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Safferbeauty

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How do you control them? I have been through a very rough patch lately.... I have lost a friendship due to me seeing right through my friend. Was hard and still is as it only happened like a week ago. I get dirty looks from her and her boyfriend. They know exactly what they have done. But it's hard to let go of a friendship. I feel very upset at times and cried a lot this week. How do I control emotions....
 
Safferbeauty said:
How do you control them? I have been through a very rough patch lately.... I have lost a friendship due to me seeing right through my friend. Was hard and still is as it only happened like a week ago. I get dirty looks from her and her boyfriend. They know exactly what they have done. But it's hard to let go of a friendship. I feel very upset at times and cried a lot this week. How do I control emotions....
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beer and exercise
 
Emotions are easy. You ignore them and bottle them up inside so that the form into a little black ball of hatred and pain. You keep it there, feeding it, letting it grow, until one day you have a meltdown and get naked in the office, in front of all your colleagues, and do something like urinate in your boss' coffee.

Or you could just continue to cry and work through them in a healthy manner, by speaking to close friends who you can trust to not drop you.

Seriously though, the ball's the way to go!
 
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You can't. You can temporarily fix the situation w/ endorphins though like with exercise as suggested. Works like a bomb.

Don't worry about the drinking...as long as its a temporary coping mechanism & doesn't turn into a problem in itself. Really not ideal but yeah.

I suspect you'll get better advice from someone like blunomore though.

Messugga said:
Emotions are easy. You ignore them and bottle them up inside so that the form into a little black ball of hatred and pain. You keep it there, feeding it, letting it grow, until one day you have a meltdown and get naked in the office, in front of all your colleagues, and do something like urinate in your boss' coffee.
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Yes. Do this. Also, you'll need this quote from Fight Club"
Richard Chesler: [Reading a piece of paper] The first rule of Fight Club is you don't talk about Fight Club?
Narrator: [Voice-over] I'm half asleep again; I must've left the original in the copy machine.
Richard Chesler: The second rule of Fight Club - is this yours?
Narrator: Huh?
Richard Chesler: Pretend you're me, make a managerial decision: you find this, what would you do?
Narrator: [pauses] Well, I gotta tell you: I'd be very, very careful who you talk to about that, because the person who wrote that... is dangerous.
[Gets up from the chair]
Narrator: [Talking slowly] And this button-down, Oxford-cloth psycho might just snap, and then stalk from office to office with an Armalite AR-10 carbine gas-powered semi-automatic weapon, pumping round after round into colleagues and co-workers. This might be someone you've known for years. Someone very, very close to you.
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Only joking of course...

Messugga said:
Or you could just continue to cry and work through them in a healthy manner, by speaking to close friends who you can trust to not drop you.
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Not disagreeing, but I'd like to point out that some studies suggest bottling it is better. http://www.livescience.com/health/080603-bottle-emotions.html
 
Put some earphones on, turn the volume up and load this video. Just picture some of the characters in the video as your "friend" and smile :)

Always works for me :twisted:

edit: WARNING! dont watch if you have epilepsy!
 
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Seeing as I live in my own little universe, when "friends" become toxic, I just exclude them from my universe. ie. They just don't exist as friends anymore, merely as someone I know .... an acquaintance.

I don't think about them, and if I do, I don't get angry or miserable and why should I, if they just don't exist in my universe anymore.

If and when I do see them, I treat them as I would treat any other person I don't know.
 
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I read your issue but drinking - but Jaegermeister can fix that
 
Safferbeauty said:
How do you control them? I have been through a very rough patch lately.... I have lost a friendship due to me seeing right through my friend. Was hard and still is as it only happened like a week ago. I get dirty looks from her and her boyfriend. They know exactly what they have done. But it's hard to let go of a friendship. I feel very upset at times and cried a lot this week. How do I control emotions....
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same here hey, i had this great friendship with this girl i was friends with at school for ages, we were really like best friends now our friendship ended very recently, and its quite hard to let this person go but i try not to get sad about it as she was the one who started to treat me like *** recently
 
Gym is cool, or any other activity that will take your mind off it.

But more importantly surround yourself with good friends and meet new people.

It hurts now, but will get better... ohh and sleep, nature's best cure for anything ;)
 
Go on an Emotional Intellegence course. I went last year and it was the best decision of my life. You learn to control and manage your feelings and put everything in perspective. In the long run it is a great investment. I have info on the course if you are interested (and in the JHB area).
 
Sadly I am no where near Joburg lol but cant you send me the info on the course. Would be interesting to read. I will pm you my email address :D
 
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