Ever been emotionally stunned?

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Have you ever been stunned? Shocked maybe?

This is a pathetic story ... from my side ... but this is unfortunately my reality.

There is this girl (you can see where this is going) with whom I've been platonic friends for 2/3 years. I've toyed with, or entertained the notion of something happening between us but I seriously couldn't see it going anywhere (too many things counting against me going into a relationship with a girl) and thus I never took it seriously. Once during a group discussion about relationships we sat next to each other and while continuing to chat about the topic she even directly (as an illustration of her argument about the topic) said that she and I as a couple would never work. Okay. So I never pursued a relationship with her.

Nevertheless, as a man does while single, you sometimes imagine yourself in a relationship. The woman that usually gets manifested in my fantasies is this particular one. But like I said I've never taken it seriously, I have only played with the idea.

Tonight we got together for our usual Thursday evening social. She went and sat next to another guy (also a friend). But that's nothing strange, we are a mixed bunch. However during the evening I saw her starting to lean in his direction ... and I realized "Oh shyte! Here it comes". The leaning became more pronounced and at the end it was a deliberate snuggle in front of our whole group of single men and women.

Now imagine me sitting across from them, stone-faced, twiddling my thumbs, not laughing at some good jokes being told. I am shocked. I feel weak, almost paralyzed. But have no reason to be shocked. I should be happy for them, but I'm not. To make matters worse, I'm sure she picked up my slightly strange behavior (I also excused myself a bit early). And to make matters MUCH worse our group of friends are going camping tomorrow. This is a crap situation and I'm feeling pathetic.

EDIT: There is no connection between this post and my sig. It's a mere coincidence.
 
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Hmmm sounds like your into this girl or very lonely in the love department.

I had a friend like this but i could never have brought myself to think it was possible nor did i get a testy when she was with another dude.

Maybe you should test the waters? maybe she was doing it to make you get jealous.
 
Love breaks heart!
"almost paralyzed"
don't worry about that, there is a cure!
Painkillers
 
It honestly sounds like you are a little bit in love with her, Picard.

Or at the least you are in love with the idea of being in love with her.

JMO :)
 
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I think she fancies you too! But you have both "assumed" that you are always just going to be friends and nothing more is going to happen. You have settled into your happy place and are now afraid of ruining it by taking it further.

Either that, or she really does just see you as a "mate" ;)

We would really need to study the interaction between the two of you more to make the call. Unfortunately with her now having set her sights on someone else in the group it would not be the right time for you to make your feelings known... unless of course she was doing what she did to make you catch a wake up that she is not going to be around forever....

Damn women ARE complicated after all! ha ha
 
Yep, been there.

Was good friends with a guy, always thought something would develop, didn't have the guts to say anything, suspected he felt the same.

Then he casually drops the words "my girlfriend" into the conversation :(

Edit: although it sounds like you were more stunned by your reaction, than that she was cuddling up to another guy...
 
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Shame I really seems that you do have feelings for her more than friends, this is going to be tough on you but you going to have to stick it out.
 
my story is a bit different...

I was still in high school, my brother and sister were staying with my dad in another smaller town where he started his own it business, and was doing well - they came home over weekends.

Ok, so we were staying on a farm, and were always taught about the various dangers and what to be one the lookout for. One day while going to check up on where the cow and calf was, I walked past our worker's house, and saw the door was not closed and locked (and I knew he wasn't around).

So instead of going to check it out by myself, I immediately went back home to go and call my mom. She took the shotgun and sambok and went back with me.

When she pushed the door open, there was another black man (don't who he was, as it was definitely not our worker) in the room. He was lying on the floor. When the door opened up, he sat up. My mom asked him who he was and what he was doing there. Instead of answering, he tried to get up and grab the shotgun. The gun went off, blew the bottom part of his face away.

It took me quite a while to get over this...
 
Yep, been there.

Was good friends with a guy, always thought something would develop, didn't have the guts to say anything, suspected he felt the same.

Then he casually drops the words "my girlfriend" into the conversation :(

Edit: although it sounds like you were more stunned by your reaction, than that she was cuddling up to another guy...

Girls get hurt too?!
 
my story is a bit different...

I was still in high school, my brother and sister were staying with my dad in another smaller town where he started his own it business, and was doing well - they came home over weekends.

Ok, so we were staying on a farm, and were always taught about the various dangers and what to be one the lookout for. One day while going to check up on where the cow and calf was, I walked past our worker's house, and saw the door was not closed and locked (and I knew he wasn't around).

So instead of going to check it out by myself, I immediately went back home to go and call my mom. She took the shotgun and sambok and went back with me.

When she pushed the door open, there was another black man (don't who he was, as it was definitely not our worker) in the room. He was lying on the floor. When the door opened up, he sat up. My mom asked him who he was and what he was doing there. Instead of answering, he tried to get up and grab the shotgun. The gun went off, blew the bottom part of his face away.

It took me quite a while to get over this...
:eek:Understandably. He was asking for it though.
 
Have you ever been stunned? Shocked maybe?

This is a pathetic story ... from my side ... but this is unfortunately my reality.

There is this girl (you can see where this is going) with whom I've been platonic friends for 2/3 years. I've toyed with, or entertained the notion of something happening between us but I seriously couldn't see it going anywhere (too many things counting against me going into a relationship with a girl) and thus I never took it seriously. Once during a group discussion about relationships we sat next to each other and while continuing to chat about the topic she even directly (as an illustration of her argument about the topic) said that she and I as a couple would never work. Okay. So I never pursued a relationship with her.

Nevertheless, as a man does while single, you sometimes imagine yourself in a relationship. The woman that usually gets manifested in my fantasies is this particular one. But like I said I've never taken it seriously, I have only played with the idea.

Tonight we got together for our usual Thursday evening social. She went and sat next to another guy (also a friend). But that's nothing strange, we are a mixed bunch. However during the evening I saw her starting to lean in his direction ... and I realized "Oh shyte! Here it comes". The leaning became more pronounced and at the end it was a deliberate snuggle in front of our whole group of single men and women.

Now imagine me sitting across from them, stone-faced, twiddling my thumbs, not laughing at some good jokes being told. I am shocked. I feel weak, almost paralyzed. But have no reason to be shocked. I should be happy for them, but I'm not. To make matters worse, I'm sure she picked up my slightly strange behavior (I also excused myself a bit early). And to make matters MUCH worse our group of friends are going camping tomorrow. This is a crap situation and I'm feeling pathetic.

EDIT: There is no connection between this post and my sig. It's a mere coincidence.


Eish stuck in the friendship zone :D
 
my story is a bit different...

I was still in high school, my brother and sister were staying with my dad in another smaller town where he started his own it business, and was doing well - they came home over weekends.

Ok, so we were staying on a farm, and were always taught about the various dangers and what to be one the lookout for. One day while going to check up on where the cow and calf was, I walked past our worker's house, and saw the door was not closed and locked (and I knew he wasn't around).

So instead of going to check it out by myself, I immediately went back home to go and call my mom. She took the shotgun and sambok and went back with me.

When she pushed the door open, there was another black man (don't who he was, as it was definitely not our worker) in the room. He was lying on the floor. When the door opened up, he sat up. My mom asked him who he was and what he was doing there. Instead of answering, he tried to get up and grab the shotgun. The gun went off, blew the bottom part of his face away.

It took me quite a while to get over this...

I can only imagine. It takes a while to subdue traumatic events like that.
 
It sounds like your head thought of her as a friend but your heart knew better
 
my story is a bit different...

I was still in high school, my brother and sister were staying with my dad in another smaller town where he started his own it business, and was doing well - they came home over weekends.

Ok, so we were staying on a farm, and were always taught about the various dangers and what to be one the lookout for. One day while going to check up on where the cow and calf was, I walked past our worker's house, and saw the door was not closed and locked (and I knew he wasn't around).

So instead of going to check it out by myself, I immediately went back home to go and call my mom. She took the shotgun and sambok and went back with me.

When she pushed the door open, there was another black man (don't who he was, as it was definitely not our worker) in the room. He was lying on the floor. When the door opened up, he sat up. My mom asked him who he was and what he was doing there. Instead of answering, he tried to get up and grab the shotgun. The gun went off, blew the bottom part of his face away.

It took me quite a while to get over this...

Hard to erase those images.

When I was at university, one of the subjects I took was Forensic Medicine and one of the topics we covered was 'gunshot wounds'.

Our lecturer was the District Surgeon, so he brought his 'best' gunshot wound slides to show us.

All I can say is: pictures of people committing suicide by putting a gun in their mouths and pulling the trigger are not for the fainthearted.
 
Oddly enough, yes :p

Interesting.

I've always thought that they hop to the next guy and have massive amounts of fun - forgetting about the boyfriend (regardless of time with him) and not caring about him at all.

Thanks for enlightening me ;)
 
Interesting.

I've always thought that they hop to the next guy and have massive amounts of fun - forgetting about the boyfriend (regardless of time with him) and not caring about him at all.

Thanks for enlightening me ;)

Strange, I've always thought similarly about guys... ;)
 
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