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Not sure why I am posting this but I guess it intrigues me so much that I need to know what to make of it.

My Girlfriend and I stay on the same property but in different segments of the house seperated into three units. So earlier tonight she gets home after taking care of a few things with her family and a good friend of hers.

Long story short she phones me up as she has something to tell me and to bring my phone with. I run over to her place with worry as to what is wrong. She looks really shaken up and shows me this SMS she just received...

I read it...basically what it said was that my GF is a b*tch and that I am sleeping with another girl and all kinds of sh*t. Immediately I was relieved that there was nothing to worry about and I laughed which clearly convinced my GF that I was innocent. I checked the number of the SMS she received but we could not match it to anything we had on both our phones.

So now as the story became apparent to some friends and family as we were quite open about it the more I am starting to worry again.

Who does this? I know no-one who I can picture doing this?

****As I type this now my GF forwarded me two more sms's from the same sender saying she is a slut and that I call my lover the same cute names as I do her etc etc...****

So anyway as I sit here I am starting to get upset. Merely upset.....for now.

1. However I am worried that I will be very disappointed should I find out who is doing this.
2. I am not an "issues" person at all and I make a life long commitment to avoid issues (is a big thing for me and can ironically be seen as an issue in itself I know). People who drag me into bullsh*t issues I do not enjoy are playing with fire and I do not want that.
3. This is harming my girlfriend more than me I am sure. Not something to take lightly.
4. What type of person can try mess up a complete strangers life? I don't have a lot of friends. In fact very few. None of them fit the profile and know her and my cell numbers and names etc etc. So how do I react?

I don't know...I just don't know :/ :confused:

So now I am tempted to phone the number but for now I am going to keep quiet and see how it plays out. My girlfriends brother who also stays here is SAPS and will see if he can get details from his captain granted it is permitted but he is doubtful if he can.

So maybe just lay low for now and if it becomes a threat take it on from there? My best bet is that it could be one of her ex boyfriends...do I really want to confront someone? I do not want to be pushed into that "place" in my head I feel is there if that makes any sense.
 
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See how it pans out else you can go get some nice formal papers to make the service provider give you the name of this person if the phone/sim is registeredbecause of the slandering nature of the smsess.

See how it pans out first, if your gf can handel it, if not go open a formal case at the police ect ect.
 
Maybe a guy friend of hers, who likes her and is trying to get her to break up with you?

Have your girly block the number, some people just have no life. Dont give them the satisfaction of being bugged, both of you.

You could ... go around giving out this other number to freaks, ¬_¬ ... though that is stooping.
 
i was going to suggest phoning the number from a public phone or something so that the number will come up but the person wont know who it is... then i realised that the person probably just bought a new sim that he/she uses every now and then to piss you off.
no idea who it could be... could be an ex boyfriend, a guy who's interested in her, a girl she may have upset or even one of your friends who have a bad sense of humour.

i dont know if you can block a number from contacting you, but even if you could the person would just get a new sim and start again. best idea would be to try ignore it or, if she's not on a contract, get her a new number. its quite a hassle but its worth it if its upsetting her.
 
Doesn't Samsung allow you to block numbers? But if she doesn't have a Samsung, rather as the network.

Could be anyone at this stage. Does they mention your names ect. Activities, what you where doing, when?
 
It sounds like you are dealing with a psycho here. Somebody obsessed with your gf. Ignore it for now, but if it continues, you can go to the cops.
 
The person knows the short accurate version of my name (easy to guess tho lol but my full name has unusual spelling for a common name so I always consider how it is spelled), can't spell my GF's name properly, knows my GF's brothers name and also either stumbled upon or knows a common cute name my GF and I call each other.

The person also involved my GF's brother in this and he may not be too laid back about it. Some of his revenge plots he shared with me during normal conversation are quite drastic haha :)

Well thanks for replies all, I think that is what I will do. Just going to see what happens and ignore it for now.
 
Many moons ago, I got a few anonymous calls and voice mails of an extremely insulting nature and to this day, I clearly remember how upsetting it was for me. Traumatic, actually. I hope your gf does not get anymore of these SMSs.

From your descriptions, it sort of sounds like someone in your circle of friends or family. Since they know both your names, your gf's brother's name, your nicknames for each other, it is obviously not a random stranger.

Sometimes people hide a lot of things behind a 'mask' and we are surprised when we find out what they really think or feel.

Good luck.
 
Give the number to sumone here, so we can call it and find out who it is. Just make it sound like you're trying to sell a funeral plan to the oke. Also call him at wierd hours of the night/morning :D
 
Or just put your phone on private number, phone the id10t and tell him you are phoning from the Vodacom/MTN/CellC retentions department, and that he needs to confirm some personal details for security reasons before you can share some urgent information with the account holder of that number....
 
Post the number here so we can all send a few hundred sms's, that should lock up the phone nicely. I have 100 free sms that I'm willing to 'donate' for a good cause :D

edit: I'm not really serious, I don't want him to have my number :eek: Would be cool if there was someway of making his/her/it's phone unusable.
 
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If it's a vodacom number I can probably pull a few strings @ my previous job to see if the sim is a contract of any kind and if it is we should have full name/address details for you...
 
dam said:
Post the number here so we can all send a few hundred sms's, that should lock up the phone nicely. I have 100 free sms that I'm willing to 'donate' for a good cause :D

edit: I'm not really serious, I don't want him to have my number :eek: Would be cool if there was someway of making his/her/it's phone unusable.
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Na man, just write a script that piggy backs off of the free email to sms services you get with a random email address.

I did that once through vodacom's number. Had a few hundred miss calls and please call me's from 2 numbers. So I made the script look like the one was sending the other one sms'es

Ran it every night for 12 days sending 100 smses both ways each time.

They stopped after day 1 ;)

Accidently tested the script on myself... had 63 smses come through in a space of 3 minutes and couldn't do **** on my phone because it kept receiving smses
 
I'm also thinking its someone either you or your girlfriend knows and speak with regularly.

My hunch is that its someone your girlfriend talks with(maybe someone at work?) because in my experience guys only talk relationships with their really close friends while gals tend to share that info easier with other people.

So it may be either a guy who has the hots for your girl, or a girl that likes you(unlikely, she would have tried flirting with and aproaching you first) or its some chick that is pissed of with your girlfriend. Someone she talks with casually or someone in or around her social circles that could listen in on conversations or phone calls.
 
It is defnitely someone you know. I've been in this situation before and traced it back to my family who didn't approve of my then fiancee.
 
spiderz said:
Give the number to sumone here, so we can call it and find out who it is. Just make it sound like you're trying to sell a funeral plan to the oke. Also call him at wierd hours of the night/morning :D
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I will i will i will call!!!
I had stalkers too.
I still wonder who Wouter is?!:D
Best way to find out who this is to phone the number, do not scream or fight just get someone to "phone the wrong number" and find out who this is.

Know your enemy. ;)
 
Ignore it. Any action will cause a reaction. That's what they want. If you do nothing they get nothing and move on. My wife has had a couple stalkers and ingoring them is the best way to go.
 
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