 sessions with a therapist in your area. In many cases, these sessions are all that is needed to get one on the path to recovery.

PM me if you would like more info.
 
The key to a positive recovery is sustainability, and the key to sustainability is clearly defined goals and a dosage of spiritual faith. You do not need to be religious, you can do it in your own way.

An active addict normally starts a blinding love affair with the substance and in moments of bad will defend it with all he has. Works on the same principle as in people except here the person is a substance or action in terms of gambling.

Define and plan achievable goals/ interests and keep busy, planning is a must if you are not self driven. That will keep you from encountering those periods during the day when you start romaticising about the 'love' you have lost, the depressions spiral quickly and are very hard core.

Avoid triggers, period. Just do it for your own good. There is no easy way out of this, but one day at a time is a huge achievement, build on that.

And be true to yourself, this is one time when you cannot afford not to be.

From experience.
 
Quick question ? I might have a slight bindging problem over weekends. I tend to get pissed from friday up untill sunday each evening sometimes in the days too. Now it is over weekdays sometimes. I have been doing this patern now for the past 11 years and need to stop i.m.o. Where do I go and who do I see ?
 
I do that as well.

Who says you are addicted?
 
gabba69er said:
Quick question ? I might have a slight bindging problem over weekends. I tend to get pissed from friday up untill sunday each evening sometimes in the days too. Now it is over weekdays sometimes. I have been doing this patern now for the past 11 years and need to stop i.m.o. Where do I go and who do I see ?
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You do not need to go anywhere or see anyone, you don't sound like you are addicted. I had the same problem, i just decided the time has come to grow up and stop getting pissed every time i go out. No i go to poker nights and ps3 nights. No more /clubs/braai's etc.
 
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