Asking the parents...

[jacodebeer]

Hi guys,
So I have this girlfriend that I really like and love, we are both 25 years of age and we have been dating for 2 years about, and I have been saving up to buy a ring to ask her to marry me, but I think that I should ask her parents first right! what must I do? I'm a shy guy and stumble very easily over my words when I'm nervous. Anyone who has done it or who is a parent that was on the recieving end that has got a few pointers for me?

 

[bwana]

I was so nervous on my way to my then G/Fs parent's house to talk to them I got lost

 

[Rocket Raccoon]

Take them out for dinner and make sure the father walks through a metal detector.

 

[Cool E]

Hi guys,
So I have this girlfriend that I really like and love, we are both 25 years of age and we have been dating for 2 years about, and I have been saving up to buy a ring to ask her to marry me, but I think that I should ask her parents first right! what must I do? I'm a shy guy and stumble very easily over my words when I'm nervous. Anyone who has done it or who is a parent that was on the recieving end that has got a few pointers for me?

Inform your uncles. then will visit your gf place and all we be sorted by elders.

 

[AfricanTech]

Do you foresee a problem? Do they not like you?

If not, they will probably be only too glad that you're committing.

Good luck

PS: Do not have alcohol to calm the nerves

 

[Mike Hoxbig]

You're marrying her, not her parents. If they know about you then just go ahead and propose.

 

[killadoob]

Without a doubt, ask her father. I didn't do it and it caused havoc. I didn't realize we still lived in times where you have to ask for permission to marry someone but it seemed i was wrong and i had to go and apologize for my lack of respect.

Wasn't fun, way worse than asking upfront i think.

 

[scudsucker]

Ask them.

Its a bit old fashioned, but the parents will really appreciate it.

I suspect that if you arrange a time to meet them, without her being there, they will know what is coming, and it will be a lot easier.

(FWIW I asked via email as my wife's parents are not in this country and have very dodgy phone lines)

 

[killadoob]

Ask them.

Its a bit old fashioned, but the parents will really appreciate it.

I suspect that if you arrange a time to meet them, without her being there, they will know what is coming, and it will be a lot easier.

(FWIW I asked via email as my wife's parents are not in this country and have very dodgy phone lines)

Skype obviously not a possibility then i guess?

 

[Necuno]

Hi guys,
So I have this girlfriend that I really like and love, we are both 25 years of age and we have been dating for 2 years about, and I have been saving up to buy a ring to ask her to marry me, but I think that I should ask her parents first right! what must I do? I'm a shy guy and stumble very easily over my words when I'm nervous. Anyone who has done it or who is a parent that was on the recieving end that has got a few pointers for me?

Go naked. That might break the ice on both ends.

 

[bwana]

Without a doubt, ask her father. I didn't do it and it caused havoc. I didn't realize we still lived in times where you have to ask for permission to marry someone but it seemed i was wrong and i had to go and apologize for my lack of respect.

Wasn't fun, way worse than asking upfront i think.

No, you weren't wrong but it goes a long way with some parents and it's not something you can undo if you don't.

Ask them.

Its a bit old fashioned, but the parents will really appreciate it.

I suspect that if you arrange a time to meet them, without her being there, they will know what is coming, and it will be a lot easier.

(FWIW I asked via email as my wife's parents are not in this country and have very dodgy phone lines)

It also gives the father time to prepare the hole in the back yard…

 

[GreyBush]

Don't be such a wuss. Just do it.

 

[Alton Turner Blackwood]

Ask her first because it will be kuk if you ask them first and she says "Nee, jammer Jaco"

 

[Mike Hoxbig]

What if they say ya, and she says no? Then you're fscked

edit: beaten by Ying...

 

[killadoob]

Well it is better to get shut down and know you have followed the correct process. You were respectful and covered that old fashioned kuk. Then you worry about her answer. If it's no well at least you were prepared for yes.

 

[xrapidx]

I asked forgiveness not permission.

 

[Mike Hoxbig]

Well it is better to get shut down and know you have followed the correct process. You were respectful and covered that old fashioned kuk. Then you worry about her answer. If it's no well at least you were prepared for yes.

And what if they say no? Is it worth losing her even though she might have said yes?

 

[copacetic]

Very strange idea, asking the parents.

If she were a kid, sure...

Wait, what?

 

[dualmeister]

I never asked. Wishing I had now.

 

[killadoob]

And what if they say no? Is it worth losing her even though she might have said yes?

Hmmm lol you got me caught in two minds here