Another one of those 'advice' threads

wrathex said:
There's a lot of decent people out there doing 'casual sector' jobs, it's not an indication of personality type, it means she's willing to work hard and deal with drunk men for the sake of having a job and an income.

She is encouraging you, go with the attitude that this person can be a friend, she obviousely approves of you.

The easiest way to ask her out is to casually mention that you'd love to see some or other movie and whether she feels like joining you for a movie and a light snack - do not ask her out for a drink lol - bars are her workplace.

First ask her about herself though, casual chat about what music or movies she likes and so on..
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Some solid advice, thanks Wrathex!


tau1z said:
Geez dude, how tough is your life if you have cute girls hitting on you.

Anyways, she has stuck her neck out twice, once to get your number, and once in front of her friends at the bar.
I doubt she will do it again, make a move or lose out. She sounds cool and i have never even met her. I think you may be struggling because she is making the advances, she has been in control. I think you will be more confident if you take the lead on this one.

if you dont do anything , you will regret it
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It usually never happens, thats probably freezing up - it catches me off guard as she's making the advances which I'm probably not used to as you say.

I guess there's nothing to lose. Either I go for it, or throw away an opportunity jumping at my feet. :o
 
I know whats wrong here. My mates and I chat about this all the time. The roles have been reversed. She is all of a sudden the hunter. And you are the baby bambi in the headlights. Iv had it happen to me before as well. And you freeze up because of it. LOL. Im also normally very good at making the first move/advances etc, but when a girl does it, sub-consciously we are not programmed for this as men!

But there has been some good advice here already, be honest with her, tell her you are shy for some reason around her...chicks dig that.
But don't be shy and leave it for too long because she will start to think that your are not interested.

Good luck man!
 
stevengzn said:
I know whats wrong here. My mates and I chat about this all the time. The roles have been reversed. She is all of a sudden the hunter. And you are the baby bambi in the headlights. Iv had it happen to me before as well. And you freeze up because of it. LOL. Im also normally very good at making the first move/advances etc, but when a girl does it, sub-consciously we are not programmed for this as men!

But there has been some good advice here already, be honest with her, tell her you are shy for some reason around her...chicks dig that.
But don't be shy and leave it for too long because she will start to think that your are not interested.

Good luck man!
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It would make my day if a girl makes the first move.
 
Pooky said:
Don't complain I would do anything for girls to approach me.
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Pooky said:
It would make my day if a girl makes the first move.
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I think you seriously like her. I have the same problem, am very chatty with guys...but when this one particular guy walks up; I freeze, get numb. i nevr knew this sort of stuff happened to guys also! Dude, you got it bad.... She seems to like you too, take the bait. I think its worth it!
 
genetic said:
Ok.. so for the last year and a bit I've become quite a regular at a bar in town (on and off), and come to know the managers, bartenders and waiters etc.

I've gotten to know this cute barmaid quite well over time, and we often chat when we happen to see each other. About two months ago, she asked me for my number, which I (obviously) gave out without any hesitation, and we've sms'd each other occasionally since then. The sms's are the typical "hope you have a great week", "when you coming round again?", "see you soon" kind of typical bla-bla communication. Nothing serious.

To cut to the chase...

So last night, a work colleague and myself decide to discuss an upcoming project over a beer, and she happened to be there - although she wasn't working behind the bar this time. She was having drinks with some friends at a table and came over to say hi. She chatted very briefly and left - so my colleague and myself continue chatting for some time, then after a while I came back from the bathroom, there's tequilas waiting for me.
She had bought the tequilas - and we downed them, I said thanks, she smiled, then she went back to her table.
She came back about 30min later and said that now it's my round, and I've taken too long to sort another round of tequilas out. I order the round, throw it down the hatch, she hugs me, chats a bit, says 'see you soon' and runs back off to the table.

As I leave, I go to say goodbye - she hugs me, kisses me on the cheek and tells me not to be so shy in future.

The signals are quite obvious one might think.

Now, the thing is, I'm generally relaxed around women - I can chat, make conversation and generally keep it going. This has also never been a problem with previous ex's etc. but in front of her I freeze. I freeze up nearly every single time. I stumble on my words, say stupid stuff, struggle to make conversation and think thereafter that I must come across as a complete idiot.

I don't understand why I freeze up every time I chat to her! :confused:
I'm definitely attracted to her, but I've never had this problem before (maybe once or twice over those typical high school crushes), but my brain seems to shut down all logic when she's there. I feel like an incompetent imbecile and my IQ suddenly drops a bar. :o

Is this normal? I mean wtf?

There might be an opportunity here I don't really want to stuff it up - actually, I'm probably going to stuff it anyway. I still don't even know if she's single... go figure :rolleyes:

Any advice, opinions or flak?
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Her pheromones blow you away. Your system likes...
 
Pooky said:
It would make my day if a girl makes the first move.
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Dunno hey, depends on how strong they come on to you. I once had this woman tell me she's noticed me around and that I look interesting, she's not interested in any relationship or anything but would just like to shag me :wtf: Boy did I run :D You seriously don't expect this stuff.
 
stevengzn said:
But there has been some good advice here already, be honest with her, tell her you are shy for some reason around her...chicks dig that.
But don't be shy and leave it for too long because she will start to think that your are not interested.
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Another +1 to this, she'll like it and it'll be honest which will help you get over it. Getting 2 birds stoned at once.
 
She's waiting for you to be a man. Call her or text her and ask her out to dinner. Put on a nice shirt, comb your hair and listen to what she has to say. Simple as that.
 
Hahahah cute :D Dude just go out with her (both bring some mates) and go drink and eat at some place and hopefully as the night goes on you will feel more comfy.
 
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