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medicnick83

medicnick83

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It has been brought to my attenion that I have anger managerment issues.

Wierd, especially if you know me personally.

But jokes aside, I think I do have issues with my anger, but more so, if I drink the hard stuff (such as Tequila) then it's really bad.

Friday night saw me letting rip at my GF - not good! I know.

For the last few hours I've been reading up on "dealing with anger" on my slow ass Neotel connection which by the way, is enough to make anyone "the moer in" :D

I've been with my GF for about a year and ± 2 months and yes, we fight and have arguments, but If I think about it, I've only let rip at her twice.

I spoke to my ex and she says yes, I did have a temper issue, but having said that, it only comes out when I drink the hard stuff and if there has been things going on previously.

So, in my searching, I found the following on a web site:

"What’s the source of your anger? If you can identify what exactly is making you feel angry, and then work to fix it, you may find that you get angry a lot less often and finding a group of people to talk to will help more."
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Funny how when I think of a group of people to talk to, I think of you guys on MyBroadband...

I think to stop the worst of my 'outbursts' I need to keep clear of excessive drinking (which I don't really do alot anyways) or hard drinks but I think more of the hard drinks are to be blamed (such as Tequila)

On web sites I read that anger can also be caused by stress, which I find weird because I'm not really under any stress and I think when I am under it, I deal with it pretty well.

What maybe did contribue to Friday's explosion was Risa was around me (Those who know her know that she can def get under my skin very easily) and I also really felt horrible the whole day for not stopping at a accident - but in my defence, I had half of Cape Town infront of me hooting and I couldn't find anywhere to stop and I paniced and then just drove on and of cause, you can only imagine how I was so angry at myself.

So now... what's next I wonder, except to say that... Okay, so I have a anger issue, I want to fix it, thoughts? comments? suggestions?

http://pbskids.org/itsmylife/emotions/anger/mentors.html was a good read for me.

http://www.srichinmoybio.co.uk/blog/inner-peace/10-powerful-ways-to-deal-with-anger/ was also good.
 
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Hey at least you let rip when you need to. Nothing worse than bottling anger up. That's setting yourself for a big explosion.
Ask me, I'm good at keeping things bottled up.. now I'm waiting for someone to trigger that BANG!! :D
 
I believe you can do so.

Two of the forumites here (who I know well) also have stopped smoking and drinking. Was a long, hard road and they daily do battle with the demon within.

But it can be overcome.

Problem is, most people will not accept that, and will try to get you to drink.

Try to avoid situations (parties, celebrations etc) where you know there will be drinks.

And good luck with that.
 
thoughts? comments? suggestions?
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Read these comments:
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Does_alcohol_make_some_people_abusive

If you know exactly where the problem lies:
ie hard drink makes you abusive.

Then you can apply a targeted and precise solution:
ie avoid all hard drinking.

That will take care of the most obvious symptom / side-effect of your underlying unresolved rage / anger / issues. :eek:

You do seem to react a little bit more intense emotionally to action around you
I also really felt horrible the whole day for not stopping at a accident
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You go on and tell us that you feel disappointed with yourself.
I paniced and then just drove on and of cause, you can only imagine how I was so angry at myself
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In the above quote you also tell us that you panicked, this tells us that you're
not going out there prepared, you seem to be floundering a bit.

You've got to take some time off, and think things through, clear your head,
or as the orcs in LOTR said, take a breather.

Give yourself a good maintenance, do some exercise, eat healthy food, sort out your budget, think about where you're at and where you want to be or go,
just take control of the details in your life, so that you can free up all those undone little hovering tasks that is cluttering your head.

Everyone gets angry, anger is a normal emotion.

How you react and deal with that emotion is where your problem manifests:
- you are quick to anger
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she can def get under my skin very easily
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you react aggresively (when on hard drink)

thus your threshold is too high, you should lower your expectations ;), this is called an attitude adjustment. (and avoid the hard stuff)

Hope you reach the chillout zone, good luck.
 
Most people with temper problems have another problem that they carry around like a ton of bricks, albeit subconsciously most of the time.

Alcohol makes you act like the person you really are. So the problem goes out of the subconscious mind and manifests itself in some more literal screaming, murdering, killing, banging toys on the floor kind of rage.

Something's bothering you. Figure out what it is before you get cancer from it or you do something really stupid.
 
There are people that don't drink? *blink*
 
After reading this I'm contemplating going to the MBB Cape Town meet :erm:
 
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well you do have a stressful life. maybe you should cut down on all the outdoor activities, start spending time with loved ones and stop drinking. there's no need for people to drink other than to look cool or to make you forget about stuff. hehe
 
Whatever your problem is it comes from you alone. Maybe you are just a ****. Some people have issues. I kinda knew this one girls ex whom I used to refer to as 'freaky jason'. Some people just have issues and klar.
 
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