Does a Best Girlfriend/Boyfriend actually exist?

Positively Negative said:
I do that...alot.this wkend and even yesterday i was busy and she was cool with that.i told her we can catch up before she leaves back to College.another thing is she doesnt stay here so we dont see each other for 6 months at a time?
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We'll wouldn't the distance create a problem anyway.
 
when you guys hang out do you sleep in the same bed, since you are friends?
 
2ways u can bone her:
1 act like a normal sex crazed man, constantly comment on her tits and as$ when with her. Dont help her dress when u go out u fag and dont sit and wait in the house, wait outside in the car while downing a beer and hooting.
Very important drive fastish not crazy though rev the car on ur way out and blast the music. At the club jump out open her door and yell 'GET UR TIGHT AS$ OFF MY SEATS UR RUINING THE LEATHER! Constantly comment on other girls tits and as$.

2 And i dont recommend this at all! Go for the sympathy bone, be the perfect gentleman/wuss and after a while of ur romantic gayness tell her how much she means to u make sure she is drunk as a skunk when u do it though! She might say ur such a good friend and bamm. Just keep in mind if this route does work you will never ever hit that again ever! She will tell u that it was a mistake and that it ruined everything.
Take my advice and do option 1 if it doesnt work you can have my car my levi's and the tatoo on my back.
 
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Vegeta said:
2ways u can bone her. 1 act like a normal sex crazed man, constantly comment on her tits and as$ when with her. Dont help her dress when u go out u fag dont sit and wait in the house, wait outside in the car while downing a beer and hooting. Very important drive fastish not crazy though rev the car on ur way out and blast the music. At the club jump out open her door and yell 'GET UR TIGHT AS$ OFF MY SEATS UR RUINING THE LEATHER! Constantly comment on other girls tits and as$.
2 And i dont recommend this at all! Go for the sympathy bone, be the perfect gentleman/wuss and after a while of ur romantic gayness tell her how much she means to u make sure she is drunk as a skunk when u do it though! She might say ur such a good friend and bamm. Just keep in mind if this route does work you will never ever hit that again ever! She will tell u that it was a mistake and that it ruined everything.
Take my advice and do option 1 if it doesnt work you can have my car my levi's and the tatoo on my back.
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LOL:D:D
 
Yes, it is absolutely possible to have a best friend of the opposite sex. I married mine 43 years ago and we are even better best friends. lol
 
Vegeta said:
2ways u can bone her:
1 act like a normal sex crazed man, constantly comment on her tits and as$ when with her. Dont help her dress when u go out u fag and dont sit and wait in the house, wait outside in the car while downing a beer and hooting.
Very important drive fastish not crazy though rev the car on ur way out and blast the music. At the club jump out open her door and yell 'GET UR TIGHT AS$ OFF MY SEATS UR RUINING THE LEATHER! Constantly comment on other girls tits and as$.

2 And i dont recommend this at all! Go for the sympathy bone, be the perfect gentleman/wuss and after a while of ur romantic gayness tell her how much she means to u make sure she is drunk as a skunk when u do it though! She might say ur such a good friend and bamm. Just keep in mind if this route does work you will never ever hit that again ever! She will tell u that it was a mistake and that it ruined everything.
Take my advice and do option 1 if it doesnt work you can have my car my levi's and the tatoo on my back.
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What he says is true man. This is how it currently stands:

She knows she can have you whenever she wants (not maybe, she knows, believe me). She gets everything she wants from you emotionally and gets the sex and whatever else she wants from guys who challenge her.

If you want her you seriously need to stop acting like she is better than you and you need her, because that is how it sounds at this point. Confidence is what people call it.

Who gives sh#t how hot she is, are you in Pretoria, dude go to Hatfield when it's a students night, or come to main campus at Tuks during the day so you can get an idea how many gorgeous woman there are out there (hot girl every 2 minutes of walking, during class changes, every 10 seconds).

The problem is she knows you already and she knows you are a "good guy" so at this point to get her interested you are gonna need some serious f-ing work.

Easiest option, get another girl. Bring her along when you and another girl are hitting it off big time and as soon as she tests you, you simply brush her off and ignore her. By test I mean anything that will show the other girl that she can boss you around or have you at any time. She may even say something about you so that it looks like she can say whatever she wants about you and you'll still run around like her little lap dog, at that point you just need a retort, doesn't even need to be good, then ignore. Job done. In her mind she's going to wonder why the hell you don't want her anymore and why this other girl is so much better (than her), why does the girl that is better than her is going for you.

If you don't have another girl it's going to be seriously tough because at this point you are so far in the friend zone you need something big to get out. Being overly rude probably won't work, you'll need to get seriously confident so that other women will want you and then she'll notice and start running after you.

Last option is to wait until she wants to get married because that is the point when women settle for the guy who are their best friends, whom they can control, predictable, etc. etc.
 
Voicy said:
Chicks are car guards.
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You know thats one of those catch phrases from mybb(up there with pics or it didn't happen).. the other day i was talking to my older sister and i blurted out that lmfao.
 
krycor said:
You know thats one of those catch phrases from mybb(up there with pics or it didn't happen).. the other day i was talking to my older sister and i blurted out that lmfao.
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You know Voicy was the 1 who started that phrase ;)
 
Dude you have to make a move or at least let her know how you feel, otherwise you will have false hope forever.

If it does not work out you will be sad for a week, but at least then you can move on and who knows, maybe still be real friends with this girl, after you both have moved on.

And if it works out and she is also in to you, well enjoy the ride 6 ways from Sunday :D
 
Gnome said:
What he says is true man. This is how it currently stands:

She knows she can have you whenever she wants (not maybe, she knows, believe me). She gets everything she wants from you emotionally and gets the sex and whatever else she wants from guys who challenge her.

If you want her you seriously need to stop acting like she is better than you and you need her, because that is how it sounds at this point. Confidence is what people call it.

Who gives sh#t how hot she is, are you in Pretoria, dude go to Hatfield when it's a students night, or come to main campus at Tuks during the day so you can get an idea how many gorgeous woman there are out there (hot girl every 2 minutes of walking, during class changes, every 10 seconds).

The problem is she knows you already and she knows you are a "good guy" so at this point to get her interested you are gonna need some serious f-ing work.

Easiest option, get another girl. Bring her along when you and another girl are hitting it off big time and as soon as she tests you, you simply brush her off and ignore her. By test I mean anything that will show the other girl that she can boss you around or have you at any time. She may even say something about you so that it looks like she can say whatever she wants about you and you'll still run around like her little lap dog, at that point you just need a retort, doesn't even need to be good, then ignore. Job done. In her mind she's going to wonder why the hell you don't want her anymore and why this other girl is so much better (than her), why does the girl that is better than her is going for you.

If you don't have another girl it's going to be seriously tough because at this point you are so far in the friend zone you need something big to get out. Being overly rude probably won't work, you'll need to get seriously confident so that other women will want you and then she'll notice and start running after you.

Last option is to wait until she wants to get married because that is the point when women settle for the guy who are their best friends, whom they can control, predictable, etc. etc.
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Thanks man...you definetly make alotta sense without coming across as insulting. The thing is i know its not EVER gonna happen and i can live with that in some strange way.
I think one huge issue with too many guys on this forum is that they think they can get any women on earth.that is just simply unrealistic.trust me every single guy gets rejected at some point.im just amazed how many guys talk from experience here...almost as if every single girl theyve liked has liked them back :wtf:

BlackJack1301 said:
Dude you have to make a move or at least let her know how you feel, otherwise you will have false hope forever.

If it does not work out you will be sad for a week, but at least then you can move on and who knows, maybe still be real friends with this girl, after you both have moved on.

And if it works out and she is also in to you, well enjoy the ride 6 ways from Sunday :D
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Duuude...she knows 100% how i feel.ive told her countless times how many times i would tap that @ss.its weak to not tell someone how you feel regardless of the outcome. The outcome in this case sucked but i moved on.... and it was longer than a week. So basically she knows i would tap that and all. :) Im not that slow .
 
Positively Negative said:
Duuude...she knows 100% how i feel.ive told her countless times how many times i would tap that @ss.its weak to not tell someone how you feel regardless of the outcome. The outcome in this case sucked but i moved on.... and it was longer than a week. So basically she knows i would tap that and all. :) Im not that slow .
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That's just it. She knows you're pudding in her hands and she's taking you for granted.

She'll only wake up when she realizes you're not going to hang around being her "Gay Best Friend" or "Intellectual Whore" anymore.

Do yourself the biggest favour of your life and spend 10 minutes reading the following educational website, seriously... don't post here again until you've read that website. Why are you still reading this sentence? Go read the website! I mean it!

http://www.laddertheory.com/

You'll thank me in the morning.
 
Yeah, if she knows all that and still likes to keep you around like a pet and never gives you any then man up and let go.
 
I think it is possible to be friends with the opposite sex but very difficult if you are attracted to the person as well. However I am also of the opinion that the girl you marry should have a close friendship with you, that way it will last and there is not just lust involved.

If I felt a friendly relationship with a girl could only last if it turns into something more then here's what I would do if...:

1. Everything I do for her is purely based on my feelings of attraction for her? Then I would walk away and stop talking to her because I know I will be hurt if I continue to pursue. How much of an idiot would I feel shaking her boyfriends hand and watching them make out at a club or something? Especially considering I would do almost anything for her given the chance how much trouble could I potentially end up in with nothing to gain?

2. I love hanging out with her and believe there is genuine friendship even though I am attracted to her as well? Then avoid her for a while and see what her response is. If she is concerned at all about your apparent lack of interest then you may have a chance. If not and she just doesn't bother to contact you or try from her side then walk away because you're wasting your time.

You see the problem is you already mentioned your feelings to her and she was clearly not interested enough to take that opportunity so it doesn't leave a lot of options. You also can't help the fact that you have deeper feelings for her so if it isn't happening then you're just going to have to move on.

You can always hold on to hope that one day she might just turn around and say she wants to be with you but you need to assess the situation and think about the chances of that happening. And be prepared to meet her boyfriends while you stay single.
 
Positively Negative said:
Thanks man...you definetly make alotta sense without coming across as insulting. The thing is i know its not EVER gonna happen and i can live with that in some strange way.
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You being sarcastic? Sorry if I came across as harsh. Being a good guy isn't bad, you just doing too much good guy, you also need to be a bit of a challenge. Women want someone fun, who can challenge them a bit. You seem really into this girl so I'm telling you what one of best ways are to get a women, get other women to like you!

Dude you are bringing yourself down, why is this girl so special? What exactly do you think is the reason you can never get this girl?

Positively Negative said:
I think one huge issue with too many guys on this forum is that they think they can get any women on earth.that is just simply unrealistic.trust me every single guy gets rejected at some point.im just amazed how many guys talk from experience here...almost as if every single girl theyve liked has liked them back :wtf:
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Dude I'll tell you straight, I've been rejected, just like you said, same for every other guy. I'm not one of those guys that can get any girl, just another guy!
 
Jonny Two Shoes said:
I think it is possible to be friends with the opposite sex but very difficult if you are attracted to the person as well. However I am also of the opinion that the girl you marry should have a close friendship with you, that way it will last and there is not just lust involved.

If I felt a friendly relationship with a girl could only last if it turns into something more then here's what I would do if...:

1. Everything I do for her is purely based on my feelings of attraction for her? Then I would walk away and stop talking to her because I know I will be hurt if I continue to pursue. How much of an idiot would I feel shaking her boyfriends hand and watching them make out at a club or something? Especially considering I would do almost anything for her given the chance how much trouble could I potentially end up in with nothing to gain?

2. I love hanging out with her and believe there is genuine friendship even though I am attracted to her as well? Then avoid her for a while and see what her response is. If she is concerned at all about your apparent lack of interest then you may have a chance. If not and she just doesn't bother to contact you or try from her side then walk away because you're wasting your time.

You see the problem is you already mentioned your feelings to her and she was clearly not interested enough to take that opportunity so it doesn't leave a lot of options. You also can't help the fact that you have deeper feelings for her so if it isn't happening then you're just going to have to move on.

You can always hold on to hope that one day she might just turn around and say she wants to be with you but you need to assess the situation and think about the chances of that happening. And be prepared to meet her boyfriends while you stay single.
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Ahh Jonny...thanks for the detailed opinion.
1. I agree - i have been thinking about meeting one of her serious bfriends in the future and ive come to the conclusion i would find faults in the guy no matter how good he is due to my jealousy

2. oh ive pulled that one off dozens of times.i completely ignore her and she always makes an effort to contact me . the thing is when she is at college out of town she has 2342323234 guy friends..not as close as me and ive seen the way she acts around them.its awesome that she acts genuine around me and i can tell when she isnt comfortable around ppl.But when she is in jhb i rate im her real only good guy friend so im almost her only option?
Recently shes met a new group of guy friends and theyve been going out non stop BUT shes smsd me each time to ask me to come along.Now due to the fact i dont enjoy her acting slutty infront of me or making out with randoms i tend to make excuses .i did go out on friday with her and had a jol! awesome dancing...drinking and she behaved herself but that was a rare occasion :p
i always hang onto that hope that one day she will pull a Movie moment on me and tell me she is fed up with all these tossing playas and has falling for me.that is NOT going to happen... and sadly i see the advice on moving along is probably the best :( its gonna hurt...even though ive had my reasons of being angry at her ive had too many good times with her.
Tonight i was even giving her stick for going out and i told her to enjoy the random dudes shes hooks up with....hahaha jealousy is a fcker hey!

Gnome said:
You being sarcastic? Sorry if I came across as harsh. Being a good guy isn't bad, you just doing too much good guy, you also need to be a bit of a challenge. Women want someone fun, who can challenge them a bit. You seem really into this girl so I'm telling you what one of best ways are to get a women, get other women to like you!

Dude you are bringing yourself down, why is this girl so special? What exactly do you think is the reason you can never get this girl?



Dude I'll tell you straight, I've been rejected, just like you said, same for every other guy. I'm not one of those guys that can get any girl, just another guy!
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Dude sorry for seeming sarcastic.Man i can always be fun and know how to enjoy myself and the company around me.
But you bring up good points? Why is she special. one thing she does seem to do is take interest in ppls lives BUT she doesnt have a true caring side.
ALSO - ive met alot of girls since i left high school and she is the one out of all them who still contacts me and makes an effort.i am a true friend to her...and fck she will sob if i drop her.thats sad in a way...
The reason i can never get her is simply this in my opinion : you know when you meet someone you can usually tell in the first day or two if you can see yourself ever hooking up with them? I mean ive had a few girls who like me and no matter how drunk i was or how desperate i am i just will never hook up with them...its just that initial appeal or attraction is not there.thats the case with me on her. Now i just dont have that physical appeal to her or the vibe im putting out there doesnt turn her on in that way.but my friendship vibe does?! so i can take some tips from you guys and change the vibe i give to her.... but she might think im an @sshole and pick it up.:whistle:

Hahaha cheers for the detailed opinions dudes
 
i've been in a similar position to you PN. In fact I wrote at great length about it on this forum.

Anyway, my humble opinion, until she is prepared to see you in that light, get something better, you are not required to hang around on the off chance she will see something in you.

The only reason she makes an effort is because you are easy to keep around, and she gets what she wants, maybe she is not doing in conciously, but the fact remains....

WALK AWAY.

it will hurt and you will both be sad, but over time you will realise how good it is to be free
 
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