Cheapest option to divorce

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As per thread title. Relationship is really not going to make it.
We have one property together and 2 children.
The divorce is uncontested.
 
McGuywer said:
As per thread title. Relationship is really not going to make it.
We have one property together and 2 children.
The divorce is uncontested.
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My first marriage ended in divorce and we had one child, my current marriage nearly ended in divorce last year and we have two kids:

As children are involved, it won't be easy due to our laws on child maintenance, visitation and custody - all three separate things in the eye of the law. I've never met a lawyer who will be honest on the law so I get my information directly from a family court judge.

If you are ANC, you will need to dispose of all the assets you built during your time of marriage - so there goes the cheap part.

Divorce is an emotional thing that leads to bad impulsive decisions. My only regret with my first divorce was not seeking mediation not to save the marriage, but to remove all emotion from the process.
 
Other Pineapple Smurf said:
If you are ANC, you will need to dispose of all the assets you built during your time of marriage - so there goes the cheap part.
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Quick random question if you know - wife and I are married out of community but with accrual I think.
Now say we split amicably and because we've largely earned the same amount we agree we can each keep our own things - pension, savings, house we agree to sell and split - can we do that or would we be forced to cash out pensions and split them even if the net result is the same? In other words, can we both agree to do something that's different from the contract we signed if it will save both of us a considerable amount?
 
Sepeng said:
Quick random question if you know - wife and I are married out of community but with accrual I think.
Now say we split amicably and because we've largely earned the same amount we agree we can each keep our own things - pension, savings, house we agree to sell and split - can we do that or would we be forced to cash out pensions and split them even if the net result is the same? In other words, can we both agree to do something that's different from the contract we signed if it will save both of us a considerable amount?
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you can agree on whatever you want in the settlement and be done with it.
As long as you both agree, that sounds easier than you think. The faster you get it done the easier it will be, as time goes on things can tend to get spiteful or nasty.

Sorry to hear, its a hard thing to go through especially with kids.
 
syntax said:
you can agree on whatever you want in the settlement and be done with it.
As long as you both agree, that sounds easier than you think. The faster you get it done the easier it will be, as time goes on things can tend to get spiteful or nasty.

Sorry to hear, its a hard thing to go through especially with kids.
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Oh we're not even close to a divorce (unless you were talking to the OP :) ), just something we were both wondering. We sometimes talk about such things - what happens if one of us dies, both of us, divorce, all that.
 
It is usually expensive because it is worth it.

Good luck.
 
Sepeng said:
Quick random question if you know - wife and I are married out of community but with accrual I think.
Now say we split amicably and because we've largely earned the same amount we agree we can each keep our own things - pension, savings, house we agree to sell and split - can we do that or would we be forced to cash out pensions and split them even if the net result is the same? In other words, can we both agree to do something that's different from the contract we signed if it will save both of us a considerable amount?
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In an amicable divorce, you can structure your agreements with regards to pension, etc.

A divorce lawyer is not as expensive as what some will make you believe and there are pitfalls with DIY when you have assets to dispose of and kids.

If you have young kids then you have many years ahead of disputes with your ex regardless of how you walk away today. Your children can also make maintenance claim's against you once they turn 18 but before their 21st birthday. This is why it's crucial to have a good divorce agreement and it will be reviewed at regular intervals.

A new partner causes havoc for divorced spouses and that's when the agreement becomes more important.
 
Sepeng said:
Oh we're not even close to a divorce (unless you were talking to the OP :) ), just something we were both wondering. We sometimes talk about such things - what happens if one of us dies, both of us, divorce, all that.
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ah sorry! I assumed it was the OP.

It really comes down to how you agree on things. Things like the ANC can govern things if you dont agree, but you can both agree to whatever you want irrespective of that if you are on the same page.
 
Other Pineapple Smurf said:
My first marriage ended in divorce and we had one child, my current marriage nearly ended in divorce last year and we have two kids:

As children are involved, it won't be easy due to our laws on child maintenance, visitation and custody - all three separate things in the eye of the law. I've never met a lawyer who will be honest on the law so I get my information directly from a family court judge.

If you are ANC, you will need to dispose of all the assets you built during your time of marriage - so there goes the cheap part.

Divorce is an emotional thing that leads to bad impulsive decisions. My only regret with my first divorce was not seeking mediation not to save the marriage, but to remove all emotion from the process.
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@Pineapple Smurf why did you divorce her?
 
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