Alone

[saor]

Im not the athletic type. Just feel so far removed from family friends

Maybe stop putting yourself in a box then. You're in a part of the country that's full of incredible sights to see and there's very accessible hiking groups on meetup etc. A few hours walking sounds like it'll do you good anyway. I've found those hiking groups to be one of the easiest, low-pressure environments to be in. If you're not lus for talking you can just keep to yourself if you really want to.

Go chill in a coffee shop with a book. Sometimes helps to just be around other people.
Get some hobbies going.
Look for events that interest you - markets, live music etc.

 

[Snyks]

How old are you....would you say your liver and or kidneys are in good shape....send me a message. Maybe we can go campng

 

[gregmcc]

On mybb you are never alone.

 

[Smiggles]

"Don't worry; don't be afraid, ever, because this is just a ride."- Bill Hicks

 

[Bewlen]

Ever felt so alone that suicide seems logical.
I only talk to the people at work and no after hours interaction with anyone

Get comfortable doing non-athletic things alone (if another person says "go hiking", I might k*k myself along with you). Get comfortable going to a movie all alone. Get the popcorn, get the smarties and the big slush puppy. Get comfortable going to dinner alone at your local restaurants. Get comfortable having a beer at the bar counter while browsing your phone, all by yourself. Get comfortable going to the mall to buy a nice t-shirt and walking around in all the shops trying to find that shirt. Get comfortable buying an old camera for R1000 and trying to learn photography on youtube, then walking around trying to get good shots. Get comfortable having a braai all by yourself at home and trying a Weiss Beer or Irish whisky while listening to good music. Or driving two towns over and walking into a small restaurant at 9am on a Saturday all by yourself to have a breakfeast, sitting there watching the world and people go by. Or buy a 125cc bike and learn how to ride that bike on Youtube. Learn how to do leatherwork. Get a motto. Get your own slogan.

 

[dabean]

Aphantasia is a thing. If you can identify it it’s a good sign.

Seek professional help. The best people I’ve ever met were in “wellness clinics”.

 

[dabean]

I meant “anhedonia”, sorry. I have both

Meds can help the latter.

 

[B-1]

How old are you....would you say your liver and or kidneys are in good shape....send me a message. Maybe we can go campng

OP if your liver and kidneys are not in good shape you can give me a call to go camping as you probably have a story or two to tell.

 

[B-1]

I draw the line at co-workers.. They are not part of my social group. I deal with them because I have to.

Its perfectly fine to keep work friends separate from home friends. They never have to meet.

 

[OCP]

Honestly, the hiking advice is the best. You can do a simple day hike, I don't know where you live, but once every 6 months or so I go to Moreleta Kloof. Took me a few hours the first time as I soaked in the nature and then I took my kid there.

The last time I went I tried to hike the ~5km trail as quickly as possible. Hiking does not mean you need to meet new people and a simple 5km hike is hardly what I would call a physical activity. Just doing that already clears the mind tremendously. On quiet days it's nice to go and take pictures, practice photography etc.

If you do enjoy it, then yes, you could join a hiking club to actually meet people.

Great advice.

Wife and a joined a hiking group (quite unplanned) - ended up doing the Otter Trail and planning Fish River Canyon for next year.

Group has become very social having braais / games night / we even went to Madame Zingara.

Simple activities can lead to good friendships.

 

[chrisc]

You need to get some constructive hobbies

I belong to several clubs and have met interesting people at meetings

 

[FiestaST]

I've touched on my "depression" in this fukked up job market.

When it all gets to much I go to CC Clubhouse & do a 5K. Some of my best, most productive thoughts are done that during that 5K!

Once done, reflect back & get back on the horse. Onwards & up. Keep the positivity there.

Post in thread 'Depression.'

Apr 27, 2026

You okes here "know me" & I am happy go lucky chap but this job market is brutal.

Not going to go into specifics, I may make a dedicated thread in time.

Getting a healthy amount of interviews (yay) but the market is flooded (noo)! Wont delve into my list of Dear John emails, the fact I get some feedback is good as well! lol

I know people in the US & UK & it is no joke there as well, this is not an SA-localized issue!

I also know a healthy amount of people that were laid off & "moved on" to roles with 15%, 20% paycuts...WTF

I'm telling you it's brutal, at this stage of the game I...

• FiestaST

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My 2c.

 

[Heisenborg]

Great advice.

Wife and a joined a hiking group (quite unplanned) - ended up doing the Otter Trail and planning Fish River Canyon for next year.

Group has become very social having braais / games night / we even went to Madame Zingara.

Simple activities can lead to good friendships.

Keys in a bowl deal?

 

[Jam Sandwich]

How about adopting a dog? Might give you some purpose and something to look forward to.

(Assuming you are adult enough to take on the responsibility ie money and somewhere stable to live etc... )

Having my dogs have helped me through some kak times....

 

[dabean]

I've touched on my "depression" in this fukked up job market.

When it all gets to much I go to CC Clubhouse & do a 5K. Some of my best, most productive thoughts are done that during that 5K!

Once done, reflect back & get back on the horse. Onwards & up. Keep the positivity there.

Post in thread 'Depression.'

Apr 27, 2026

You okes here "know me" & I am happy go lucky chap but this job market is brutal.

Not going to go into specifics, I may make a dedicated thread in time.

Getting a healthy amount of interviews (yay) but the market is flooded (noo)! Wont delve into my list of Dear John emails, the fact I get some feedback is good as well! lol

I know people in the US & UK & it is no joke there as well, this is not an SA-localized issue!

I also know a healthy amount of people that were laid off & "moved on" to roles with 15%, 20% paycuts...WTF

I'm telling you it's brutal, at this stage of the game I...

• FiestaST

• 

My 2c.

I won’t pretend I know what half those words mean.

The point is that you get up.

 

[FiestaST]

I won’t pretend I know what half those words mean.

The point is that you get up.

Nothing was meant to be complex but yeah, a walk/run/jog makes a massive difference to one’s mood/state of mind.

 

[FiestaST]

Sorry, not sorry.

In many many many ways a better, simpler & cheaper time. Late ‘98, got proper popularity in ‘99.

 

[dabean]

Nothing was meant to be complex but yeah, a walk/run/jog makes a massive difference to one’s mood/state of mind.

To be honest, I was thinking research chemicals. Sorry for the misunderstanding. 5K is not in my ordinary vocabulary.

Go big or go home is my philosophy. I don't measure in external units, max-me is max-me.

 

[RedViking]

Sounds like depression. Seek help. Nothing wrong with seeing a psychologist or psychiatrist. Will be an investment and could be life changing.

 

[OCP]

Keys in a bowl deal?

hahaha - definitely not (3 woman in my life is enough)

Friend of mine invited us on a hike with group 2 years ago; now we see them all the time socially.
CT gets a bad rep for people being clique and that it's hard to make friends - this is a small example of 1 single activity interaction ended up with good friendships which is hopefully encouragement for the OP.