Great plan put it in a foster home for adoption. Let’s hear from people adopting babies..is it a matter of getting a pregnant woman and adopting? one two three. Easy peasy?
Adoption used to be an easy option, not any more. The laws have become far more complicated nowadays.
I was adopted at birth, (1964) it was simple for my birth mother who had no choice (family pressure) , she wasnt allowed to marry the father, as his family and hers were against it, so adoption was the only option.
For me as the child in question it was simple, i was handed over to my adoptive parents and that was it, my birth mother could not find me and was not allowed by law to do so.
I as the adopted child was the only person allowed to initiate contact if i so wished, but only from age 21, and after the required counselling with a social worker. It took me to the age of 35 before doing so, as i wasnt really interested before.
Nowadays however the birth mother can initiate contact if she desires, and at any time, plus in some places if the birth mother wishes to now take her child back , she is allowed to under certain circumstance.
That is just wrong in so many ways for a young child to have to endure, especially if that child has formed a bond with their adoptive parents, and is at an age where they are too young to understand what is happening. The trauma induced by this sort of action is completely off the scale.
Foster care may sound fine , but it is not always so, too many children land up in foster homes, and get shunted from home to home , as the state sees fit, seldom do the children ever land up staying in one home for too long.
The waiting lists for adoption are also long , this is due to state initiated red tape, and also to parents who wish to adopt looking for the "perfect" baby, a certain look, or a certain type (race), or coming from a certain background, and other more selfish, bigoted reasons.
We live in an over crowded, over populated world, where careful consideration should be given to having a child or giving birth, from the finacial affordability, to the consideration of what future that child will have regards to education and quality of life.
It is imperative that women have the right to terminate a preganancy, if they feel that they cannot provide comfortably for that child, and provide a safe and secure future, having the option to counselling, and safe termination, is a far safer alernative, and a more humane alternative than subjecting some future child to a life of possible poverty, misery and simple existence as just another mouth to feed on an over-burdened society.
