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Dolby

Dolby

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Do girls react more to other guys (other than boyfriends/husbands) giving them compliments?

I've noticed before that when I give a compliment, I get an under the breath 'thanks' but if someone else gives the same compliment, it's smiles and a larger thing.

Is that because we're - as the SO - expected to give compliments or what?

It works opposite for me, because I just didn't feel like giving compliments anymore ... which in turn could make her feel unloved ... which could mean she seeks alternate 'loving' elsewhere ... which could mean she cheats on me, I found out and it's all over :/

It is drastic, but possible ;)
 
Just breath....

Ok relax.

When giving her compliments make sure you really mean them, else don't bother :)
 
depends on the compliment and your relationship with her.

as a boyfriend (especially long term) you'll be expected to tell her that you like her shoes, that she looks pretty today etc etc and because of the fact that she expects it it loses most of it's impact. also, those compliments are generic and kinda boring. which is why i try not to even think about them

if it's a girl you just met, then generic compliments like the above goes a bit further. she'll smile and say thanks, maybe even blush.

but if you're going to compliment someone, make sure it's geniune. even better... try make it unique/insightful.
example:
instead of saying that you think she's fun, say "you have an amazing energy about you"
 
Getting compliments from any other man makes me uncomfortable.

I suspect that, even without realising it, I radiate that "I am spoken for" message loud and clear.
 
gdiza - that's because you're just so glad to actually have a GF bru :p:D
 
scotty777 said:
dolby needs relationship help, oh the irony :rolleyes:
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I'ts not so much relationship help, as find the thought process behind 'a stranger giving compliments is better than my loved one' ;)

Too me, it makes little sense ...
 
Dolby said:
I'ts not so much relationship help, as find the thought process behind 'a stranger giving compliments is better than my loved one' ;)

Too me, it makes little sense ...
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If you two have been together for long, I guess she finds compliments from other men more exciting, simply because she got used to you.
 
blunomore said:
If you two have been together for long, I guess she finds compliments from other men more exciting, simply because she got used to you.
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+1
especially if it's something relating to her personality...
 
blunomore said:
If you two have been together for long, I guess she finds compliments from other men more exciting, simply because she got used to you.
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+1

That and women don't believe you (especially if you're dating)

They expect you to say she looks pretty because otherwise you know there'll be hell to pay. (No sex is my favorite... or the silent treatment)

I'll go for the unique approach. Also make it known early on that you're not the type of guy who will just say **** to keep the peace.

*remembers the fights he had before...ahhhh*

I'm the type of guy who would call the girl on her crap. Called my ex-gf a spoilt brat once. Didn't shut up about it forever. Whenever we fought about her selfishness she'll just go "oh but yea you think I'm a spoilt brat" and on with the tears.

I never backed down though. I told her the only reason why I said that is because she was acting like one, and that she needed to be less selfish sometimes and not provoke me otherwise I will get mad and I don't like it when I'm mad.

Anyway

Women tend to believe random strangers more than your own word after a while... not because she got used to you, its because she's got you under the pantoffel regime and can't rely on your judgement because you're blinded by *****
 
blunomore said:
Getting compliments from any other man makes me uncomfortable.

I suspect that, even without realising it, I radiate that "I am spoken for" message loud and clear.
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I will confirm your suspicion :D But surely it's not wrong for someone to say 'Your hair looks nice today?'
 
Slootvreter said:
I will confirm your suspicion :D But surely it's not wrong for someone to say 'Your hair looks nice today?'
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I think the only reasons why she might be uncomfortable is because:

a) The douchebag who is hitting on her is doing it all wrong
b) Even if (a) is not true, she might assume all men complimenting her is after something (like her money or her awesome tight ass)
c) She's been dating for so long she doesn't know anything witty or flirty to say back

Blue my deer, above isn't an insult or a stab at you. just reasons. If you'd like you can insult me back, but just thought I'd mention it's not an insult ok?
 
And more than likely he wants to sleep with her ...
 
bwana said:
Is this a stranger or someone she knows?
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Like work collegues or friends. My *guess* would be the less known to her, the better.

So I'd guess a stranger in the shop bumping into her, would get more of a smile/reaction that a friend
 
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