Dating a vegetarian

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tsume

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For those who are courting or have courted a vegetarian, what is the relationship like?

For example did you end up having to stop eating meat at some point when going out to a restaurant?

Question maybe vague, fill in holes where possible.
 
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It depends on the reasoning behind the decision, doesn't it? If it's an individual choice, for health reasons or some such, that's one thing. If it's part of a personal ideology that paints any and all meat eaters as devil-spawn it's a different matter altogether.
 
enigma243 said:
It depends on the reasoning behind the decision, doesn't it? If it's an individual choice, for health reasons or some such, that's one thing. If it's part of a personal ideology that paints any and all meat eaters as devil-spawn it's a different matter altogether.
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c'mon it isn't black and white like that
 
I wouldn't NOT date someone because she ate meat. I would hope that if we were together for any length of time that I could convince her to kick the habit though.
 
MickeyD said:
Since when does what a person eats (or not eats) matter in a relationship?
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Well, it's pretty difficult to be in a long-term relationship with someone you have significant philosophical differences with. It's pointless, non-cohesive and ultimately a worthless endeavour.

You can't change someone to suit your preferences and it's pointless being in a relationship with someone who does things contradictory to your own way of life.

Why should someone who is bothered by cigarette smoke think that being in a relationship with a smoker has some potential harmonious longevity? It's such a waste of time and just encourages long-term frustration.

Personally, I have no interest in being in a relationship with someone whose way of life just grates my cheese. I want to be happy, not put up with **** every day of my life by someone who can't empathise with my personal philosophies.

I wouldn't date a religious person, similarly I wouldn't date someone who eats meat. There are no long-term prospects.
 
BCO said:
I wouldn't NOT date someone because she ate meat. I would hope that if we were together for any length of time that I could convince her to kick the habit though.
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Pointless. Someone needs to make that decision out of their own accord. I don't have it in me to coddle someone to that point or toe around religious sensitivities. A relationship is supposed to be about working together, standing together and not about being condescending (on however "small" a basis) towards each other's decisions.

It's a pretty pathetic relationship, take it from someone who's been there and got the T-shirt :p

Never again.
 
Lycanthrope said:
Why should someone who is bothered by cigarette smoke think that being in a relationship with a smoker has some potential harmonious longevity? It's such a waste of time and just encourages long-term frustration.
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I've never smoked in my life. My wife of 20 years has always smoked...

I agree with you on trying to change people. That won't work. Ever.
 
MickeyD said:
I've never smoked in my life. My wife of 20 years has always smoked...

I agree with you on trying to change people. That won't work. Ever.
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Yup. I'm not necessarily saying that other people can't make relationships like that work, I'm just not one of them. I'm pretty opinionated and I want (need) someone in my life who empathises and understands my decisions because he's made those same decisions and thinks and feels the same way.

It's just how I am--I need more out of a relationship than simply companionship, I want a sort of reciprocated understanding and support.

I find it difficult to explain :p

My point to the OP was just that if his beau is interested in meeting with a non-vegetarian, it's probably not as much of a concern to her as it would be to someone like me. It would basically never get that far with me :)
 
tsume said:
Curiosity. Just wanted to know how dinner is like for some, does SO other nag about eating meat or are most open to let others live there lives etc.
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I think most vegetarians are adult enough to realise that the decision is a personal one. I have non-vegetarian friends, but I would never have a non-vegetarian partner :p

<mandatoryawwww>Fortunately my partner is peeeeeeeeeeerfect <3 </mandatoryawwww>
 
Lycanthrope said:
Pointless. Someone needs to make that decision out of their own accord. I don't have it in me to coddle someone to that point or toe around religious sensitivities. A relationship is supposed to be about working together, standing together and not about being condescending (on however "small" a basis) towards each other's decisions.

It's a pretty pathetic relationship, take it from someone who's been there and got the T-shirt :p

Never again.
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Well, I'd never force her with some kind of ultimatum, but if you spend a lot of time with somebody and you talk openly then it's definitely not impossible to affect or be affected by that person's viewpoints, behaviour etc. I don't think that there's any need for condescension from either party when discussing dietary/lifestyle choices. Practical example - I became vegetarian before my wife did, while we were engaged. Now we're both vegetarian.
 
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