Being single rocks!

[guest2013-1]

...stuff...

For the record, she was [-]10[/-] (edit, I lie) 8 years younger than me (20/21).

I dumped her.

We dated for about a year before I broke things off and was used for another few months after under the auspices of friendship (we really did have a great friendship before)

My gifts are usually right on the mark. Ask any of my ex's, 90% of the time they love it, however it's the 10% that really gets me, especially if it meant something to me. FYI, I don't give a gift if I don't feel like it would matter at all, ask any of my family/friends. When I do give something it's something special and fits the moment. At least she could pretend to like it... you know...

99% of the time when I got aggro on the roads is with her directions to a place we should have been at 30 minutes prior (which we then pitch up late for, I hate being late. You have no idea how much I hate being late for something). I can accept traffic making me late. I can accept OTHER circumstances making me late (alarm not going off, power outage *insert reason here*). What I can't stand is being made late by someone that's tardy in the first place (which I learned to compensate for) and says they know the way and then on the way there can't tell me where to drive to.

Yes, I'm anally retentive when I drive somewhere. Before I even get in my car I decide which route to take, where I'm going. Why I'm going there and how long it's going to take me to get there so I need to leave at a certain time. Which stops to make. Where to make them. What to do if there's traffic. Where to drive IF there's traffic to cut time if some traffic did make me late and most importantly, when I'll be going home.

I know how much I can drink and when to stop to be able to drive sober (but still over the limit really according to blood alcohol) so I can get home safe. I don't look at the person next to me in the car while I drive. I rarely let my eyes move away from the road ahead of me. (even as a passenger)

That's how I drive and I'm sticking with it. But I agree, some people don't do that and for her picking at it like a scab made me want to choke the living crap out of her, so instead of doing that... I drove faster (or slower, depending in my mood to piss her off)

I usually mix it up when going out, theater is my favorite. She started disliking the fact we go out for dinner (or lunch) so often. Usually it's something like Kirstenbosch garden where we'll watch her favorite band live and beforehand have lunch... admittedly they're my fave band as well and I love live performances but yea...

As stated within this thread, leading usually ends up in a long "debate" and a trial by error before you get to suss out what she really wants before actually doing it. No thanks.

The constant complaining, stuff she could have unloaded with all her friends... if she managed to keep them around. I thought (and I encouraged her to go out with her friends more) that I was the reason why she didn't go out with her friends, but later learned that she treats her friends like that anyway... they'll phone (she won't answer) or they'll SMS her asking if she wants to go out etc and she just ignores them till it suits her to see them again. So loses contact with most.

She's still in that "OMG I CANT BELIEVE IM OUT OF SCHOOL" phase. No thanks. As mature as she pretended to be I can't believe I ever thought of her "as the one"

<edit> everytime I wanted to introduce something kinky she didn't go for it, even got her to play along but never went with it really... I reckon she's way too "into" adventurous sex with strangers than she were in the relationship

Erf. I REALLY don't have anything better to do tonight and there's **** all on the TV

 

[guest2013-1]

thing is, over time I'm going to lose friends, and I'm gonna end up friendless, alone, and have nothing better to do with my life other then porn, which has a sad ring to it... It just seems as though the world idealizes the guys that get laid many-a-time and have stories. Guys like me live alone for the rest of our lives sorta thing... It's not that I don't party and such (I'm not a loser if that's the message you think I'm sending), it's just the fact that girls aren't remotely attracted to me...

Maybe you come across as gay? But then again, if you were they'd want to "be your friend" and you'd get some action of those trying to convert you...

Bet you R1000 they're attracted to you but won't make the first move and waiting for you to come up and say "Hi, wanna take a shower together?"

 

[guest2013-1]

You can get a Touch Dance at Teazers but it's R500 the last time I checked. It's even more at Mavericks. It's hard to hand over the cash because I always compare it to a 1tb samsung hdd

lol!!! so much data so little time...

 

[guest2013-1]

Oooh missed this one! Which strip club do you go to where you are allowed to squeeze the titties?!?!

Teazers at Bellville (ironically next to the Toys'r'us). Was my first time in a strip club for my friend's bachelors, he ended up buying it for me.

She was hot too. Short like I like them (well, shorter than me). Glasses (so had that teacher look) stunning blue eyes, brunette (long hair up to her ass) and she had the perfect twins, handful by not too little, amazing nips and ass.... man... she's the one... for R500 per 2 songs...

She gave me a free song though so she must have liked me! And while we were waiting for a booth she let me touch anyway.... man... i missed me opportunity

*goes ring shopping*

 

[hyperian]

She was hot too. Short like I like them (well, shorter than me). Glasses (so had that teacher look) stunning blue eyes, brunette (long hair up to her ass) and she had the perfect twins, handful by not too little, amazing nips and ass.... man... she's the one... for R500 per 2 songs...

She gave me a free song though so she must have liked me! And while we were waiting for a booth she let me touch anyway.... man... i missed me opportunity

*goes ring shopping*

I remember her. I think her name was Nina. Dark skin, Ukrainian? She took care of my mate at his bachelors. She's long since gone I think. Probably drives the kids to soccer practice in her Volvo etc

 

[4cer]

ya i do second a bit that you need to be the man

what you listed sounds like the reverse for me ! thats pretty much every one of my ex's complaint lists

i always get " you only see me if your bored", "you only go somewhere with me if i'll drive and you can get pissed" basically your list in reverse

i suppose its like a weird form of karma

 

[guest2013-1]

I remember her. I think her name was Nina. Dark skin, Ukrainian? She took care of my mate at his bachelors. She's long since gone I think. Probably drives the kids to soccer practice in her Volvo etc

noooo no no no no no

This girly was Afrikaans. Someone I can take home to my parents and go "Kyk, hier is sy"

Her stage name was Natalia (for some odd reason there's so many Russian chicks working there even the local girls need to adopt names like that)

And this was last year November, so no idea... I think I do remember a Nina... she sat on my head during the table dance after she went birthday suite, but she was blonde. Can't remember, was trashed...

 

[hyperian]

noooo no no no no no

This girly was Afrikaans. Someone I can take home to my parents and go "Kyk, hier is sy"

Her stage name was Natalia (for some odd reason there's so many Russian chicks working there even the local girls need to adopt names like that)

Ok. Strangely enough I know that chick too. She's the only white South African chick that's there. I sound as if I own shares in the place

 

[TowerGuru]

been reading through this thread because im bored waiting for a download...and its quite weird to notice the difference in mindset between straight guys and gay guys when it comes to relationships...most gay guys (not all) are constantly trying to be in a relationship while straight guys its seems just like titties and not much else...

 

[Carbon_Fibre]

@AcidRazor. Dude, sounds like you dated a really immature b*tch. But you should know better than to date a chick that young. Enjoy a bit of the single life and when the times right you'll find the right chick. One who accepts you for who you are.

 

[hyperian]

been reading through this thread because im bored waiting for a download...and its quite weird to notice the difference in mindset between straight guys and gay guys when it comes to relationships...most gay guys (not all) are constantly trying to be in a relationship while straight guys its seems just like titties and not much else...

Perhaps because if you're gay you can at least talk about rugby after sex.

 

[MicS]

Spare a thought for scotty777 and belgarath, not everyone can hook a girl like AcidRaZor. Everybody is different and the world would be a boring place if we were all the same. We are all born equal as tiny innocent helpless cute babies but the home environment and circumstances shape us into different people, along with genetic predispositions. So we don't end up being "equal". Some have good looks, some don't; others have good personalities, others don't; some turn out to be psychopaths; some are disabled/impaired, etc. We are supposed to treat each other as equals but in the real world this doesn't happen .

@AcidRaZor, you waaaaaaaay chose the wrong girl!

@AcidRaZor, you have "MPD" = "Multiple Personality Disorder". You put on a brave face and present yourself to MyBB as an arrogant grandiose person from your OP, when in fact deep down you sound like a decent good person ("I'm pissed off because a person like this can get a woman to marry him and stay with him for 30 years when I can't" - see Forgotten Anniversary - post #40). By now, you and others are probably L(Y)AO at me (Y = your). Guys will be guys, and that's the way God created guys. The same can be said of women. Case in point, you said in this thread "I dumped her." (post #21). And in My gf is weird? - post #53, you said she dumped you. LOL. I caught you out, unless it was the wrong ex. Yes, you indeed have "MPD" , or maybe it's called something else. I'm practising my "critical thinking skills", giving evidence for my statement .

@AcidRaZor, this is just my opinion. Mine may be right or it may be wrong. You are thick-skinned and can handle it. Me, not so thick-skinned (Give me the lingo), but I'm trying to be more thick-skinned. Everyone has a different perspective. When LancelotSA commented, his perspective was "wrong" and you replied back, giving us a bigger picture. And yes, you are all going to say I'm spewing garbage out of my mouth...

Off to bed now.

 

[davemc]

Our future leaders cannot even hold up a relationship.
Cry the beloved country!

 

[bex.cpt]

Acid I sense alot of anger in your OP. I too am single now Nd for a brief period had simular feelings bout my ex GF. I am single by choice tho woman are too damn complicated they say they want one things but once they have it they want to change you. Yes single rocks but I honestly don't think porn is a alternative.

That one guy who said his in his 30's and never been on a date dude woman are not attraced to looks as much as attitude. When you walk & talk with confidence that's step 1 then if you can make the laugh (not act a fool or be a Jack ass) you have them pretty much in bed. After that all you have to do is hold a good conversation by the end of the night you will be hitting that over & over.

I love women but you have to take your time and find the one that does not want to suck your wallet dry, has daddy issues or has ex bf issues.

Single rocks but a hook up every now and then does relief some stress so keep a few women on speed dial botty calls are the best

 

[Necuno]

• No "take me out" moaning when you've been out almost every single night of the week
• No being disappointed (and hearing about it) when I take her ass out and that it was "just okay"
• No having to listen to her yammer on with her problems she doesn't want me to fix but still listen to for hours on end, seeing her make the same mistake over and over again to just have her bitch again about something that she could have prevented
• No buying gifts that you think are cute and represent some part of the relationship which you adore and having it thrown back in your face and rip your heart out of it's cage for being "silly" or not "knowing her by now" or having to hear how much she doesn't like the gift but "its okay because it's the thought that counts... she GUESS"
• No having to walk around the mall endlessly till my feet can't take it anymore and my ass crack is raining down sweat like there's no tomorrow yearning for a place to just sit down and relax for a beer, but no "must quickly go look at that pair of cute shoes"
• No having to hear what an "angry driver" I am or have her instruct me on proper driving technique whenever there's an idiot on the road, "Well you shouldn't be driving this fast anyway".... no, it's not road rage I'm just mad at YOU for not shutting your trap yet
• No more coming late for movies and missing the previews (my favorite part) because she can't tell time and has to be late for EVERYTHING ("haha, fashionably late")
• No more walking (and hiding from) the 10 billion guys she ****ed as a one night stand (which didn't count towards the 11 boyfriends she felt she should tell me about)
• No more pretending to care that I like her backwards-assed family and their untrained spoiled dog
• No more spending countless hours trying to come up with stuff to do when we go out (which always got shot down and "lets just go to the casino")
• No more being late for special occassions, like a ****ing sunset picnic at a place which I had to pay extra to be open that late on the mountain at the language monument overlooking the mountains BECAUSE SHE WOULD RATHER IGNORE MY COUNTLESS PLEAS TO GET READY AND GO AND TALK TO HER STUPID AUNT FOR HOURS, ONE WHO SHE LIVES WITH
• No more sex having to hear how her previous boyfriends had her and how exciting that was (or how drunk she got) then a few weeks afterward pretend she didn't tell me and acting surprised that I "knew all her secrets"
• No more going to parties having to worry about your own sobriety because you're the one that has to drive her (and her friends) home and then being called "no fun" because I didn't drink all night. Well it was my pleasure getting your ass home safely BITCH
• No more having to explain why you've pitched as a single when everyone knows you have a gf because she had better things to do, like watch the eTV movie...
• No driving her broke assed friends around just because she wants to hang with them and THEN ASKED TO LEAVE (but come back when I need to pick them up again)

Being single ****ing ROCKS

And anyone that says otherwise should go fly a kite in a thunderstorm and please YouTube it for me to laugh at each time I see your dumb ass get electrocuted.

The END

lol like one of those religious nuts wanting to declare their religion one must now listen to the being single decleration over...over...over...

...besides who want to be with such a whiny man anyways

Being married for 30 years to someone who's devoted her life to him and then can't even pick up the courage to organize something romantic with a present or think outside the box "because it might fail" and then sit on a forum procrastinating instead of doing damage control.

Seriously. Loads of stars in my post but what the hell?

When I say "grow a pair" I mean start acting like a man and lead.

 

[marine1]

what is it with women and no sex after some time? They rope you in and then bang no more sex

 

[Necuno]

what is it with women and no sex after some time? They rope you in and then bang no more sex

pffft then you are obviously doing something wrong

boy: dad why are there comdom packs of 3, 6, and 12 ?
dad: 3 is for high school boys being once on friday, saturday and sunday. 6 for studens being twice on friday, saturday and sunday. lastly 12 is for married men being once a month...

...serioulsy you know things like work stress, to much sex needy man 24.7, to little non romatic play before hand, not seducing your woman, just wanting it right here and now and related will down play your fun time. maybe you should learn to give a proper massage for you lady from time to time to destress her body.

just wait we have a sexual expert here locally [-]dr ruth[/-] dr pittbull.

 

[LancelotSA]

For the record, she was [-]10[/-] (edit, I lie) 8 years younger than me (20/21).


....the rest.....

Well there you go. You found the problem right there! On the "what age difference is acceptable" thread you would probably find this difference, at that age, would come out as a negative. As stated she is just too immature and has different priorities.

been reading through this thread because im bored waiting for a download...and its quite weird to notice the difference in mindset between straight guys and gay guys when it comes to relationships...most gay guys (not all) are constantly trying to be in a relationship while straight guys its seems just like titties and not much else...

And yet as a straight guy, with a number of lesbian friends and gay guys I know, we/I perceive gay people as promiscuous as hell. Maybe there are just a shortage of gay people, or at least ones that are out of the closet, but they always seem to have banged every other gay person in the group at some point.

Maybe numbers is actually the reason too. We have, if we were to just generalise and not get the actual figures, 50% of the population, females, at our disposal. You have a small portion of 50%, guys who may be gay, at yours.

 

[Necuno]

Well there you go. You found the problem right there! On the "what age difference is acceptable" thread you would probably find this difference, at that age, would come out as a negative. As stated she is just too immature and has different priorities.

yep. unless she is too mature for her age and it matches up with your level of priority there will be issues.

 

[LancelotSA]

...serioulsy you know things like work stress, to much sex needy man 24.7, to little non romatic play before hand, not seducing your woman, just wanting it right here and now and related will down play your fun time. maybe you should learn to give a proper massage for you lady from time to time to destress her body

This is true as in a long term relationship people often no longer feel the need to make the extra effort as they now have the person. Why bother with trying to impress her sexually anyway. She already knows how good you can be.

But I think there are other aspects that plays a part.

When you are at the start of a relationship you want to bang the person all the time because it is all new and novel. Like opening a new present. When you first get it you are stoked and rip open the packaging. You can't wait to get your hands on it. Then you immediately run outside to play with it. You continue doing so at every opportunity. Eventually it goes in the cupboard and only gets taken out on the odd occasion to play with. It no longer gives you the same thrill it used to....