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So after returning from my SA trip I feel like I've backtracked again.

(Those who don't know, the reason for me moving from JHB back to Cape Town is to be closer to family / chill out a bit more)

Basically, now I find myself 15000km away from my family, same situation as in JHB and even though it is really nice here, and I make money etc, I again start with the panic attacks and anger I used to have back home in JHB. I'm considering moving back to CPT again.

Now the problem is, I figured I'd save myself a shed load of interest and pay off most of my debt in SA by taking out a loan here (they tend to do that very easy here, borrowed close to R215k)

Which is nice, I now pay back my loan fixed on 24 months @ 13.5% interest (yay for me foreseeing this global **** happening!)

I don't like the work enviroment and the constant stress and wonder if I'll have a job tomorrow or not. 276 hours worth of work during August has brought me 0 overtime pay and when I asked for additional leave compensation based off of the amount of extra hours I've put in I got a pat on the back saying "Thanks for your hard work but no"

So I figured, **** that, why stay anyway right...

Am I screwed? You all probably going to say "stick it out for 24 months" (assuming this company employs me for that long) and pay off the loan and then move back.

But lets say that it's life or death situation and I have to move back. What are my options?
 
Stick it out and stop doubting who you are what you are capable of in life.

Edit: (counts just as much for me as well bro ;) )
 
Personally I would say that your mental health is of paramount importance. If you are mentally sick, sort your situation out to get better.
 
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Picard said:
Personally I would say that your mental health is of paramount importance. If you are mentally sick, sort your situation out to get better.
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Yes but how? With the loan I'm not sure how the guys here would react? Can't just skip the country, the pow-lice would be after me
 
AcidRaZor said:
Yes but how? With the loan I'm not sure how the guys here would react? Can't just skip the country, the pow-lice would be after me
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Well if you already committed yourself to repaying a 200 grand loan than you're pretty much stuck to that country. Because your mental health will go even further down south if you head back to Cape Town.

I'd say your mental health is stuck to your debt. Only by getting rid of that debt will you be able to improve your mental health. While you are suffering, find a way to pace yourself ... to improve your mental stamina.

EDIT: Wow ... wottalotta shyte I speak.
:D

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Peder said:
What about going to see someone about your anger?

BTW you're not mad if you do.
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The problem with going for that kind of help is that I'm not always sure that seeing a psychologist/psychiatrist will help (there isn't a guarantee that it will work) in which case it is a bunch of money wasted.

EDIT: Fixed the spelling of guarantee.
 
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Thanks. The anger is directly related to my job (even though there were some personal stuff in the past which has been dealt with)

Basically the mumbo jumbo is that my job is so stressful and I don't give it a rest for any second of the day that it eats into my seratonin levels so much that I compensate for that by upping my adrenalin, and to get to that I need to get angry. Almost like the Hulk :)

So I'm at a point now where I'd much rather skip the country and **** off forever than to keep in this job. Thing is, this job pays nicely and I haven't seen anyone pay close to this for the type of work I'm doing.
 
I'd say, don't quit on impulse. If the job is putting an unreasonable strain on you then quit, but in a planned fashion...not with a fck this...I'm out of here without a plan.

The other thing is, I don't think moving will magically solve the anger/stress issues completely. It'll help a lot probably, but I don't think moving to SA is going to be a cure-all solution.

Chances are, that a move will result in you taking a financial knock...and that seldomly results in less stress.

Perhaps set a financial target that you want to achieve....like Picard said. Clear the debt and *then* drop the high-paying job. That way you have something to work towards & a finish line that is tangible.

Jobs appear to be kinda thin on the ground atm...in SA and elsewhere.

You can also tell your boss that if you don't get a break asap then you'll have a breakdown....and then you're no good to anyone.
 
I'm going to stay out of this thread as it will just end with me saying something along the lines of the grass not always being greener.

But seriously I hope you get your sh_t together Acid.
 
Not to be funny, but you have asked this question on this forum before. While other people may have interesting or helpful opinions, they are not in your shoes and can never decide for you, because they do not know everything about your life.

You seem to say that you had the same work related issues / problems (anger, panic attacks, etc.) in your life when you were in Jhb. That seems to suggest that it has nothing to do with work and everything to do with you.

Good luck anyway, hope you make choices that bring you some peace.
 
I suggest going to see a psychiatrist/psychologist if it doesn't work then at least you tried.
 
Remember that there is no situation so bad that it cannot be made worse, so whatever you decide, do not act on impulse!!

I know this might sound glib but as you siad the situation can only last for another 24 months - contrast 24 months with the rest of your life.

I remember having to vasbyt thru 24 months national service and at first it felt like an eternity, now it seems like the blink of an eye.

The trick I found to surviving these kinds of circumstance is focus on short term goals, plan how you will get thru this day, then the next and so on thinking too far ahead will only make you unhappy.

This got me thru 24 months in the army and hey, I only shot the people I was supposed to!!

Look for the positives and focus on those.

Best of luck etc
 
AcidRaZor said:
So after returning from my SA trip I feel like I've backtracked again.

(Those who don't know, the reason for me moving from JHB back to Cape Town is to be closer to family / chill out a bit more)

Basically, now I find myself 15000km away from my family, same situation as in JHB and even though it is really nice here, and I make money etc, I again start with the panic attacks and anger I used to have back home in JHB. I'm considering moving back to CPT again.

Now the problem is, I figured I'd save myself a shed load of interest and pay off most of my debt in SA by taking out a loan here (they tend to do that very easy here, borrowed close to R215k)

Which is nice, I now pay back my loan fixed on 24 months @ 13.5% interest (yay for me foreseeing this global **** happening!)

I don't like the work enviroment and the constant stress and wonder if I'll have a job tomorrow or not. 276 hours worth of work during August has brought me 0 overtime pay and when I asked for additional leave compensation based off of the amount of extra hours I've put in I got a pat on the back saying "Thanks for your hard work but no"

So I figured, **** that, why stay anyway right...

Am I screwed? You all probably going to say "stick it out for 24 months" (assuming this company employs me for that long) and pay off the loan and then move back.

But lets say that it's life or death situation and I have to move back. What are my options?
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AcidRaZor said:
Yes but how? With the loan I'm not sure how the guys here would react? Can't just skip the country, the pow-lice would be after me
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AcidRaZor said:
Thanks. The anger is directly related to my job (even though there were some personal stuff in the past which has been dealt with)

Basically the mumbo jumbo is that my job is so stressful and I don't give it a rest for any second of the day that it eats into my seratonin levels so much that I compensate for that by upping my adrenalin, and to get to that I need to get angry. Almost like the Hulk :)

So I'm at a point now where I'd much rather skip the country and **** off forever than to keep in this job. Thing is, this job pays nicely and I haven't seen anyone pay close to this for the type of work I'm doing.
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I was in a similar (not as bad with the debt) situation a while ago. Only had a car to pay off (or sell) and worked for the worst company (50% owned by a South African) in the world, when I say its bad, I mean as bad as they get, not having money for salaries, deducting money from you salary, no flight home, no medical insurance (normal standard extras in UAE) etc.

I also felt like leaving, leaving the car in front of emirates bank and boarding a plane home, but is life just that easy, can you just give up? I decided to solve the actual problem and found another job, I now work for probably one of the most exciting companies in the world, better than emaar/nakheel etc!

Don't give up with regards to a job, it's tough here but it takes time lots of patience.

With regards to skipping the country, according to the local news, the UAE has the most warrants out for arrests with Interpol, more than any other country, they are serious about crime, which you probably know! ;)

Otherwise, wait a few months, ride out the financial storm and go get a loan in SA, pay this one off and head back...

just my 2fils

cheers
 
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