Compliments

[2CentsWorth]

Women respond to sincerity. Offer them that and you should get more than mumbled thanks.

 

[2CentsWorth]

And more than likely he wants to sleep with her ...

How do you know this? Or more of an educated guess?

 

[blunomore]

I think the only reasons why she might be uncomfortable is because:

a) The douchebag who is hitting on her is doing it all wrong
b) Even if (a) is not true, she might assume all men complimenting her is after something (like her money or her awesome tight ass)
c) She's been dating for so long she doesn't know anything witty or flirty to say back

Blue my deer, above isn't an insult or a stab at you. just reasons. If you'd like you can insult me back, but just thought I'd mention it's not an insult ok?

Naah, that's fine, no worries

I guess humans all flirt from time to time; even if it is only to get good service from the person behind the counter!

 

[skoob]

Do girls react more to other guys (other than boyfriends/husbands) giving them compliments?

I've noticed before that when I give a compliment, I get an under the breath 'thanks' but if someone else gives the same compliment, it's smiles and a larger thing.

Is that because we're - as the SO - expected to give compliments or what?

It works opposite for me, because I just didn't feel like giving compliments anymore ... which in turn could make her feel unloved ... which could mean she seeks alternate 'loving' elsewhere ... which could mean she cheats on me, I found out and it's all over :/

It is drastic, but possible

I enjoy getting compliments from my hubby. I get extremely shy and reserved when getting compliments from other males.

 

[Gazer]

I don't really like compliments from a stranger. Puts me in "what does he want" mode. Professional compliments are ok but I don't think men (other then your SO) should pay compliments that could be mistaken for flirting

 

[guest2013-1]

some men compliment because they think it'll get them something

I don't do that until we're dating

 

[skoob]

there are some men that will genuinely give a compliment without expecting anything. The boundaries are very clear

 

[CathJ]

Like work collegues or friends. My *guess* would be the less known to her, the better.

So I'd guess a stranger in the shop bumping into her, would get more of a smile/reaction that a friend

This kinda makes sense to me, in a way... she might feel that you compliment her because you have to, you're expected to, and maybe you don't really mean it. Whereas if some stranger in a shop says "wow, love your haircut", they probably really do mean it otherwise they wouldn't bother saying it, since they've got nothing to get out if it.

 

[hxc87x]

This kinda makes sense to me, in a way... she might feel that you compliment her because you have to, you're expected to, and maybe you don't really mean it. Whereas if some stranger in a shop says "wow, love your haircut", they probably really do mean it otherwise they wouldn't bother saying it, since they've got nothing to get out if it.

not quite.
depends on the type of compliment.
i dont compliment girls anymore... but back when i used to, i used to try use it to get into her pants... and i KNOW that most other guys did/do the same

 

[CathJ]

not quite.
depends on the type of compliment.
i dont compliment girls anymore... but back when i used to, i used to try use it to get into her pants... and i KNOW that most other guys did/do the same

Depends on the situation as well - if you're at a bar, some guy starts complimenting you, yes, that could be what he's after. If it's someone at work, or someone else's husband, or someone you're not likely to see again (like some random guy in a shop), my point stands.

I may be wrong (and from this forum I suspect I may be), but I'd really like to believe that not everything a guy says to every women he meets is an attempt to get into her pants.

 

[Dolby]

Seems very easy to sleep with women nowadays ...

Offer a drink ; buy dinner ; comment on her hair cut ... they just seem so gullible. The amount of times I've heard from guys, 'I just did it to get in her pants ...' is amazing. And yet women still fall for it day after day.

 

[hxc87x]

it's not shocking news that it's easier to sleep with someone than it was 10 years ago...
i blame hip hop/rap

 

[Dolby]

I guess I'm ignorant and naive :/

Never been into random sex and trying to sleep with everyone I see. Oh well ...

 

[koeks]

Do girls react more to other guys (other than boyfriends/husbands) giving them compliments?

I've noticed before that when I give a compliment, I get an under the breath 'thanks' but if someone else gives the same compliment, it's smiles and a larger thing.

Is that because we're - as the SO - expected to give compliments or what?

It works opposite for me, because I just didn't feel like giving compliments anymore ... which in turn could make her feel unloved ... which could mean she seeks alternate 'loving' elsewhere ... which could mean she cheats on me, I found out and it's all over :/

It is drastic, but possible

dolby you got a gf now

 

[Kitten]

Getting compliments from a bf is sort of expected, but getting a compliment from someone who you are not dating has a sense of wonder about it ... It's the kind of naughtyness that is actually acceptable

Regardless of what your partner says, you always think even if they didn't believe it, it's meant to be said ... coming from a stranger/friend/whatever is always nice.

 

[TheHiveMind]

IMO

yeah girls react more to other peoples compliments. Cause shes used to getting your compliments and they have lost their meaning. Now you have a problem cause if you give her less, she will take that as an insult, but you need to give her less in order for her to actually get any enjoyment out of them and appreciate their actual meaning. So gradually tone it down, and make her earn them. Cause right now the compliments just feel like a routine because she doesn't feel like she has been earning them because they come too easy.

 

[eek]

gdiza - that's because you're just so glad to actually have a GF bru

LOL!

 

[Slootvreter]

Getting compliments from a bf is sort of expected, but getting a compliment from someone who you are not dating has a sense of wonder about it ... It's the kind of naughtyness that is actually acceptable

Thanks, that's what I always thought. Although I don't walk around hurling compliments at every female in a 10 mile radius!