i have a bit of a problem here,my son doesn't want to go to school he says he doesn't fit in with other kids and there are bully's and rude teachers,average excuse.now i have 3 choices,1:i can sell his PC (which is full upgraded and he payed for all the upgrades then use the money so he can have home school,2:i can try to sort things out at school so it fits him.now there is a very big 3 choice:he can stay at home and do as he likes,he is pretty handy with a PC and knows about C++,he made all his money on the internet(don't ask me how but i did open a bank account for him).so what should i do,this could impact his whole life.EDIT:he is in grade 10 now.
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Mila
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Are you crazy?! No bloody wonder i do not want kids!! Adults is being manipulated by kids and we are raising the futer leaders! Always finish school! Let him go to a new school and take the PC away and give him limited access, we all wanted to quit at some stage or another and bully’s are in the adult world as well he has to learn to handle it..... Grade 10 is horrible but he'll get over it.
Messugga
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I'd say if he really has that big an issue, homeschool him. I suspect he has some social issues though, so maybe have him talk to a counselor or some-such first? He needs to learn how to cope with people not treating him like an angel.
Homeschooling him would mean he has even less interaction with other people, and that's a very important aspect of teenage life.
Letting him drop out would be the worst thing you can do, in my opinion.
Homeschooling him would mean he has even less interaction with other people, and that's a very important aspect of teenage life.
Letting him drop out would be the worst thing you can do, in my opinion.
+1 or homeschool him.
Jonny Two Shoes
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Send him to gym and fix his diet with lotsa protein 
I had issues with bullies at school but eventually found they are so easy to put in place. Pity I learned this much later on though in High School. After some issue back then I threatened the biggest Indian guy around and made a scene of it in class. No problems ever since
I also have very little if no fear of other people now though thanks to all the shyte I took.
Locking him away ain't going to help boost his confidence later on in life I reckon.
I had issues with bullies at school but eventually found they are so easy to put in place. Pity I learned this much later on though in High School. After some issue back then I threatened the biggest Indian guy around and made a scene of it in class. No problems ever since
I also have very little if no fear of other people now though thanks to all the shyte I took. Locking him away ain't going to help boost his confidence later on in life I reckon.
killadoob
Honorary Master
Believe me do not take him out of school, i left school around the same time for similar reasons and it made me a very anti social person who does not quite know how to deal with new people.
I regret leaving school because i never worked through the issues and even though i am fairly social and go out quite a bit now i still to this day do not know how to handle being around new people.
Letting him leave school will be very bad for him in the long run.
I regret leaving school because i never worked through the issues and even though i am fairly social and go out quite a bit now i still to this day do not know how to handle being around new people.
Letting him leave school will be very bad for him in the long run.
Geriatrix
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He'll have to learn to deal with antagonistic people in his life sometime. Do you want it to be while he's young and flexible or old and set in his ways?
Life and interpersonal relationships are not easy, and growing up expecting it to be is going to lead to some huge and devastating disappointments.
Life and interpersonal relationships are not easy, and growing up expecting it to be is going to lead to some huge and devastating disappointments.
The only good reason to take him out of school is if he has no hope of passing.
Have you looked at a more relaxed school, or a technical school option?
Pulling him out of school should be a last resort in my admittedly uninformed opinion.
Have you looked at a more relaxed school, or a technical school option?
Pulling him out of school should be a last resort in my admittedly uninformed opinion.
Nocturnity
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If you decide to leave him in school, make sure he doesn't listen to Slipknot.
Mila
Honorary Master
NOYou get a tutor!! not leave him to rot cause he is struggling a bit
Ahem, at no point do i suggest leaving anyone "to rot".
Twist words often Mila?
Takkies
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Does he play any sport?
Perhaps if he is being teased he needs to show that computers are not all he is good at. I wasn't the most popular in class either, choosing to make my friends mostly outside. Karate also helped my confidence
Perhaps if he is being teased he needs to show that computers are not all he is good at. I wasn't the most popular in class either, choosing to make my friends mostly outside. Karate also helped my confidence
blunomore
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Mila
Honorary Master
Yes i do since i just highlight yours and use it again
.he can just stay at home and do as he likes.... then you say take him out if he struggles? mmmm nice twist of words?
Yes i said rot at home cause what kind of anti social behaviour are you breading by letting him stay at home because he gets bullied? It’s oke son when the world gets tough quit and stay at home with your PC.
But on the other hand he could always go in to politics you do not need an education for that.
Mila
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Jip like that!!! I'm happy to see you can also highlight in colours!!!!!