Being too trusting...

[Arzy]

Now I know this isn't necessarily a bad thing, having that general feeling of trusting everyone and the world around you. I have found though that over the years I've become much more synical and just don't accept what people say or do at face value. I feel bas about this though, I don't see why there should be a reason to doubt other people.

I'm guessing I am the way I am because of past experiences. I recall a situation at a previous company I was working for over increase time. My boss at that stage told me that she knows I deserve a much higher increase than the one I am getting but the company will compensate for this by uncapping my performance bonusses during the year. Well first bonus came up and it was capped, asked about it and was bluntly informed that I was mistaken and nothing like that had ever occured. The next time the same situation came up I asked for it in writing, this couldn't be done so I resigned and they immediately offered me a higher salary but I left anyway.

As I said previously I feel bad about not trusting people but I've been burnt too many times when I did. I'm sure the world would be a much better place if there was more trust around but do you continue to let yourself be stepped on simply for saying that you trusted someone?

What do you all think?

 

[stoke]

With business, if it is not in writing it does not exist.
With friendships, it's all about fair give and take.
With relationships, it's all about trust.

 

[orin76]

With business, if it is not in writing it does not exist.
With friendships, it's all about fair give and take.
With relationships, it's all about trust.

Agree completely.

 

[Dolby]

With business, if it is not in writing it does not exist.
With friendships, it's all about fair give and take.
With relationships, it's all about trust.

+1

I used to very trusting in relationships, but I've been burnt time and time again and it's - unfortunatley - made me very untrusting in relationship issues. I'm a very bitter person nowadays.

It's both a good thing and a bad thing imho - as I've learnt to question everything and won't be taken advantage of so easily next time, but it's also increased my bitterness towards the other sex and I only really think of them as lying, cheating, manipulative objects only caring for their needs and wants.

Bleh

 

[syntax]

quote my home boy yau-man and further down shakespear.
Love Many, Trust Few, Do Wrong To None

 

[Sackboy]

I know someone who likes to rip people off. It irritates the heck out of me and everyone he comes across. He is fond of the promise, particularly when it comes to putting his hand in his pocket. In fact, I would say he assumes everyone is going to cheat him, so he does it first - if that even makes sense!

 

[guest2013-1]

being trusting and being gullible is two different things + what stoke said

 

[Pitbull]

If you want something you can trust, get a rock.

Seriously, appart from that I trust no-one.

 

[guest2013-1]

I love quoting my Opah too blunomore

He was a wise man...

 

[I am Penguin]

I trust no-one in business. No-one.

We have had the most amazing promises made to us, only to find the reality looks quite different. When people start talking about projects and how much it is worth and what one can make out of it, I mentallly ignore them

One of the things I have learnt about people is this (and I'm paraphrasing OPRAH here!): The first time someone shows you their true colors, believe them, for THAT is who they really are. It has held true for me all this time.

Least of all family and some "friends". From giving (Loans) and doing favours/bussiness to/with family and friends for many years to the detriment of my own families well being I have become a snob. I was always there for them/others but when the tables turned and you are in strife there are never anyone to help or assist. Thats life. So I decided FSuck all. I do not have anything ever. I cannot help anyone anymore no matter how "Urgent" it is)

 

[Dolby]

Least of all family and some "friends". From giving (Loans) and doing favours/bussiness to/with family and friends for many years to the detriment of my own families well being I have become a snob. I was always there for them/others but when the tables turned and you are in strife there are never anyone to help or assist. Thats life. So I decided FSuck all. I do not have anything ever. I cannot help anyone anymore no matter how "Urgent" it is)

+1

Been burned many times before ....

 

[syntax]

If you want something you can trust, get a rock.

Seriously, appart from that I trust no-one.

That might sound hardcore, but its quite sad....

 

[Pitbull]

That might sound hardcore, but its quite sad....

Trust always turns around and mollest you with a hot iron rod up your arse
Honestly. The moment you let someone know that they have your trust, they seem to have some built in human function that forces them to fk it up.

S'true

 

[syntax]

Trust always turns around and mollest you with a hot iron rod up your arse
Honestly. The moment you let someone know that they have your trust, they seem to have some built in human function that forces them to fk it up.

S'true

I see ur point, but u dont trust ANYONE? I completely trust most of my circle of friends and my girlfriend completely. I do to some extent agree with the work trust thing. I dont trust other companies/ppl in business, i get everything in writing and rely on as little as possible on their side.

 

[Mila]

anything with a too...........

 

[Oculate]

I have a bad habit of being too trusting... it usually doesnt end well

 

[Pitbull]

I see ur point, but u dont trust ANYONE? I completely trust most of my circle of friends and my girlfriend completely. I do to some extent agree with the work trust thing. I dont trust other companies/ppl in business, i get everything in writing and rely on as little as possible on their side.

I think it depends on the degree of trust.

I do trust my Close family (Mother, Dad, brothers) And obviously my wife and kids.

Appart from that I don't trust anyone. DEF not my friends

 

[I am Penguin]

I think it depends on the degree of trust.

I do trust my Close family (Mother, Dad, brothers) And obviously my wife and kids.

Appart from that I don't trust anyone. DEF not my friends

"Lending" a friend money is the quickest way to end the "friendship"

 

[Pitbull]

"Lending" a friend money is the quickest way to end the "friendship"

I have some very dodge friends

All good people we grew up together, I think that is the reason I don't trust them. I have seen these guys and what they are up to

 

[Pitbull]

Also,

I do sometimes when people are desperate give them the benefit of the doubt. Like a friend of mine with a bike deal that went sour. I did however write of the money the moment I got into it with the "hope" so to say that all will work out.

Wana guess what happend ?